Re: What do you want for Christmas?

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

I will go with the health. I don't need ,or want ,anything material at all.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

What do you want for Christmas Mellie?

BirdieGal · ‎12-20-2015

What I wanted, past tense, was a thank you from my daughter for everything I did for her wedding and the very generous monetary gift we gave them after. I did it all with almost no time to plan (2 weeks). It was actually lovely.

She thanked my husband, over and over. When we dropped her and her new husband at the airport I thought I would have that moment with her then.

I never got it. Nothing. 😢

Sorry to be such a downer. I haven’t been on much. I am hurting.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

Materialistic = one of the stones fell out of my anniversary ring last year. I set it aside and enjoyed wearing my simple, wide band ring. Yesterday I missed touching my stones. Time to get it fixed. Five stones represent husband, self, 3 kids (and now their families.)

Non Material = Health for a few family members. In-laws are aging and a few have cancer.

On a grateful note, we may have two weddings next year!

Hoping for enlightenment and compassion to sweep through our country.

May all your hopes come to fruition.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

Mellie32 · ‎03-13-2010

@deepwaterdotter wrote:
What do you want for Christmas Mellie?

Um... I don't NEED anything tangible. Well -- maybe some new siding on my house. I'd like to go dark gray. That's not really a need, though - just something I'd like.

What would make me happy is for my parents to be pain-free and stress-free, all of my students to have a very happy, magical Christmas and for the neighbor's next door to get their dog some training so it won't bark constantly.

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

I saw this on Twitter & giggled. Even though it’s a birthday reference,

the ‘what do you want?’ still applies to the holiday season.

Careful what you wish for...!

catchersmom · ‎07-20-2017

@BirdieGal I know that hurts and I'm sorry that happened. I don't personally know you or your daughter, so my response below is based on a whole lot of assumptions. Please know it is with good intentions.

I read or heard somewhere once that the people we are close to in our lives often hurt us the most for one simple reason.....they feel the most secure in our love for them, so they give the least thought to it. In other words they are so sure of that connection that they sometimes act in a careless or thoughtless manner.

My daughter and I are very close, and I've felt before as you are feeling now. With some time though we've been able to go back and discuss it and she was truly shocked at how her action had impacted me. Doesn't make it right or excuse it--just trying to understand it.

Now that I'm older I look back at my younger adult years and realize I treated my Mother in a similar fashion a time or two. It's so easy to take those people for granted that you just know will always be there for you no matter what. I think that's one of those life lessons we learn along the way.

Hang in there. Sending a virtual hug your way.

Never mistake kindness for weakness

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

@BirdieGal Oh, Birdie, I'm sorry for your pain. A wise woman (Ph.D. counselor) told me relationships mean not only blessings but disappointment and pain. Sometimes when I need affirmation from people and they aren't generous or aware, I have to spin shift my thinking/prayers to this -- Take away my need to want their affirmation. Make me function well without it. And increase their compassionate.

Others being clueless is not about us. Birdie, I hope you find peace about this soon. It's painful when people disappoint us and don't appreciate us.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau