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[PIT-HAG Melissa]

((( Velveteen Bunny)))

I can relate to an OVER-bearing father (also lost my mom to Lung cancer)..

Won't get into it but know you are not alone!

When my mom was sick I wrote in a journal about my frustrations... A LOT!

[velveteenb]

gosh darn it. i didn't save it and now it's floating about in cyberspace. i'm too sleepy to try again tonight. dam*.

bunny. tdcr.

ps i really did reply to each and every one of you, i promise. i have occupational and physical therapy in the morning. if i'm not too pooped, i'll peek in, in the afternoon. otherwise it might not be 'til lateish on Thursday. gosh darn it.

[Lynnj]

On 5/6/2014 minkbunny said:

my dear velvet bunny,

I just want to reach out, hug you, tell you that you are not alone, and send you serene thoughts.

Mink, one of my favorite bunnies. Where have you been? Come visit us on the Yankees thread and say hi to the gals.

[jubilant]

I wished I knew what to say to you, velveteen. It brings tears to my eyes when I hear what some of the women here have gone through.

[Lotus]

sweet velveteenb.....you KNOW you have a special place in my heart.

I wish I could wave my magic wand and give you some peace in your life, but alas, I don't have that special power. All I can do is to keep you in my prayers.

Hang in there.....

[velveteenb]

hihi --

yeah, i know it's not Thursday, but i did promise and here i am.

lilypadfrog - thank you. i did try to be who they wanted, at least into college. by then it was becoming obvious that my sister fit much better their expectations of a daughter. blonde, popular, cheerleader. i think later, when she started drinking too much and experimenting with drugs, they liked that too (following in their footsteps). anyway ... the big, fat, lesbian who insisted on working in theaters just was never going to marry a man, buy a house with a picket fence and produce grandchildren and we all knew it. while i can't walk away, i'm giving myself more leeway.

mistriTsquirrel - i am so sorry that you understand so well. sorry also that your brother is acting the way he is. i know how complicated being caught in a family can be. the statements that your parents were masters at the art of "m f g" and you were your father's advocate are only a tad jarring to me. i know there are years of history behind your words and decisions. good for you for sticking to your guns and knowing you did your best.

just bee - do you know that there are people who tried to convince me that either i chose to be born into this family or i deserved it? all sorts of self-proclaimed believers in karma who said i was working through ways i'd tortured others in previous lives and my current life was completely my fault and what i deserved. yeah. so i really appreciate your declaration on the other end of the spectrum!

gonna see if this posts before i write more.

bunny. tdcr.

[velveteenb]

ha! it worked!

to continue:

BettyWrecks - thank you, but it's okay. it is. or at least, i know there are so many things for which i am grateful.

CouponQueen - so good to see you again! wow, but you have a good memory! yes, i am financially dependent on them. my disability application is still in limbo. yes, she was/is complicit and he was/is an abuser (more specific words are not allowed here). thank you for posting. i hope you are doing well.

tansy - thank you for thinking about me and for letting me know. given the background noise of "no one cares about you, no one wants you, you don't know how lucky you are to have us" that i grew up with, i still appreciate hearing that you were thinking about me and wish me well. no, i did not go to her medical appointment.

bunny. tdcr. (more to come.)

[JuJu Squeezie]

It's a shame this man is your mother's care taker when she is so dependent and ill.

I don't think there's any more for you to learn, sitting quietly or not.

Keep your self healthy and do or don't do, you'll get the same feedback either way.

You know when you stop to reason his mess out that you cannot make any sense out of nonsense.

Sorry

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I just read your post bunny (yes, this is gate). He touches you inappropriately? How horrible . I don't blame you at all for not wanting to talk to him.

Reading your posts all the years you've been on the boards tells me you are a good-hearted person and consistently so. Take care of yourself. You deserve the best.

ETA gato not gate. Dumb spellcheck.