Very Difficult Situation - Page 5

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@bri20 wrote:
I think the OP likes all the attention from these sorts of threads.

Bingo!

Whether consciously or sub-consciously, she seems to love being involved in drama.

JMHO, of course.

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

@SXMGirl wrote:
The best thing that you can do is be there for your friend. I am sure that every emotion is going through that family. You might just need to be a sounding board for your friend and maybe even her daughter.

As far as charging the young man, I always feel that these situatons have a lot of blame to go around. Was this a new "boyfriend"? Did the parents know about him? Did this young girl portray herself as older? I know that it is hard to imagine a young teen looking 4 or 5 years older, but sometimes that happens with makeup and outfits. It is getting harder and harder to tell ages. I personally can attest to being that age and making myself look much older and adults were fooled.

Just be a good friend. Like everything, it will work itself out.

Nope to all of this. If she is 13, she cannot legally consent to sex, period. She is a child and you are trying to make excuses to blame her without even knowing what happened. You are blaming a child for her own rape.

And people wonder why rape goes unreported.

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ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
So this girl is pregnant a joyous event that should not be looked at as a terrible tragedy what is wrong with you? Her life is not over it has been changed. How she reacts to that change will now not only effect her but an innocent baby. But it need not be looked upon as a terrible thing. There are so many programs and groups out there to help it just takes reaching out for them.

That said it is not your business other then to offer positive helpful advice.

Having raised a daughter as a single mom I am so not feeling the love here. Albeit I was not 13 but this girl has from what I gathered a network of family around her. The girl is thirteen way to young to have a child, But she is and now it has to be dealt with, she is not the first nor will she be the last.

Since you spent more time telling us how we may post replies then giving us details so we don't have to guess, I am not sure what you are asking.

Childhood pregnancy is not a joyous event, especially in a country where the maternal mortality rate is one of the highest in the developed world and being under 17 puts you in a category for a high risk pregnancy.

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Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@ChynnaBlue wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
So this girl is pregnant a joyous event that should not be looked at as a terrible tragedy what is wrong with you? Her life is not over it has been changed. How she reacts to that change will now not only effect her but an innocent baby. But it need not be looked upon as a terrible thing. There are so many programs and groups out there to help it just takes reaching out for them.

That said it is not your business other then to offer positive helpful advice.

Having raised a daughter as a single mom I am so not feeling the love here. Albeit I was not 13 but this girl has from what I gathered a network of family around her. The girl is thirteen way to young to have a child, But she is and now it has to be dealt with, she is not the first nor will she be the last.

Since you spent more time telling us how we may post replies then giving us details so we don't have to guess, I am not sure what you are asking.

Childhood pregnancy is not a joyous event, especially in a country where the maternal mortality rate is one of the highest in the developed world and being under 17 puts you in a category for a high risk pregnancy.

@ChynnaBlue

I would also add that any pregnancy that is as a result of (statutory) rape, is also not "joyous".

JBKO · ‎12-16-2011

GM everyone. I have to work so I can't post as often as I'd like. No way will I offer any unsolicited opinions to the famliy. I found this out after celebrating a graduation last night. Why would I want to get attention from people I don't even know in person? I was and still am genuinely saddened over this.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@ChynnaBlue wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
So this girl is pregnant a joyous event that should not be looked at as a terrible tragedy what is wrong with you? Her life is not over it has been changed. How she reacts to that change will now not only effect her but an innocent baby. But it need not be looked upon as a terrible thing. There are so many programs and groups out there to help it just takes reaching out for them.

That said it is not your business other then to offer positive helpful advice.

Having raised a daughter as a single mom I am so not feeling the love here. Albeit I was not 13 but this girl has from what I gathered a network of family around her. The girl is thirteen way to young to have a child, But she is and now it has to be dealt with, she is not the first nor will she be the last.

Since you spent more time telling us how we may post replies then giving us details so we don't have to guess, I am not sure what you are asking.

Childhood pregnancy is not a joyous event, especially in a country where the maternal mortality rate is one of the highest in the developed world and being under 17 puts you in a category for a high risk pregnancy.

@ChynnaBlue

I would also add that any pregnancy that is as a result of (statutory) rape, is also not "joyous".

Again it is not the baby's fault and that was my point. But by all means cherry pick and further your own agenda.

JBKO · ‎12-16-2011

Sorry. My phone isn't cooperating as I post. I'm in no way teying to get attention. And Plaid Pants if you're going to bring up past events, make sure you get your facts right. Better yet, how 'bout staying on topic?

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Perkup · ‎03-09-2010

One of my daghters has a favorite expression for matters like this.

"God doesn't make any mistakes".

Out of what seems to be tragedy often comes something wonderful. Just prayers are what are needed at this time. And some serious consideration of statuatory rape seems in order. Circumstances alter cases.

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@ChynnaBlue wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
So this girl is pregnant a joyous event that should not be looked at as a terrible tragedy what is wrong with you? Her life is not over it has been changed. How she reacts to that change will now not only effect her but an innocent baby. But it need not be looked upon as a terrible thing. There are so many programs and groups out there to help it just takes reaching out for them.

That said it is not your business other then to offer positive helpful advice.

Having raised a daughter as a single mom I am so not feeling the love here. Albeit I was not 13 but this girl has from what I gathered a network of family around her. The girl is thirteen way to young to have a child, But she is and now it has to be dealt with, she is not the first nor will she be the last.

Since you spent more time telling us how we may post replies then giving us details so we don't have to guess, I am not sure what you are asking.

Childhood pregnancy is not a joyous event, especially in a country where the maternal mortality rate is one of the highest in the developed world and being under 17 puts you in a category for a high risk pregnancy.

@ChynnaBlue

I would also add that any pregnancy that is as a result of (statutory) rape, is also not "joyous".

I am genuinely saddened that this has to be stated, because to me it's obvious. There are people who think that children and women should always be joyful to be pregnant under any circumstances and I just can't agree with that.

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AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@ChynnaBlue wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
So this girl is pregnant a joyous event that should not be looked at as a terrible tragedy what is wrong with you? Her life is not over it has been changed. How she reacts to that change will now not only effect her but an innocent baby. But it need not be looked upon as a terrible thing. There are so many programs and groups out there to help it just takes reaching out for them.

That said it is not your business other then to offer positive helpful advice.

Having raised a daughter as a single mom I am so not feeling the love here. Albeit I was not 13 but this girl has from what I gathered a network of family around her. The girl is thirteen way to young to have a child, But she is and now it has to be dealt with, she is not the first nor will she be the last.

Since you spent more time telling us how we may post replies then giving us details so we don't have to guess, I am not sure what you are asking.

Childhood pregnancy is not a joyous event, especially in a country where the maternal mortality rate is one of the highest in the developed world and being under 17 puts you in a category for a high risk pregnancy.

@ChynnaBlue

I would also add that any pregnancy that is as a result of (statutory) rape, is also not "joyous".
Again it is not the baby's fault and that was my point. But by all means cherry pick and further your own agenda.

My nephew's girlfriend gave birth at 17 and while that is not 13 it still was met with its own challenges. But they have made it work so to write it off as being not joyous and worth the challenge is how you may view it. Not saying it is not easy but maybe the family and friends involved were the difference. Nobody viewed this child as a tragedy or a horrible thing. I don't and neither did they. The gf got her GED and is taking College course via the internet as well as raising a beautiful little girl.

Btw, I have no problem with adoption or abortion if that is what the person wants.