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[grandma r]

@Sweetbay magnolia .Good luck.  At his age it may be harder to become a team player after being his own boss.  Hopefully he will adapt sooner than later.  Maybe he is trying to impress everyone because he feels a bit insecure.

[Shanus]

@Sweetbay magnolia. I know this situation stinks and makes work harder.

It’s true you have seniority on your side, but sometimes those that are “s*it disturbers” get in more trouble than they anticipated. As difficult as it may be, bite your tongue and the bosses will see he’s not a team player. He’ll be out before you know it. 

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Good point.  And he's a man who does not like to be upstaged by women who know better. Condescension does not play well with me.

Love your insight!  Thank you.

[Sweetbay magnolia]

@Shanus, you could very well be right.

We work very hard in all sorts of weather and the last thing we need is this schmo trying to prove something.  Sometimes the days just happen and we go with it.  I can't have someone up my back judging  my actions when I'm just trying to get it done.

Your beagle cuff, BTW, is lovely.

[Shanus]

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@Sweetbay magnolia wrote:

@Shanus, you could very well be right.

We work very hard in all sorts of weather and the last thing we need is this schmo trying to prove something.  Sometimes the days just happen and we go with it.  I can't have someone up my back judging  my actions when I'm just trying to get it done.

Your beagle cuff, BTW, is lovely.

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Chin up @Sweetbay magnolia. Thanks for the compliment on the cuff. 😘

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Trust me - that chin will not take a knock unless I fall, and I'm very careful.

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Thanks, @Goldengate8361.  Our business is unique, and so are the people who work there - this guy doesn't understand it is not a cut-and-dried affair.

That's one of the reasons I enjoy working there.  Efficiency is not necessarily the name of the game.

[Mominohio]

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@Sweetbay magnolia wrote:

I've worked at my current company for 14 years - we now have a "new guy" who seems to want to shake up the staus quo, even though he admits this is just an interim gig, while he sorts out options (he ran his own business until recently, when economic changes made that less than feasible).  He told me he was in the throes of a "mid-life crisis".

The problem is, he doesn't understand our business, so mostly we (the "regulars") find his suggestions to be un-helpful, but he keeps trying to impose his will, which makes the day-to-day at times difficult.  I ask myself, why?  If you are not going to make this your livelihood, why can't you just go along with the group?  That's how we roll!  (Another sign that he just doesn't "get it".)  There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow here; it's just work!

I'm trying to damp down my animosity but it gets to me.  Thoughts?

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I feel your pain.

And my bigger question when this sort of thing has happened to me, is why is my company investing in someone who is obviously not committed to 'the cause'?

It says something about upper management and company philosophy that I question and wonder if that is where I want to be.

[AuntG]

You may need to wait until he explores his options and leaves. Hope he is gone very soon.

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Yeah, you're right, MIO.  It's a complicated tale but for the most part it works, for me.  I won't abide this, though.

 Lord knows I am not perfect but I try to do my job well.  

I think this guy blindsided a manager (read:  saw weakness) and the manager got caught up in a tangled web.  Then, naturally, the s*^t started raining down from on high when other managers started to see a chance to get back for past perceived slights.

I can back down but sometimes I let it be known.