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[justmyopinion]

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@hckynut wrote:

@Reba055

I did read the whole post, several times.  Maybe men look at these things differently, or maybe it's because I grew up being independent before my teen years. Have I ever had my feelings hurt? Of course, as recent as last October. However, that event effected not only myself, but over 50 other people.

I have helped many people on both the Critical Care and Heart Floors of my hospital as a Volunteer Patient Advocate. What did I expect in return? That maybe I helped lessen their fears of what lied ahead of them,

hckynut(john)

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But you weren't close personal friends of 30 years with any of those people so it would be irrational for you to expect them to phone you to let you know they were going on a vacation.

[scotnovel]

You asked,  "What kind of friend is this?"  I would ask, what kind of friend expects something in return after helping a friend through a health crisis,  which seems to be what you want.  Just because you helped her out doesn't mean she has to keep you up to date or include you in everything that she does.  

[truffle]

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@missy1 wrote:

Most true friends would tell their friend they are leaving for 2 weeks. Not sure what type of friends you all have, 

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I think some just don't have any real friends much less one of 36 years. 

[Deb1010yetagain]

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@truffle wrote:

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@missy1 wrote:

Most true friends would tell their friend they are leaving for 2 weeks. Not sure what type of friends you all have, 

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I think some just don't have any real friends much less one of 36 years. 

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And to be in daily contact and then no calls followed by finding out online that she was on a 2 week vacation.

[hckynut]

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@justmyopinion wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

I did read the whole post, several times.  Maybe men look at these things differently, or maybe it's because I grew up being independent before my teen years. Have I ever had my feelings hurt? Of course, as recent as last October. However, that event effected not only myself, but over 50 other people.

I have helped many people on both the Critical Care and Heart Floors of my hospital as a Volunteer Patient Advocate. What did I expect in return? That maybe I helped lessen their fears of what lied ahead of them,

hckynut(john)

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But you weren't close personal friends of 30 years with any of those people so it would be irrational for you to expect them to phone you to let you know they were going on a vacation.

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@justmyopinion

One of those patients was my wife's aunt, and I had known her close to 40 years at that time.

I think you missed my point and will leave it at that.

hckynut(john)

[Sawn]

I would be happy for her. Maybe a bit annoyed at first, but you know what? Cancer is never "cured". So be glad that you could be there for her and also be glad that she is well enough at this time to enjoy herself.

[ROMARY]

I'm thinking that we all gave our various opinions/responses.  Maybe O/P will take the replies into consideration, and then form her own way to accept this situation.  Better for us to have varying opinions than for all of us to steer her only 'one way', possibly toward a more stressful direction for her and all concerned.  Better to think about 'this and that' before acting in one way or another.  Wishing both of them good luck, and eventual peace of mind.  JMO

[Suziepeach]

@ROMARY,