Re: What To Gift At A Wedding

teganslaw · ‎03-11-2010

You were probably invited because they want the money but don't care if you attend. I wouldn't go, would send a card but no money. I don't have a Venmo account and wouldn't set one up for for the couple. If you don't attend the wedding, there is no obligation to send money.

"The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog."

Mark Twain

MamaWick · ‎03-09-2010

My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness ~ Dalai Lama XIV

When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace ~ Jimi Hendrix

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

@Shihtzursqmom wrote:
I’m invited to a wedding this fall of someone I’ve only seen In a professional setting
I have no idea why I was invited ( my husband’s name wasn’t on the invitation , they don’t know him ) I actually only know one of them
From what I’ve heard it’s going to be a large wedding
The couple will be going on a 3 week honeymoon to Europe
They’ve bought their house several years ago and don’t need anything
By the time of the wedding they’ll have had 4 showers , they aren’t registered anywhere and don’t want gifts but they are asking everyone to Venmo money
we are not going to the wedding IF I send a check it won’t be for more than $50

As a married person I would not attend a wedding to someone I barely know without my husband. In fact, we probably wouldn't go as a couple either. However, given the stupidity of sending an invitation to one half of a couple, I wouldn't even send gift or a card. Nada. Squat.

Believe me, this person isn't going to miss anyone who opts not to attend.

~What a terrible era in which idiots govern the blind.~ William Shakespeare

beckyb1012 · ‎03-09-2010

@MamaWick wrote:

I had young man I had known since he was 7 and at 30 decided to marry a girl he met at U.Texas who was from Alabama. We are here in Texas but her desire was to marry in Maycomb AL for her favorite book "To Kill A Mockingbird." It was lovely to be invited but I did plan to send my regrets. I did not get the chance because one week after receiving the invitation all guests received the announcement the wedding had been canceled and the engagement broken.

"Live frugally, but love extravagantly."

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@Jessie913 wrote:
Well, Im from NY and yes it was always customary to cover your plate. Today might be a little different due to the ecomomy. (who knows? BUT I would NOT be giving only a $50. gift!! People here give that and more for a shower) My daughter is getting married at a very nice venue and it is costing 175 pp (228 total with tax and tip included.) guests are recieving an elaborate cocktail hour with 3 food stations, 4 course sit down dinner (4 entree choices) italian pastries on the table in addition to wedding cake. Fun farewell snack to take on the go. Theres even an after party! And lets not forget IT'S 5 hours of top shelf OPEN BAR! I think it is well worth the price!!

Are you paying for the venue/dinner/drinks @Jessie913 as tradition dictates?

Why would a guest be concerned about how much you pay ('cover their plate') if they are gifting your daughter and her soon- to- be spouse?

When our son married a girl from Long Island, on Long Island, we gave the same exact amount as we did our other two.

Hoovermom · ‎03-19-2010

I purchase from the bridal registries. It really is not about what I like that I think they should have, but try to follow their gift list. Each wedding/shower is diffferent depending on my relationship with the individuals. I give what I think is a generous gift.

RollTide2008 · ‎02-14-2017

If I'm expected to cover my plate, the couple should just sell tickets.

Addie2118 · ‎11-05-2017

While I DO look at their registry, I have a few places I look at online, where they have personalize gifts. One of my favorite places is Uncommon Goods.

Jessie913 · ‎01-09-2016

@RollTide2008 wrote:
If I'm expected to cover my plate, the couple should just sell tickets.

This is just so darn stupid

Jessie913 · ‎01-09-2016

@Lucky Charm wrote:
@Jessie913 wrote:
Well, Im from NY and yes it was always customary to cover your plate. Today might be a little different due to the ecomomy. (who knows? BUT I would NOT be giving only a $50. gift!! People here give that and more for a shower) My daughter is getting married at a very nice venue and it is costing 175 pp (228 total with tax and tip included.) guests are recieving an elaborate cocktail hour with 3 food stations, 4 course sit down dinner (4 entree choices) italian pastries on the table in addition to wedding cake. Fun farewell snack to take on the go. Theres even an after party! And lets not forget IT'S 5 hours of top shelf OPEN BAR! I think it is well worth the price!!
Are you paying for the venue/dinner/drinks @Jessie913 as tradition dictates?

Why would a guest be concerned about how much you pay ('cover their plate') if they are gifting your daughter and her soon- to- be spouse?

When our son married a girl from Long Island, on Long Island, we gave the same exact amount as we did our other two.

Not that it's any of your business or that it even matters, but the wedding is a joint effort. Yes we are covering the cost of the reception but there are many other expenses that the bride groom and parents of the groom are contributing to. Nobody expects anybody to cover their plate. Its a guide that a lot of people have used in my part of the country. My daughter and her future husband are happy just to have family and friends attend.