Re: "Save the Date" announcements, and what they m... - Page 6

proudlyfromNJ · ‎05-01-2010

@Isobel Archer wrote:
@151949 wrote:
It sounds like they have an A list and a B list and the B listers only get invited if an A lister isn't attending. I would just toss the save the day unless an actual invitation follows. Gift or not as you please but it would certainly not be required.
So then what it really means is - please don't schedule anything else on this date because if we can't fill the room with those we really want, we'll send you an invite. And since people don't always respond quickly, that invite might be really last minute. So if you haven't heard from us by the day before, it's probably OK for you to go ahead and do something else (if you haven't already turned that down waiting for us to decide)?????

Wow.

That's not it at all. If you get a save a date card, you will get an invitation. On the save a date card, it says "invitation to follow".

Sunshine Kate · ‎03-10-2010

I got a "Save the Date" a few weeks ago from my niece that will be married in August.

I know I'll get a formal wedding invitation and I will surely attend.

Some of the other posters have stated they think they are a waste of money and I agree.

I think wedding invitations are supposed to be mailed about a month in advance anyway. I usually have ample time to plan.

terriebear · ‎09-26-2010

I would inquire about the wedding. I have always had an invitation show up in the mail when receiving a save the date card in the mail. This is the new way to block out this particular date on the calendar meaning an invitation is to follow. Maybe the wedding has been called off, or your invite was lost in the mail. But if it is less than one month out from the wedding date, I would inquire. Almost all brides/grooms send out save the date cards now days.

jaxs mom · ‎04-18-2012

I've never seen a save the date card be used in place of an invitation.

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NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@proudlyfromNJ wrote:
On both my Save the Date cards, it states "formal invitation to follow".

I've received many "Save the Dates", and in my experience they're not that new. I've been receiving them for years. In any case, yes - I have never received one that didn't have the line, "Formal invitation to follow" right on it.

Maybe it's because my friends and family are scattered all over the world, but I appreciate the early heads-up. The purpose is simply to let people know the date of the wedding, so they can keep the date free if they'd like to and so they can plan accordingly.

Usually it states the date and location (September 15, 2016 - New York City, for example), and also says that the invitation will follow. I have never received a Save the Date without also getting an invitation.

I don't find them the slightest bit offensive. No one is saying that you HAVE TO save the date. And I've never heard of anyone sending a gift based on receiving a Save The Date, so I don't see at all how it's a gift grab. All they're doing is letting you know ahead of time, which is actually pretty helpful to people who are very busy, don't live locally, etc. The whole thing is really pretty simple - Keep the date free if it's a wedding you'd like to attend, and if not, then just go about your life! It's information, not a command.

(OP, maybe in your case the wedding was called off or delayed. Or maybe your invitation was lost in the mail. I haven't read all of the replies yet - Maybe this has already been resolved.)

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@colliemom4 wrote:
I received one several months ago for a wedding in August. It does say I'm invited to the wedding, however it's very cheesy looking. It looks like a post card. I'm glad I took a good look at it or I may have thrown it away thinking it was junk mail. I'm not trying to be mean. It's just that this particular item I was sent is certainly like nothing I've ever seen before. The people that sent it aren't hurting for money either.

A lot of them look like postcards. And usually they're very simple. The purpose is just to let guests know the date. I've received some very elaborate ones, but many are not overly done and not ridiculously expensive.

Whether or not the people are hurting for money, good for them that they're choosing not to spend a fortune on Save the Dates!

Hayfield · ‎03-10-2010

I have received "Save the Date" postcards and even e-mails but I have never received one and then not get an invitation to the wedding. I thought the purpose of sending some a "Save the Date" notice was so that you kept the date open. Once we did plan a little "mini-vacation" around the date.

Isobel Archer · ‎04-04-2015

@proudlyfromNJ wrote:
@Isobel Archer wrote:
@151949 wrote:
It sounds like they have an A list and a B list and the B listers only get invited if an A lister isn't attending. I would just toss the save the day unless an actual invitation follows. Gift or not as you please but it would certainly not be required.
So then what it really means is - please don't schedule anything else on this date because if we can't fill the room with those we really want, we'll send you an invite. And since people don't always respond quickly, that invite might be really last minute. So if you haven't heard from us by the day before, it's probably OK for you to go ahead and do something else (if you haven't already turned that down waiting for us to decide)?????

Wow.
That's not it at all. If you get a save a date card, you will get an invitation. On the save a date card, it says "invitation to follow".

What thread are you responding to? If that were the case what is the OP talking about then? Clearly her save the date card did NOT say invitation to follow and the fact that she has received no invitation as yet is the point of her post - asking just what the save the date actually means.