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[blackhole99]

Sounds like some BS non credit course, there would have to be a hot prof. and the course would have to be free, for me to waste my time on something like that.

[Snowpuppy]

Not everyone who gets involved or dates someone does it with the intention of marriage or a future of happily ever after.

Problems arise when one assumes that's what another is looking for without having "that talk". In another era, it was pretty much a given that an intimate relationship led to vows.

I think it's become a huge issue when couples live together and one expects a ring while the other only wants a housekeeper with benefits.

[SurferWife]

Turn & run the other way! Physical attraction does not carry a relationship. If there is no true soul rapport, it’s doomed.

[cotton4me]

Definitely A.

[occasionalrain]

Generally, I think it's better to be honest rather than make decisions on assumptions about others. There are happy marriages and abusive ones. Telling someone who's married of your feelings for them will not harm their marriage if it's a happy one but may help them out of an abusive or unhappy one. 

Not telling them may lead to later regret.

[libbyannE]

The question and choice of answers strike me as trivial, silly, and the kind of topic that might be in a teen magazine.

[software]

I would not allow that kind of conversation to even begin.

I was never the kind of person people share their souls with

Unless you are a very close friend or family member, I did not allow conversations to "go there".

What is suggested by the OP is a Lifetime Movie.

[Greeneyedlady21]

Yes recently in my life I've been in that situation. We bonded over having something very sad in common. I wasn't physically attracted to him at all, but he was there for me and I was in a very sad difficult and lonely situation. It felt like there were unspoken things between us. But he's married.

He eventually told me he thinks I'm beautiful, I didn't know what to do with that at all. It was nice, but..,

Nothing inappropriate ever happened. It's not a Lifetime movie, that's really what it was. I consider him a good friend and I hope he genuinely cares about me as a person. It was a complicated situation. If we would ever eventually talk about it, I don't know. Big time awkward.

[cherry]

I am married ,and we have both been faithful to one another, and our vows. I don't go places like this ,in my head. I think once this starts, it opens the door for many things ,that  could have terrible consequences ,for your partner ,and your marriage

If you aren't faithful in small things, you won't be in big ones , either

[Still Raining]

That is remarkably intrusive for a non-credit answer.  Really?