Community Chat

[croemer]

I agree Opurrra, the age thing is a really tuff one. Then there is the lack of jobs. Her husband may not be perfect but sounds like he is basically a good man who does try to do things for her. I know many women whose husbands gave up trying to please the wife, work on the marriage and are down right selfish.

I just say she should consider all options...take her time to think this thru and maybe some counseling to make darn sure this is what she wants.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 2/18/2014 Marianne is complicated said:

I was single, married, single with 2 babies for years and then married again.

I can see if from many directions.

OK, Marianne, you win.

[croemer]

I do not think Marianne views this as a competition she is just voicing life can be a challenge that she needs to be aware she will face.

[Marianne1]

I am not trying to "win" Kitty, I am just tired of my words being twisted and misrepresented.

[Catitude]

On 2/18/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

On 2/18/2014 Opurrra said:

On 2/18/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

I suspect that some women who have been married for many years don't understand what single women deal with, just as single women may not fully understand long time married women's issues.

We all have them.

On the contrary, I believe you expect married women to make it, because you have made it alone. You're used to being single and self reliant. How could you even compare what you're doing to someone fresh out of a divorce? They need time to adapt, to learn, to become adjusted and at the OP's age that will take longer to do than someone who was single or becam single in their 20's, 30's or even 40's.

You know nothing about me or my life or what I "expect" married women to do.

I had an opinion about the OP's situation.

That's it!

Sure you do expect married women to survive because you have. You expect the OP to magically go out and get a full time job to support herself, because YOU are comparing yourself with her. You paint all women (married and single of all ages) with the same brush and expect them to make it because you have made it. The OP is close to 60 and has been married her whole life and you are comparing yourself with her.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 2/18/2014 Marianne is complicated said:

I am not trying to "win" Kitty, I am just tired of my words being twisted and misrepresented.

Me, too.

[Marianne1]

I do not think I misrepresented or twisted your words, Kitty.

If I have while trying to give my pov, I apologize.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 2/18/2014 Marianne is complicated said:

I do not think I misrepresented or twisted your words, Kitty.

If I have while trying to give my pov, I apologize.

Me, too.

[pood1]

Aaannddd, another thread that has gotten so far off track from the original topic....

It stopped being about the OP pages ago.

Geesh.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 2/18/2014 pood said:

Aaannddd, another thread that has gotten so far off track from the original topic....

It stopped being about the OP pages ago.

Geesh.

Not really.

But consider us duly chastised.