Community Chat

[Jacie]

I remember, years ago, I moved back to my parents home between apartments. They did not charge me rent. But then, as my Mom told me later, I bought groceries for all of us regularly, cleaned and was never "a problem".

My brother, when in the same circumstance, was charged rent. To this day he is still a hot mess.

[HLP]

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@Marp wrote:

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@HLP wrote:

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@aj1980 wrote:

If your adult child needed to move back home, would you charge them rent or let them come free of charge?

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I would never charge my child. He's married but if he wasn't Id be overly happy to have him back.Thats how I feel about my Son, if you have issues, remember you raised him.

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Wow @HLP, that is quite an unwarranted leap.  The implication that @aj1980 has issues with her son or that she didn't do a good job raising him is beyond the pale.

Wonder how your much loved son feels about a mother that is so judgemental without a basis for any judgement at all.

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He's 66 years old and he's my best friend too. I wasn't being judgemental I was stating a fact.

[stevieb]

Like most broadly stated questions, there's not enough information to respond. Whether or not rent is appropriate or even feasible depends on several key variables, none of which is addressed.

[bmorechick]

Out of our 4 adult children, two are still home. Our 28 yo son had an apartment with a roomie, but enrolled back in school for his masters, so in order to pay his tuition he asked if it would be ok to come back home.  Of course, it was.  He works a full time job, classes part time. No we do not charge him anything. This is his home.  He does buy specific foods he wants if I don't have it or buy it and typically picks up the tab when we eat out, which we rarely do.  He will move on after graduation.  Our 34 year old son also still lives at home, but he's gone 6 months out of the year for work.  Love it when he comes back and no, he's not charged either.  We have a very close, adult, boundary relationship with all of our adult children, so we love being together.  We do not get in their business at all.  It's nice that we are all still working, so no issues over money.

My daughter lovingly calls this the family "frat house" because she says it's always fun over here!

[skatting44]

   Yes,  if they have a job  and  needed to move back to pay down creditors because  of them being are overly in debt .

I would have to see proof that they are  actually paying their creditors , if debt was the issue .

If, they needed to move back because rent is so high and their salary won't cover all the expenses  than , yes they could move in . I would encourage them to save as much as possible so they could eventually buy a house rather than rent .

No matter the reason , if I said yes to a child moving back home , they would have to help  with chores at home and have a job.

[THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes]

I don't believe for a second the unequivocal NO!s

He is ( almost always a son) a successful,  highly compensated Wall Street banker, but if he wants to come home, rent free, no expenses, long term, no questions, sure!

[IMW]

No, unless I really needed the $.

[ScrapHappy]

No.  I told me daughter our door is always open, no matter what and that we wouldn't charge her.

[BoopOMatic]

 My late sister lived with my mother for many years and never paid a dime in rent.

 My mother wouldn't have dreamed of charging her, of course.

 She was a hermit and a hoarder.

 I have a brother-in-law that lived with his parents their entire lives, never paid a dime. I guess it's common.

 Oh the stories I could tell.....

[Effie54]

I would charge rent, at least some amount. The amount would depending on financial circumstances. I think it teaches children responsibility. My best friend let her daughter come back home to live; she's almost 40, and never moved out on her own. To me, it's enabling.