re: divorce post update

kitten809in · ‎09-27-2010

i posted some time ago that I had filed for divorce. My att put me in touch with appraiser for all the properties( 2 houses,2 trucks,a boat and householdfurnishing. My appraiser came and took pictures and wrote down each room in the house where I lie. It was well worth the cost. His appraiser has yet to come ( he did hire a lawyer). when we had the taxes done. he asked how we would the split. I told him since he had my name taken off joint accounts the checks would have to be mailed to the residence. so far only the state tax check has arived. I have appointment with my lawyer monday the 25th. I have asked husband about a mediator. He won't answer that question. When all of this started we were going to church together. I have been going alone since 3/23/2016. This man is giving me the silent tretment. But that is nothing new, he has never been a talker,and his attitude has always been this way. Am looking forward to the move to be with family and friends. Grandson has bought a house for us to share and has sent me pictures of the progress of new roof (it"s looking good) now to just get this divorce over with. Oh had my lawyer request a new judge as his daughter-in- law work for the judge who was to hear the divorce. no telling what she has told her boss. Thanks to all you ladies who gave me great advice. About 30 more days and we should be going t court.

adoreqvc · ‎03-09-2010

Hi kitten809in,

So far it sounds like you are well prepared, and ready to proceed.

I hope it all goes very smoothly, and you are treated extremely fairly.

Your future place sounds really nice, and I pray you will find happiness there with your family.

Divorce is never easy, but being unhappily married to someone who gives you the silent treatment, or chooses to hear only what he wants to hear is far worse.

Better to have no husband, than have a cold uncaring husband who refuses to communicate in an honest, respectful, caring, adult manner.

Good luck, sending prayers and blessings to you and your family, and please do keep us updated with all your progress, as you do have friends here who have offered good advice.

They all will be so happy to read your update, and glad you will soon be in a better environment to make choices which are wonderful for you, and your family.

"Take heart my dear because.....God willing....The Best Is Yet To Come".

Ms X · ‎09-13-2012

I'm glad you're doing well with your plans and what sounds like good guidance from your attorney. I find your husband's behavior curious, bizarre even. It sounds as if he's said little to nothing about this. How is it possible for him to live with someone who is in the process of divorcing him and say nothing? Soon that won't be your problem, though. It sounds to me as if you have had enough and are ready to move on. Best of luck to you!

P.S.: Has he already been served the papers? If not, I'd ask the lawyer about the best way to go about serving someone who might try to avoid being served. I don't want to bring up problems that don't exist, but he might be trying to pretend this isn't happening on some level. Certainly, not telling him what's coming when might be something to consider. I knew someone whose husband avoided being served for quite some time. They weren't living together at the time, though, so it was easier for him to play this game. I hope it's not counterproductive for me to raise this issue.

Witchy Woman · ‎03-15-2010

I admire your strength and resolve to get this behind you.

Your progress in doing so is amazing and I hope you find the peace and happiness you deserve.

You have shown you mean business and it's obvious your soon-to-be exhusband does not have half the courage you do.

Congratuations on being a woman with a plan!

masque · ‎04-05-2014

Freudian slip?

MaggieMack · ‎10-01-2014

One of the greatest freedoms we women can discover is that of finding our voices. You found yours! Joy will follow.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. - Aesop

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

What a nice Grandson!

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

Glad to hear you are moving on with your life. I wish you all the best.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

I am so happy for you.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@Ms X wrote:
I'm glad you're doing well with your plans and what sounds like good guidance from your attorney. I find your husband's behavior curious, bizarre even. It sounds as if he's said little to nothing about this. How is it possible for him to live with someone who is in the process of divorcing him and say nothing? Soon that won't be your problem, though. It sounds to me as if you have had enough and are ready to move on. Best of luck to you!

P.S.: Has he already been served the papers? If not, I'd ask the lawyer about the best way to go about serving someone who might try to avoid being served. I don't want to bring up problems that don't exist, but he might be trying to pretend this isn't happening on some level. Certainly, not telling him what's coming when might be something to consider. I knew someone whose husband avoided being served for quite some time. They weren't living together at the time, though, so it was easier for him to play this game. I hope it's not counterproductive for me to raise this issue.

Since her soon to be ex lives there, he will be served. The very last resort is a sheriff serving him (costs a lot).