Re: What are Men's Expectations when it comes to D... - Page 6

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

You need to be upfront about your feelings and intentions.

I taught and coached teenagers for many years. The things I heard were more than just a little eye opening. Many singles enjoy casual sex just for physical gratification. Unless they are in a committed relationship, it is not unusual to have multiple partners.

There comes a time when most decide they want to continue with this lifestyle or move on to a serious relationship.

You need to find someone that is past the casual dating thing and is looking for the same kind of relationship you are. It is important to know whether or not you will be sexually compatible with a person you are considering spending a significant part of your life with.

There have been multiple threads about dating sites. Have you considered using one?

Are you the poster who shared an apartment with a sister whose boyfriend spent (according to you) far too much time in her bedroom?

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Walking around in a large public park, zoo, museum, aquarium. Something to 'look at' and plenty of time to talk about 'this and that'.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

JBKO · ‎12-16-2011

Thank you MacDuff! So kind of you to tell your story. And THE RULES! I knew there was a book I had to get my hands but I didn't remember the title. So thank you!

Look, I understand that men want sex every 20 seconds. BUT, if a guy is really into you he will wait. Now I understand that going out with a woman even one he is very interested in (sexually and in other ways) can get very expensive! He can easily go through 1k (here in NYC) before having sex.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

winamac1 · ‎12-29-2010

@DiscountDiva wrote:
This is meant to be a serious question. I haven't dated much at all. I've been lucky I guess because the males I have encountered have been gentlemen and not pressured me to do anything I don't want before I am ready. Unlucky for me I was not into them. Honestly, I am old-fashioned and don't want things to escalate to a seksual relationship for well--months. I had a friend who told me he was out if there was no action by the third date. What should I expect nowadays?

Men take what they can get. In spite of things changing dramatically in the past 20 years, I still think that holding out is the best policy. My mother taught me to not put out...why buy the cow if they can get the milk for free always rang in my mind.

When I used to date, many years ago, guy would expect seks after 3 or 4 dates. I adamantly refused. There were a few guys whose calls I just stopped returning as I knew they wanted more out of the relationship--far too quickly than I did.

I let the guy pay early on. I'd pay for a movie or something but that was after 5 or 6 dates. I think too many men act like little boys due to all the social media, the i phones and their lack of knowing how to communicate in this 21st century.

Don't compromise your principles or moral beliefs to plesae a man. If he's worth having, he'll wait until you are ready.

I also didn't call guys and ask them out. They had to call me.

Men are hunters and gatherers. In spite of all the changes in society, they still are hunters and gatherers. Let them do the chasing.

"friends don't let friends drink white zinfandel"

LTT1 · ‎03-09-2010

DH used to tell DD that "all men are predators." Thank heavens she knew what he meant... !

I think lots of times women all ready know this fact about men, but, speaking for myself... the desire to change them or dream them to be "the right one" while overlooking the truth is very common.

I also fear that many men know this fact and take advantage.

DH was extremely ready for marriage when the time came, and then he found me... LOL

Surprising quote from my mother: "He chased and chased until I caught him!"

~Have a Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit~

HiLo · ‎03-10-2010

@baker wrote:
@DiscountDiva wrote:
This is meant to be a serious question. I haven't dated much at all. I've been lucky I guess because the males I have encountered have been gentlemen and not pressured me to do anything I don't want before I am ready. Unlucky for me I was not into them. Honestly, I am old-fashioned and don't want things to escalate to a seksual relationship for well--months. I had a friend who told me he was out if there was no action by the third date. What should I expect nowadays?
I don't know how old you are, but my son who is 31 tells me if he dates a woman and there is no physical interaction at all, then she's just not into you and he moves on.

My son is looking for a woman who he has a lot in common with; good at keeping up an interesting conversation about events in the world, etc. He must also see she is a lady, average looks are fine.. Has been dating for for a long time and seldom meets anyone who is up to these simple standards but they are all wild for him. The old wisdom of Mom was right, be friendly but let the man do the chasing.

Nuttmeg · ‎03-09-2010

You may want to read Steve Harvey's book. This book was later made into a movie.http://www.amazon.com/Like-Lady-Think-Expanded-Relationships/dp/0062351567/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

LTT1 · ‎03-09-2010

@HiLo @JBKOA part of our family who is a very eligible single guy (also "to die for good looks and doesn't even know it) also has high standards... his job required that he live far away from easy social situations. He finally has met a wonderful girl online... I'd imagine through "chatting" with someone online, two people would get a good sense of "what the other person is made of."

~Have a Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit~

mstyrion 1 · ‎09-18-2014

@reiki604 wrote:
If you meet the right man the point will be moot. YOU won't want to wait!

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Exactly!

Instead of setting rigid rules for yourself before you even meet someone, let yourself enjoy the relationship and pay attention to your own wants and needs. There is nothing wrong with a physical relationship that feels right to you.

~Enough is enough~

VaBelle35 · ‎03-10-2010

@DiscountDiva wrote:
This is meant to be a serious question. I haven't dated much at all. I've been lucky I guess because the males I have encountered have been gentlemen and not pressured me to do anything I don't want before I am ready. Unlucky for me I was not into them. Honestly, I am old-fashioned and don't want things to escalate to a seksual relationship for well--months. I had a friend who told me he was out if there was no action by the third date. What should I expect nowadays?

The only thing that matters is what you want and what your expectations are. The key is to find a man with the same expectations.

It's not that hard to do, you just have to put yourself out there and be open to opportunities to meet men. You might have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the one who is on the same page, but it is worth it.

Men who go into relationships with an agenda are not the men for me.

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