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[feline groovy]

[september]

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@KathyPet wrote:

Am I getting this correctly?  You are in the middle of divorcing your husband but you are still living in the same house together?  That is certainly a unusual and rather bizarre arrangement.

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It is not that unusual. I've known of several couples who did this, including my sister.  Not all divorcing couples are at each other's throats. Some just want to separate but not create hostile atmospheres for their children.  My sister's ex now lives a few blocks away and they still have dinner as a family a few nights a week. 

[CouponQueen]

My aunt and uncle were one such couple who did that...divorced and my aunt didn't have the funds to live alone..so they lived together in their apt..separate rooms etc..

He was a nasty old drunk and she eventually, with the help of her children. able to afford a very small studio apt. 

I also have a friend who divorced on very amicable terms lived together for many years. She moved at retirement to be near her sisters.

[Lipstickdiva]

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@KathyPet wrote:

Am I getting this correctly?  You are in the middle of divorcing your husband but you are still living in the same house together?  That is certainly a unusual and rather bizarre arrangement.

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It's actually not unusual at all.  I'm not sure where OP lives but here in Ohio, one spouse cannot kick the other out so to speak.  You cannot pack up your spouse's belongings and toss it out in the yard or have it moved. You cannot change the locks on the house so one spouse can no longer gain entry.

One spouse has to voluntarily leave and if they don't, they live together until the divorce is final and someone is awarded the marital home.  It actually happens quite a bit.

[missy1]

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@Lipstickdiva wrote:

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@KathyPet wrote:

Am I getting this correctly?  You are in the middle of divorcing your husband but you are still living in the same house together?  That is certainly a unusual and rather bizarre arrangement.

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It's actually not unusual at all.  I'm not sure where OP lives but here in Ohio, one spouse cannot kick the other out so to speak.  You cannot pack up your spouse's belongings and toss it out in the yard or have it moved. You cannot change the locks on the house so one spouse can no longer gain entry.

One spouse has to voluntarily leave and if they don't, they live together until the divorce is final and someone is awarded the marital home.  It actually happens quite a bit.

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That's why I said a judge usually only makes one spouse leave, if there is prior domestic violence. No one has to leave. A mom doesn't want to leave the house, and her kids stay in the home. Either spouse can't change the locks until the house is settled etc.. One spouse can request exclusive occupancy, where only one of them lives in the home. 

[kitten809in]

in answer to the question about serving the divorce papers. I served them on him myself. he is the type of man wh thinks all women are only good for having babies and keeping house. e said this after we had een married for  while. another time I was coplaing about cooking andhe said if i didn't cook he would stop paying the bills. Money is his world so I hirt him where it would hurt the most, in his wallet. I have always been kind of independent and kept my own bank account , bought my own clothes and paid my own bills. was a widow for 10years before I married again so now I am  going to be single again ,and it is better to be happy than in a bad marriage. Also he likes to thin he is a bully, but I don't buy that attitude and just walk away when he puffs up.

[feline groovy]

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@kitten809in wrote:

in answer to the question about serving the divorce papers. I served them on him myself. he is the type of man wh thinks all women are only good for having babies and keeping house. e said this after we had een married for  while. another time I was coplaing about cooking andhe said if i didn't cook he would stop paying the bills. Money is his world so I hit him where it would hurt the most, in his wallet. I have always been kind of independent and kept my own bank account , bought my own clothes and paid my own bills. was a widow for 10years before I married again so now I am  going to be single again ,and it is better to be happy than in a bad marriage. Also he likes to thin he is a bully, but I don't buy that attitude and just walk away when he puffs up.

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