Was it just me?

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

So often we read here a post that starts - my friend's family member is having this or that financial issue. Be it an insurance problem , or the mortgage co , or the bank etc etc etc. What always strikes me about this is - how much do people know about other people's financial issues? I can barely keep track of my own finances and I certainly don't sit around discussing other people's private business affairs. Also , if someone trusts you to help them out with a financial issue shouldn't you keep their finances to yourself and not be blabbing it to your friends or on a public chat board? Perhaps it's just me - but I tend to not believe threads that start out like that are not just made up. Often to try an underhanded political discussion.

K9buddy · ‎03-09-2010

Maybe they're really asking for themselves and don't want to admit it on a message board. So what? They're looking for advice....if you have any, give it. If you don't have any advice, move on to another thread.

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

No, I don't know details about even close friends' financial issues. I may know they are struggling, but not all the dirty details.

And I agree, that things like that are not fodder for public chat rooms and bulletin boards.

Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

As one of many helpers on another forum, we all noticed the issue(s) presented more than not starts off w/"my friend."

Us helpers have come to the conclusion the "friend" is actually the " original poster" themselves.

Like you said, the OPs knows to much info about the "friend" as if they are standing right next to them while posting.

Sometimes, I advise the poster to have their "friend" post the problem/issues.

Now what is going on in these forums I don't know nor care for that matter. As long as you do not post personal , you are in the clear & I could give a rats a$$. I don't know anyone here from a can of spray paint!

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ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
No, I don't know details about even close friends' financial issues. I may know they are struggling, but not all the dirty details.

And I agree, that things like that are not fodder for public chat rooms and bulletin boards.

It just depends on the people. I know some people who don't keep ANYTHING to themselves and they're not usually close friends. Some people will tell anyone anything.

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ladyroxanne · ‎03-09-2010

i agree with @151949

i wouldn't ask for advice re financial matters and never, ever discuss a friend's finances which i don't want to know anyhow.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

As another poster said, it doesn't matter to me if someone says "a friend" and really means themselves - the more sensitive are perhaps wise to do this here as we know certain posters just love to rip others to shreds over anything they can find to do it about.

If someone is seeking advice, they're seeking advice. If they're just gossiping and trash talking someone, that becomes evident pretty quickly.

I do believe some people end up knowing a lot about others' personal lives - whether they want to or not 😜

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chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

I think discussing anything at all, regardles of how private is perfectly ok on a public chat board as long as you don't identify the person by name or give addresses. We don't know each other on this board, we certainly don't know "Susie's cousin. Sometimes people need to talk about things and a forum like this is the only way that can, they can't talk to the people in the lives about such things. As for believing posts, I don't believe half of what I read on any board but that's okay because even if a post is "questionable" someone else my get help or learn something from the discussion.