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Re: What would you do about this Birthday Party problem?

@Noel7 wrote:



Here's my take on it... She's your Mom.  Your step dad seems to be forcing the party on her and it would make her miserable on her birthday.


If it were me, I would tell him to ask her if it's ok with her or else you will ask her.


It seems to me it boils down to either you risk him getting mad at you OR you risk her having a terrible time.


I say go for it, protect her, nicely, and be ready to offer alternatives of do as she requests.


Only problem I can see with this is that if he is controlling, letting him do the asking is pointless, as she will say yes to a party because he will push her into it.


If I were the OP, I'd just go to mom, tell her what is transpiring, try to find out for sure if she would be up to it or not, then do my best to make sure it doesn't happen, should that be her choice.


I think mom is put between a rock and a hard place, assuming her husband is the controlling type, and this party will happen for her to keep the peace.