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Re: What would you do about this Birthday Party problem?


Mz iMac wrote:

MIMA wrote:

My original plans was to offer to take her to the casino


That is all my mother wants on her birthday(s)....going to the casinos, checking out the lounge & comedy shows, lunch, dinner & swimming.

We always make it a 3 day event.  We notify the restaurants of B-day & the waiters/waitresses present my mom w/a small cake come desert time on each of those 3 days.

Mom is happy as a lark!

 

This year on her 92nd B-day, she wants to go to Vegas & Reno.  NOT one or the other but, both places!!!! faint.gif


 

 

She does know that LV and Reno are nowhere near each other, right?

 

It's only a one-hour flight, but hundreds of miles.  Just making sure she knows that.  Smiley Happy

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I do not think ,people should come and stay at her house, what alot of work,noise and all. Maybe that is why she does not want a party,who would blame her.

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Re: What would you do about this Birthday Party problem?

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Well, Mom stopped in my store today to visit.  I said, "well Mom, you have a birthday coming up.  What would you like to do?"  She said "Bill (not Step Dad's real name) wants to have a party and I said no". 

 

I told her my idea about going to the casino on her actual BD.  In a depressed voice she said "Oh, I don't know.  I can't do all day like I used to".  I told her it was her BD and she was the boss and we would leave any time she wanted to go.  She kind of left it at that.  No more conversation on that.

 

Then she did say "I would like to go to the Country Cabin and eat that night". The Country Cabin is an individually owned restaurant (not a chain) that is the best we have in town and is rather expensive and has really good food.

 

I'm thinking to just have Step Dad ask her to go out and eat that night and pray she feels good enough to go.  We (DH and I) can already be there. (a teensy suprise)  Then the four of us can just eat together.  They have lucious deserts there and they do come to your table and sing Happy Birthday.

 

I don't know if Step Dad will go along with it, but it sounds great to me.

 

I don't know how this is going to work out. 

 

Thank you for all your help!  I'll update and let you know what we decide.

 

 

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@mima wrote:

@stevieb  Yes, he loves to entertain and she doesn't.  I don't either.


Well @mima, call me selfish... but it's her birthday and if she doesn't want to entertain... or be entertained... then he should just respect that. Let him have a party on HIS birthday... 

 

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Hey again, Mima!   

 

Fingers crossed that he goes along and does start a big thing about this.  Hope it goes well!

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@mima wrote:

Well, Mom stopped in my store today to visit.  I said, "well Mom, you have a birthday coming up.  What would you like to do?"  She said "Bill (not Step Dad's real name) wants to have a party and I said no". 

 

I told her my idea about going to the casino on her actual BD.  In a depressed voice she said "Oh, I don't know.  I can't do all day like I used to".  I told her it was her BD and she was the boss and we would leave any time she wanted to go.  She kind of left it at that.  No more conversation on that.

 

Then she did say "I would like to go to the Country Cabin and eat that night". The Country Cabin is an individually owned restaurant (not a chain) that is the best we have in town and is rather expensive and has really good food.

 

I'm thinking to just have Step Dad ask her to go out and eat that night and pray she feels good enough to go.  We (DH and I) can already be there. (a teensy suprise)  Then the four of us can just eat together.  They have lucious deserts there and they do come to your table and sing Happy Birthday.

 

I don't know if Step Dad will go along with it, but it sounds great to me.

 

I don't know how this is going to work out. 

 

Thank you for all your help!  I'll update and let you know what we decide.

 

 


@mima

 

You know, if stepdad doesn't like her idea for what she wants to do on her birthday, I might just be inclined to take her to the restaurant of her choice myself. He's free to join you or he can stay home, pop popcorn and wear a party hat... 

 

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@mima, I hope she feels well enough to enjoy her birthday the way she wishes!

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@mima wrote:

Well, Mom stopped in my store today to visit.  I said, "well Mom, you have a birthday coming up.  What would you like to do?"  She said "Bill (not Step Dad's real name) wants to have a party and I said no". 

 

I told her my idea about going to the casino on her actual BD.  In a depressed voice she said "Oh, I don't know.  I can't do all day like I used to".  I told her it was her BD and she was the boss and we would leave any time she wanted to go.  She kind of left it at that.  No more conversation on that.

 

Then she did say "I would like to go to the Country Cabin and eat that night". The Country Cabin is an individually owned restaurant (not a chain) that is the best we have in town and is rather expensive and has really good food.

 

I'm thinking to just have Step Dad ask her to go out and eat that night and pray she feels good enough to go.  We (DH and I) can already be there. (a teensy suprise)  Then the four of us can just eat together.  They have lucious deserts there and they do come to your table and sing Happy Birthday.

 

I don't know if Step Dad will go along with it, but it sounds great to me.

 

I don't know how this is going to work out. 

 

Thank you for all your help!  I'll update and let you know what we decide.

 

 


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@mima

 

The event is not to please your step-dad, it's to please your mother.

 

I have health issues that mean I can't always know if I will feel good enough to go out when a particular day rolls around.  I can't make many commitments, but...

 

I have a wonderful daughter who makes two plans for a day meant to be for me. 

 

1)  We go out to a wonderful restaurant.

 

2)  If it's not a good day healthwise, she has a back up plan and menu to cook for me or get really good delivery meals from local restaurants.  Even the classiest have delivery service.  She shops ahead of time for the ingredients to a favorite meal of mine.

 

PROBLEM SOLVED

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I am a person who would not want a surprise party so I would kindly decline to go along with stepdad, with an explanation.

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@Melania wrote:

Your stepdad has no clue the amount of work it would for your mother to have them stay at their house. Men don't...and I doubt he even thinks about it. He would be glowing at pulling this off but what really is his contribution?

Doesn't sound like much of a party for her at all...just more to do when she doesn't always feel well and more like a way for him to see his kids.

 

They need to stay in a hotel and then go to a restaurant for it to really be a party for your mother.


@MelaniaGood post!