Re: What do you Consider a "Token Gift?"

Group 5 minus 1 · ‎03-11-2010

After reading this and thinking about it I really think the couple are wrong. I would neither attend nor send a gift.

doxie1 · ‎03-09-2010

How about a bottle of Riunite wine?

I would change it to Reunited and add the date. You could add the previous date also.

I also thin a small sample bottle of the poopoori attached to it would be tokenish.

doxie

Wasn't there a movie called "Been there done that"? If so that would be a good dvd to get.

software · ‎06-08-2016

She divorced him and now is re-marrying him?

Or is this a renewal of vows?

For the first, a marriage manual.

For the second, some type of keepsake gift like a marriage or relationship quote in a nice frame, possibly personalized.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@doxie1 wrote:
How about a bottle of Riunite wine?

I would change it to Reunited and add the date. You could add the previous date also.

I also thin a small sample bottle of the poopoori attached to it would be tokenish.

doxie

Wasn't there a movie called "Been there done that"? If so that would be a good dvd to get.

@doxie1 LOL

I am enjoying that thread - it is interesting to see what is considered the "high road".

lol

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mstyrion 1 · ‎09-18-2014

@Cakers3 wrote:
@doxie1 wrote:
How about a bottle of Riunite wine?

I would change it to Reunited and add the date. You could add the previous date also.

I also thin a small sample bottle of the poopoori attached to it would be tokenish.

doxie

Wasn't there a movie called "Been there done that"? If so that would be a good dvd to get.
@doxie1 LOL

I am enjoying that thread - it is interesting to see what is considered the "high road".

lol

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Nice edit.

You could always embroider your clever words (don't forget the choked with weeds part) and give it to the happy couple.

eyeroll

~Enough is enough~

sunala · ‎03-09-2010

@LTT1 wrote:
@sunala
Based on the way you feel about this situation (she is a ditz) I would only give a card.

@LTT1 I say she's a ditz only because of the way the OP described the situation. I don't know her or anyone else associated with this wedding.

"That's a great first pancake."
Lady Gaga, to Tony Bennett

LTT1 · ‎03-09-2010

@sunala

I didn't read your OP closely enough and I apologize.

Please allow me to re-phrase:

IMO, IF I had a situation to attend such as this one, and if I perceived it as a poor risk, I would give a card.

Rules of Etiquette keep changing, so there is another rule about amount to spend attending vs non-attending.

If the couple were close to me or my DD, I like the idea of a set of mugs, either engraved or with a clever saying on them that might lend a personal touch. I guess? I'm usually not that clever!

~Have a Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit~

Yardlie · ‎03-10-2010

I guess a "token" gift would depend on how well I knew the person and what the occasion was. Sometimes if I see a product on sale that would make a good token gift, I pick up a few just to have on hand...in my "gift closet" as the hosts would say.

We seem to get invited to lots of graduations this time of the year. They are usually nieces and nephews or grandchildren of friends or relatives. I know someone who said that they pick up nice pen sets (on sale) throughout the years to give out for graduations. That would be a token gift to me.

Our niece graduated from high school this year. We gave $100. We've only seen her a few times, and never get thanked for gifts. A cousin's daughter just graduated from high school. We were invited to her graduation reception. We gave her $25 (just a token). We had not seen her since she was a baby. I really don't think people expect large amounts of money when they invite people they barely know to the event.

A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal. ~~ Steve Maraboli

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

It's an opinion, there is no right or wrong. In that recent wedding post that I personally didn't think was such a big deal at all. Greedy bride who wanted more gifts for marrying a any she married just a couple of years previously. They were not strangers and appeared the poster was going to wedding. So, for me "a token" gift would have been something somewere around $25 or $30 or as someone else said, re-gifting something. A candle, a couple of inexpensive nice boxed champagne glasses, a vase. I actually saw a nice one here on Qvc for $27.50 and I know Marshalls has inexpensive household things. Dish towls! Omg...the list is endless...lol