Community Chat

[ladyroxanne]

we've had a rough time this year and i concentrate on the statement

"time heals all wounds".  i keep that in mind because we;ve been through things that we have had no control over before.

[corita]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

To me, acceptance is giving up or giving in. It's not something I'm  willing to do. For the most part, I believe people get what they deserve. 

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         I have always preferred the word "tolerate"!!  I may not like it, but I put up with it!!  My favorite saying - "It is what it is - just deal with it"!  This motto has helped me get through many hard times in life!!

[Noel7]

We do not have to tolerate evil or corruption.

[jubilant]

I guess it depends on what you are trying to survive.  As far as surviving difficult people who continually bring pain, havoc, and chaos into our lives, I feel the best way to survive that is to let them know you will not accept their abusive behavior.  What you DO have to accept is the fact that, while you hope some day they will change, they very well might never change. You will be the one, more than likely that has to say....I don't accept this and I won't live like this. No one survives well in a toxic relationship.  Thankfully, I have only had to confront very few people like this and it is not something I ever enjoy doing. If you do enjoy it....then I would say, you better take a long hard look at yourself.

[deedledeedeedle]

I don't like this question at all as it is quite personal. Hopefully we are doing more than "surviving". If you sit and dwell on a situation I find it doesn't improve it at all. Put one foot in front of the other, pull yourself up by the boot straps, give yourself a good kick in the rear, or stay in bed and pull the covers up over your head. You get to decide. The human connection is so important so don't pull away from those that love you. Take good care of yourself, shut out negative thoughts and people, and develop a spirit of gratitude. (Read 1,000 gifts by Ann Voskamp).

dee

[ShowMe]

I find that being positive has been my survival.....for the past almost 2 years I have been battling cancer.....  Go for a treatment every other week.  That really takes a lot out of me for a few days.  This is something I will probably have to do for the rest of my life unless they come out with a pill that can do the same thing.  I am 76.

I live alone, my sister lives in San Antonio.  She celebrated her 79th birthday Friday......  We neither one had any children....so we are both alone.  She has been coming to be with me twice a year since I've been going through this, and we never know how long this can continue. 

I thank God daily that I have come this far, and believe being positive has made this possible. 

[chickenbutt]

Staying positive is a constant struggle for me.  If somethig is bad, it's bad.  I can't put a wig on it and call it ok.

I have a daily struggle to survive, to be perfectly honest.  I really don't have any worth anymore.  I don't contribute to the world in any meaningful way because I just don't have the tools or the will anymore.

I have been a survivor since I was a little kid who had very bad things happening to her.  Honestly, one of the ways I survived the most was just to be numb.  Feeling nothing is better than feeling bad.

I go through my days, each no different than the last, and try to find  bits of joy in little things that make me smile.  I try to keep my mind occupied with things that stimulate it.   I don't have a lot of will left, beyond that.

[goldensrbest]

@chickenbutt, can we be friends, i feel the same? Just tired of trying.

[Burnsite]

@chickenbutt, We don't post together often but I so admire your courage and honesty. You're an excellent community member here for sure.

Hang in there, I am sure everyone on the Forums is wishing you well.

[corita]

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@Noel7 wrote:

We do not have to tolerate evil or corruption.

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Agree...nor accept it. Unfortunately they will always be there!!

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