Re: private messages?

sunala · ‎03-09-2010

@blueluna wrote:
@sunala wrote:
@proudlyfromNJ wrote:
@blueluna wrote:
@gidgetgh wrote:
@Smoky wrote:
I am one of the less popular posters and heaven forbid any sort of private messaging would be initiated... For some of us it's bad enough being shredded publicly.. I shiver to think how horrible it would be with PM's.. Glad it isn't in the works!!!

@Suziepeach- I totally agree.

That ship has sailed though.
Some posters shared email addys before the mods clamped down tighter on that and they gossip about posters via email.
Also there are 3 other sites (maybe more) where some of your fellow posters rip and shred Q posters and mods daily. They also copy and paste PMs and personal email messages and openly share them. Be careful who you trust.

@blueluna You sure got that right. Need to watch those other sites.

@bluelunayou can't watch these rogue boards because they're private. If you knew what went on over there, your head would spin. Better you don't know, because chances are they're not your friends anyway. I know from experience.

@sunalaI know.
I registered on 2 of the "private" boards so I do read them. And fyi one of your personal emails to a member who is clearly an ex-friend was posted on one of the boards for all members to see and gossip about. It's a disgusting group of people.

@bluelunathanks for letting me know, but it doesn't bother me. I know who it is. That board, aside from a few lovely people who I can't figure out why they're posting there, are vicious and hateful.

I don't need any of them in my life. Feh.

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ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Gee, I'd love to private message a few posters. Noel, Lola, and others. Maybe a limit of one per week? or something similar. Otherwise: Trouble is that they would probably recieve tons and tons of messages (in total, from all of the other posters). Very time consuming, I can only imagine.

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I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

Is your name J E N N Y by any chance lol -

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chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

It isn't, but how funny would that be!

Since numbers were going down, I figured I'd haunt everybody with that one.

ladyroxanne · ‎03-09-2010

not a good idea and there is no resason that i can think of for anyone to pm me. if you can't say it to me here then i'm not interested in what you have to say.

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

I am against PMs because it will only lead to people talking about other people behind their backs.

Also, you may think that someone is your "friend", so you pm each other back and forth, until one day, that so-called "friend" publicly posts your once private messages.

So not worth having that here.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

It could also lead to posters ganging up on someone ,or some topic they don't like ,or agree with

The mods would have a hard time trying to control this.

Mmsfoxxie · ‎06-19-2010

@ladyroxanne wrote:
not a good idea and there is no resason that i can think of for anyone to pm me. if you can't say it to me here then i'm not interested in what you have to say.

I feel the same way @ladyroxanne. I think that when the personal emails are exchanged and IMs done, more than likely it is for gossipping about another poster. I'm not saying I never gossip but I don't want to be encouraged.

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Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
I am against PMs because it will only lead to people talking about other people behind their backs.

Also, you may think that someone is your "friend", so you pm each other back and forth, until one day, that so-called "friend" publicly posts your once private messages.

So not worth having that here.

I've been on discussion forums and groups since 1993. It takes people awhile to learn, based on their experiences, that however much you believe it and/or want to believe it, people may not be your friend in the end. The first couple of times it surprises and hurts; after that you understand the realities of interacting online and you stop making the same mistake.

"Oh, but of course it happens to *you* - you're mean and nasty and nobody likes you. It would never happen to *me* because I'm Miz Niceperson and I only chat lovingly with other Nicepeople."

Wrong. I have been people's best beloved boo-boo sweetie luv who they will love forever and ever and simply adore. I know because they told me so. But one misunderstood email comment or difference of opinion and the knives are unsheathed and you may be cut to ribbons, confidences betrayed, posts revealed, etc.

Or they may have told you that you were best beloved just to see what they could get out of you, info and admission-wise, and they never liked you at all. It happens.

I don't even feel sorry any more for those it happens to, after they swear it will NEVER happen to THEM, blahblahblah. Hehehehe....

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libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

@jaxs mom wrote:
@libbyannE wrote:
Terrible idea! Even if sent in friendship, I would not want to be open to receiving emails from strangers.
private messaging isn't the same as email. PMs are hosted on the website/forum and are sent between usernames. Email addresses aren't used and your real name isn't available using PMs.

I've posted on many forums that have PMs. It's not an issue. If someone were dumb enough to send something against the UA, they'd get a warning and eventually banned. Of course the other forums I post on are much tighter with their rules and enforcement.

Yes, I know, and that's a really good point, but to me, it is a bad idea. I would not want that. What kind of a message can't be shared with the group?