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[Marp]

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@HLP wrote:

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@Marp wrote:

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@HLP wrote:

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@aj1980 wrote:

If your adult child needed to move back home, would you charge them rent or let them come free of charge?

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I would never charge my child. He's married but if he wasn't Id be overly happy to have him back.Thats how I feel about my Son, if you have issues, remember you raised him.

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Wow @HLP, that is quite an unwarranted leap.  The implication that @aj1980 has issues with her son or that she didn't do a good job raising him is beyond the pale.

Wonder how your much loved son feels about a mother that is so judgemental without a basis for any judgement at all.

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He's 66 years old and he's my best friend too. I wasn't being judgemental I was stating a fact.

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@HLP, precisely what "fact" were you stating?  The only possible fact you stated related to how you feel about your son.

There is not a single fact in the OP beyond using the phrase "needed to move back home".  No mention of @aj1980's relationship with her son, the reason why he needs to move back home or a single word about how she personally feels about the situation.

An unambiguous question is not a fact.  Your response went well beyond answering the question to innuendo about both the son and the OP.

[Goldengate8361]

Maybe send them to Dr. Phil? I think this is a frequent show topic. I like Dr. Phil.

[KingstonMom]

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@They CallMe MRWILKES wrote:

I don't believe for a second the unequivocal NO!s

He is ( almost always a son) a successful,  highly compensated Wall Street banker, but if he wants to come home, rent free, no expenses, long term, no questions, sure!

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@They CallMe MRWILKES 

You don't have to believe it......

[reiki604]

I think the answers to this question answers the one about why more woman are living on there own and not getting seriously involved with men who are still being taken care of by mommy with no responsibility for their maintainance. 

[GenXmuse]

I would and I have. 

[They CallMe MRWILKES]

Fascinating,  highly Oedipal responses in play.

Dr. Phil material and beyond.

Why are so many "adult men" still being taken care of by Mommy?

Inquiring minds and all.  Creepy strange. 

[Ronettes]

LOL!

[FiddleDeeDee]

My parents charged me rent. My in-laws charged my DH and his brothers rent. We charged our sons rent. The ONLY time this did not happen was if the person was a full time college student. 

If you're an adult working full time in the real world, you would have to pay rent to someone. Mom and Dad are not your personal bank nor your dumping ground when times get tough. ALL that said, we don't charge the going rate (though I know many who do) because the reason we or our sons lived at home was because of the need to save money so the rent is low. They pay for their own food and do work around the house because they are living here and the work needs to be done by all.

In addition, we chose to bank their rent and then give it back to them when they moved out; a big surprise and one we believe they truly appreciated. Our parents did NOT do that for us.

[wagirl]

Absolutely------I charged my working adult kids rent the few times they moved back in with me. I paid rent when I moved back in with my folks the only time I did-----

[scatcat]

No.

But I don't for see it happening and I'm sure people that do have their reasons