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[traveler]

Well, I do point out some posts here to DH for our amusement.  Then there are the ones we shake our heads and wonder if they are creative writing.  Or how people can be so tiny minded.  Judgemental I know but some of these threads are so entertaining.

[deepwaterdotter]

My friends and family are HORRIFIED to know that I have posted RIGHT HERE, ON THIS BOARD, that I cook in my slow cooker using CANNED SOUP as an ingredient.  It is the shame of the family! 

(But I do have my roll of tp unfurling in the correct direction.)

[IamMrsG]

I do sometimes share with my DH the more interesting conversations on these forums and the one other website I follow.  Sometimes he is interested enough to ask about an outcome, e.g., the thread about the elderly lady that was hit and ultimately killed when she entered the street to walk around a truck that had blocked the sidewalk.  

When I type a post, or in general conversation, I am very mindful of the words I use.  I try to be concise and polite while still being direct and to-the-point.  My parameter for whether or not to click "submit" at the bottom of a post is, "Would I say this in a face-to-face discourse or if my real name were signed at the bottom?"  If not, I edit before submitting.

The anonymity of online conversation has loosened constraints, degrading civility.  I often think back to the lines of a song, "I see your true colors."  I think people reveal more about their characters than they intend or realize; and, with time, you know what to expect when you see someone's name attached to a thread.  

[Shorty2U]

My husband and kids know I read these boards. Period. I dont talk about posting anywhere to anyone. I do chat about QVC in general to family and one friend who used to shop on here.

[MaggieMack]

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@IamMrsG wrote:

I do sometimes share with my DH the more interesting conversations on these forums and the one other website I follow.  Sometimes he is interested enough to ask about an outcome, e.g., the thread about the elderly lady that was hit and ultimately killed when she entered the street to walk around a truck that had blocked the sidewalk.  

When I type a post, or in general conversation, I am very mindful of the words I use.  I try to be concise and polite while still being direct and to-the-point.  My parameter for whether or not to click "submit" at the bottom of a post is, "Would I say this in a face-to-face discourse or if my real name were signed at the bottom?"  If not, I edit before submitting.

The anonymity of online conversation has loosened constraints, degrading civility.  I often think back to the lines of a song, "I see your true colors."  I think people reveal more about their characters than they intend or realize; and, with time, you know what to expect when you see someone's name attached to a thread.  

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@IamMrsG, ITA! Excellent post.

I don't have anyone (as in DH or SO) to share these topics with, but would if I did. Not once, when I mention QVC to a GF, has she ever known what I was talking about. They must have a life! Haha.

If my friends were on the forums, they would certainly recognize me by my posts. Or my avatar. No embellishments, no stories that aren't true, no unkindnesses. I know I can get a point across to a particular poster without being cruel or demeaning back. Just the way my boat sails. 

[ChynnaBlue]

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@Sunshine&rainbows wrote:

Are you here in private from your family and friends? Or do they know the private matters you put out here?

Does your family and friends really know your words that you post here?

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I don't put private matters here. This is a forum on a shopping website.

They know I post here, but I mostly post about WEN, how to use the forums, tech stuff, and beauty products. There's nothing to hide, but there's nothing really worth showing them, either. They don't really need to read about which WEN products I recommend or how to post an avatar on the forum. If I want to recommend a WEN product to them, I do that without a post.

I don't feel the need to share everything I say or do here with anyone. My dad doesn't need to know that I posted a beauty recommendation. If I thought my friends would be interested in the product, I'd just tell them about it instead of showing them my post about it. If I post a technical article about a iPhone update or something here, I often also post it to my Facebook page and email it to my parents.

Are you asking if I would be embarrassed to let my friends and family see what I post here because I somehow behave differently here than I do around them? If so, then no, I would not be. This is the tamest forum I've ever posted in, so there's absolutely nothing said here that would shock or surprise any of them. 

[ChynnaBlue]

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@AliJoi5 wrote:

Hello all!  I think in the broader sense, this is an important topic.  But I wouldn't so much apply it with regard to these boards, because as another poster mentioned, they are exceedingly tame compared to others.  And forums aside, did you ever read the comments section at the bottom of articles/stories posted on MSN and the like?  I had to stop reading (let alone posting to) those comments sections, because they all, no matter the topic, inevitably regress into a crazy, toxic, maelstrom of hate.  phew!  My point is though... and again, I don't think it necessarily applies here except on the limited occasions when a thread really goes to pot before a poofing... but if people lived by the rule that they only post what they would say to others in their private life, we'd be much better off as a species.  That's not to say I don't think we should express ourselves freely of course, but my mother always told me there are two ways to say something.  And if you want to be heard, and keep them listening, for the sake of a mutually productive exchange, choose to say it the right way.  I'm not preaching here, just sharing my approach and opinion.

So, to answer your question OP, I would never express myself here... or any other place on social media... in a way that I wouldn't with friends and family in my personal life.  And, yes, several of them know I post here.  Every now and again, if I learn of a story on here, I might mention... "hey, you know what I read on the Q boards?"  "Everyone seemed to feel 'this way' about it."  "What's your opinion on the topic?"  Etc. and so forth.  And there you have it! 

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NEVER READ THE COMMENTS SECTION! 

The worst of humanity shows up in the comments section on news sites. Recently I read some horrible comments on both C-SPAN and a PBS page and I was so disappointed. I had always assumed that people who watch C-SPAN and PBS are more refined and more intelligent. I was so wrong.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@Sunshine&rainbows wrote:

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@Adelina wrote:

@sunshine&rainbows, could you narrow down your questions and offer a more focused approach.? I am having trouble understanding what the core of these question is.

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@Adelina

I understand, to many questions on my part!

Do your significant others, family or friends, know how you act on this board, do you share with them?

Thank you for asking, I hope this is a more focused approach, if not let me know please.

No harm done if no one shares their truth, just curious.

take care of your self so you can take care of others ~ sunshine&rainbows

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I guess I just find the choice of words a little odd ......    How people "act"  on here?        

No one "shares their truth" ??

I give my opinions,  but I wouldn't even call that "sharing my truth" ..... plain and simple, it's called giving an opinion.    

[Allegheny]

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@ChynnaBlue wrote:

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@AliJoi5 wrote:

Hello all!  I think in the broader sense, this is an important topic.  But I wouldn't so much apply it with regard to these boards, because as another poster mentioned, they are exceedingly tame compared to others.  And forums aside, did you ever read the comments section at the bottom of articles/stories posted on MSN and the like?  I had to stop reading (let alone posting to) those comments sections, because they all, no matter the topic, inevitably regress into a crazy, toxic, maelstrom of hate.  phew!  My point is though... and again, I don't think it necessarily applies here except on the limited occasions when a thread really goes to pot before a poofing... but if people lived by the rule that they only post what they would say to others in their private life, we'd be much better off as a species.  That's not to say I don't think we should express ourselves freely of course, but my mother always told me there are two ways to say something.  And if you want to be heard, and keep them listening, for the sake of a mutually productive exchange, choose to say it the right way.  I'm not preaching here, just sharing my approach and opinion.

So, to answer your question OP, I would never express myself here... or any other place on social media... in a way that I wouldn't with friends and family in my personal life.  And, yes, several of them know I post here.  Every now and again, if I learn of a story on here, I might mention... "hey, you know what I read on the Q boards?"  "Everyone seemed to feel 'this way' about it."  "What's your opinion on the topic?"  Etc. and so forth.  And there you have it! 

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NEVER READ THE COMMENTS SECTION! 

The worst of humanity shows up in the comments section on news sites. Recently I read some horrible comments on both C-SPAN and a PBS page and I was so disappointed. I had always assumed that people who watch C-SPAN and PBS are more refined and more intelligent. I was so wrong.

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I couldn't agree more. Some of the postings I have seen on news sites turn my stomach to realize there are such toxic, truly "ugly" mouthed people out there.

[Bella Carro]

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@Sunshine&rainbows wrote:

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@Bella Carro wrote:

I don't think any friends or family members are the least bit interested in my postings here.  Somehow I just can't see DH giving a second thought to oh say, Wen controversies.  Now, if I was on something like anarchists are us he might have cause for concern.  

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@Bella Carro

Do they know?

Just curious that's all.

Seems some of your friends or family members might be curious a topic of conversation maybe?

take care of your self so you can take care of others ~ sunshine&rainbows

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Do they know?  Know what, exactly?  I attempted to explain to DH how the addition of a phosphate molecule to ascorbic creates MAP and stabilizes it one morning.  His eyes glazed over as much as mine do when he describes poker hands.  

Topics of conversation with family members?  Well, it sure isn't about Q.  My 19 year old son phoned the other day to ask me to help him navigate through issues in the Middle East that were confusing and alarming to him.  We spent thirty minutes discussing the history of the area beginning in the first part of the 20th century, the cultural differences, the effects both world wars had on the politics forming the modern day issues, etc, etc... Those are the type of topics I find time to discuss with family and friends.  I do not run to them to tattle about the latest statements made here.  Although there was one particularly inane one today about septic systems that could warrant a change in that outlook.