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[occasionalrain]

Sorry. I have worked in customer service in the past and never had the issues you are having. Maybe I was lucky or maybe I just enjoyed my job and it showed.

[Mary Bailey]

@JBKO I hear you loud and clear. Let me count the ways!  I have been doing CS (dental & medical insurance like @Mustang Shar)  for over 25 years.

caller:  "(long involved sentance or paragraph, without taking a breath)...Can you help me with that?"

me thinking:  I'll try to remember what you told me, .... but I need to get some info so I can look you up. 

either they don't have a pen or it doesn't work

full moons bring out the more intestering callers, no matter what the ney-sayers say

and it goes on...

I can't find anything that pays as well.  Believe me I look ALL the time

[Venezia]

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@DiscountDiva wrote:

Occasionalrain don't you think I already do that?

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@JBKO - just ignore that unhelpful comment!  Most of us understand exactly how you're feeling.

Not everyone can afford to leave her job and it's true that it's easier to find another job, when you're already employed.  A good friend left her job, when a supervisor nearly drove her to a nervous breakdown.  She has a good job again now, but it took her a long time.

As others have said, "deep breath" and just take one day at a time.  And whatever you do, leave the job at work.  Don't take it home with you!

Best of luck finding a job you love. 

[Snowpuppy]

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@DiscountDiva wrote:

Wow. You have all brought tears to my eyes. Believe it or not I have looked forward to sending out applications the last few days. You don't want to know all the months and years I spent looking for work back in 2008 and 2009 and not hearing anything. I didn't think I could put myself through that again but I am happy to say that I am doing it. I work outside and told myself I am not doing another winter. I am not doing it to myself. Thank you for your kind words.

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I was out of work in 2008 as well and it was ugly. Scary ugly.

You got some great advice, including putting something up in your workstation or office if you can. Something that brings you joy so you can keep your eye on the prize.

I have a soul sucking job, too. Can you take some paid time off or change your hours? I did this and it helped tremendously.

[kivah]

The good part is that ur looking for another job. I've been retired for 12 years - and occasionally, I sit on my couch and think of the several "bosses from hell" that I worked for during the 1990's. 

Just today, I was thinking about my life in the 1950/60's in New York (where I was born). I worked on Wall Street and in the Waldorf-Astoria Hotel. My bosses and co-workers were so nice and I always felt happy to go to work - zero stress in the workplace. I've lived in southern California for many years and enjoy the lifestyle. Things have changed so much -- it's like everyone is out for themselves and they don't care about u. Life seems so temporary.

There are always nice companies out there - u just have to find them. My mom's expression was "if something doesn't work out --- improvise". In other words, try it another way. Good Luck

[JBKO]

I actually got a check in the mail for almost $2000 unexpectedly the other day. (isn't that nice!) It is not even making me think of cutting back on work or slowing down applying to jobs. I need to leave this place. It is so bad that I am considering writing an expose and maybe getting it published in the local paper or something once I leave. After being so flexible with my schedule and seeing that bending over backwards was not helping me, I finally gave myself a set schedule which does help tremendously.

[IamMrsG]

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@DiscountDiva wrote:

I actually got a check in the mail for almost $2000 unexpectedly the other day. (isn't that nice!) It is not even making me think of cutting back on work or slowing down applying to jobs. I need to leave this place. It is so bad that I am considering writing an expose and maybe getting it published in the local paper or something once I leave. After being so flexible with my schedule and seeing that bending over backwards was not helping me, I finally gave myself a set schedule which does help tremendously.

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I do not know your story; however, if you follow through on this plan, you will most likely regret it.

[pommom]

The Universe is trying to tell you something.  Time to listen.  Wishing you the best in your job search.

[151949]

Being a critical care nurse we worked with patient families that were at their most stressed and ugliest. I usually loved caring for patients but often trying to deal with their families was a real drain on us.Add on top of that those very arrogant doctors - who as the OP states - thought we could read their minds - and some coworkers who were just plain lazy or crazy - and the entire situation was stress to the max. By the time I retired I was just simply over it and very glad to be out of there. I don't miss working at all.

[jlkz]

The advice to not take a bad job home with you is very difficult to do.  I know this both from personal experiences as well as from doing late-in-life career Counselling with folks from every walk of life and levels in organizations big and small.

Compartmentalizing may work for a while but doesn't make for good mental or physical health.  Emotions are under the surface and will spill over or color your "worlds" whether or not you realize it.  Others will be touched by your behavior and will react accordingly.

Acknowledge the boss from hell and the present circumstances you find yourself in BUT start or continue the long job search and most definitely give your self ongoing rewards for dealing with the "stuff".  It will not last forever, just seems that way.  If you have a plan or strategy for enduring the craziness, mark your progress daily/weekly:  how many networking contacts or conversations have you had?; how many articles researched?; how many business magazines,etc.

(these magazines are usually quite physically large or tall and contain listings of fastest growing or best companies to work for for mothers, etc. Your local library is a good place to start--remember you want to be face to face with people to start conversations).  These publications will give you bits of info to ask others for their opinions or suggestions.

I didn't mean for this to be a sermon, but I hope it gives you some useful ideas.  Many folks have walked in your type shoes.  The journey will take as long as it takes so just keep working the tools and giving your self rewards.  Good luck.