Re: Would You Charge Rent?

Harpa · ‎03-10-2010

Yes. They would have to pay something. But a few days visit? No.

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

I pay rent and mow the lawn and handle anything else the household requires. I moved back after my stepfather unexpectedly died.

It's reduced from what I would pay an outside landlord, but it's absolutely the right thing to do as the adult child. You don't live somewhere for free, related or not.

Doesn't have to be cash money, but it does need to be a contribution of some kind. Bills go up when more people are in the home. If you can't pay a bill, take one away by doing the shopping, cooking a meal, paying utilities, or keeping up the yard. It all counts.

HLP · ‎04-02-2015

@patbz wrote:
My adult son did move back in with us in his mid 20s. We don't charge rent, lent him an older car for his exclusive use. He pays us a sum every two weeks that covers his car insurance, phone bill and the car insurance on that car. He has also been responsible for car repairs and upkeep ( that includes new tires, 200,000 MI checkup and a brake jpb). He helps around the house, he volunteered $4000 towards new windows, takes us out to dinner, etc

Congratulation Mom, You raised a wonderful Son. Mine would also be this responseable.Most everyone can have a child, you have to work to make sure you rear a responseable one.

Marp · ‎03-09-2010

@HLP wrote:
@aj1980 wrote:
If your adult child needed to move back home, would you charge them rent or let them come free of charge?
I would never charge my child. He's married but if he wasn't Id be overly happy to have him back.Thats how I feel about my Son, if you have issues, remember you raised him.

Wow @HLP, that is quite an unwarranted leap. The implication that @aj1980 has issues with her son or that she didn't do a good job raising him is beyond the pale.

Wonder how your much loved son feels about a mother that is so judgemental without a basis for any judgement at all.

What is good for the goose today will also be good for the gander tomorrow.

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

I would not. I would want them to be able to get out of the situation they were in, and be able to get back on track.

Life happens to responsible people too.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

No, we do not charge rent.

He came home after college. He lived in a house with 5 other boys at college. They were going to rent a house together after college. UNTIL, the one guy that had a good paying job was laid off. It was "last in first out" being laid off. So he had to move back home with his parents. His parents lived 100 miles from where "the guys" were going to rent a house. Some of the other guys did not find jobs. They ended up moving back with their parents.

My son was the only one who had a job. So the plan just died a slow death.

Then he was going to get an apartment with his best friend. But that changed when his friend started dating a girl and they got married.

He has now worked for 5 different companies since college. Each one was sold. And each sale was worse than before. One sale the company that was bought had 52 employees. The company that bought them, only kept 2. My son was one.

My son has been working 80 hours a week. And there have been numerous lay offs in his field. He has no job security.

So we figure he will inherit any assets we have. So why bother to charge him rent. Besides rent in our area is $$$$. He would have little for his other activities if he paid rent. And he so so little time to go out and have fun with friends. Would rather him have the money to go enjoy the things he would like to do.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

If an adult child moves home to care for an ill parent, should the adult charge their parent for their care? It goes both ways.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@aj1980 wrote:
If your adult child needed to move back home, would you charge them rent or let them come free of charge?

I would never charge him or her rent. But that can backfire dependent upon your child. My MIL welcomed my brother in law back at 27 and he never moved out. He's still living in his childhood home at 74.😳 He never paid her a cent in rent and in her latter years lived off her two pensions and social security. My husband's sister moved back with my MIL after a failed marriage at 35. She never left either. She's 77. My MIL was a saint.

Mindy D · ‎05-23-2010

Free, but if they are working, especially with decent pay, might ask them to help out with groceries and some home expenses. If they were flat broke, I wouldn't expect any money from them.