Community Chat

[mimomof4]

Sounds to me like they were up to something and ran away.  Especially if they specifically stated they keep to themselves.

[Lipstickdiva]

We have a neighbor 2 houses down from us and expected something may have happened with him.  We never saw him and his yard, neither front or back were being maintained.  His front became so overgrown, the mail lady quit delivering the mail because she could barely find her way through the overgrown tree limbs and weeds. 

I never, ever saw him leave the house and never saw anyone coming to get him.  All his cars in the driveway had 4 flat tires so he wasn't driving any of them.  No garbage was being put out to the curb.

I was afraid he was dead inside the house or that something happened so I contacted the police to do a welfare check.  He did answer the door but whatever they saw prompted them to call human services who said they couldn't reveal a lot but he was not very nice when they went to the door.

We have no idea what is happening over there.  He finally must be paying someone to maintain his yard but I haven't seen him in over a year.  Same cars still in the driveway with flat tires and no garbage being put outside.  I shudder to think of what is going on.  He has multiple citations with the city for the junky cars and for the unmaintained yard in years prior but he doesn't show up to Court and they aren't going to send someone to come get him for a housing violation.         

[occasionalrain]

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@CLHS68 wrote:

I cannot believe the people on here sticking their noses in others business. I am friendly with neighbors but do not stick my nose in their business. If they want me to know something they tell me. I don't watch who comes & goes etc.

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Some of us know the importance of being aware of our surroundings. We won't find ourselves blown up by a neighbor's faulty meth lab. No child trafficking will continue in our neighborhood. No one living alone will slowly die lying there unable to call for help. No one will abuse their dog/cat in my neighborhood without being reported...

My neighborhood is safe; I can go for a walk alone at midnlght because of my nosy neighbors.

[Icegoddess]

So, today the mail carrier flagged ME down and asked if I knew what was up with them.  She told me she was taking back the mail she delivered yesterday (which was in a plastic mail carrier on their front porch, not their mail box) along with a couple of UPS packages.  So, the concern extends beyond a couple of nosey neighbors.  She asked me to let them know where their stuff is if/when they showed back up.

@Lipstickdiva I feel your pain.  Long before this incident we had problems with my other next door neighbor.  The person who actually bought the house was the elderly father who lived in CA and was either renting the house to his son or letting him live there rent-free.  He couldn't keep a job and his father even tried having him evicted once but I imagine he told the dad he would never see his grandchild again because within hours he was back in the house.  He was also on drugs and either had a drug overdose or killed himself.  Then, his deadbeat sister and her boyfriend moved in.  

Anyways, at least where we live, Code Enforcement has very little "enforcement" capability.  They can only fine the home owner, which the occupants were not, and weren't going to chase him down in CA to get him to pay the fines.  

Eventually, the neighbor on the other side, who somehow had or got the address to the father wrote to him and appealed to him stating that she was ruining his financial investment.  Surprisingly, that apparently worked and they were kicked out.  After that he hired a flipper to make the house sellable and sold the house.  

Poor people who bought the house.  The flipper did a very shotty job and they are slowly working their way through replacing all the ****** work that was done.  Some of it I think would be lawsuit worthy had they wanted to pursue it, like no insulation in some of the walls.

[San Antonio Gal]

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@GAQShopr53 wrote:

@Icegoddess First of all, I think I watch too much ID Network When I read the post I thought about an episode that was about a family that just disappeared in the night only to be discovered later killed by someone they knew.  With that being said, I hope this family is okay and nothing has happened to them.  I am glad I know my neighbors well enough that when we go on vacations someone in the circle knows about it.

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@GAQShopr53.  I'm also an Id addict and thought the same thing.  Are you referring to the McStay family?  That was absolutely terrible what happened to them.

[KingstonsMom]

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@Icegoddess wrote:

I'm from The South.  We never mind our own business.

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@Icegoddess

I beg to differ.

I'm from the deep south, born and raised and I expect my privacy, as well as I respect other's privacy.

That's a very broad statement to make and not at all true. There are nosey people everywhere.

[QueenDanceALot]

Sounds to me like they wanted out of their obligations and just took off, leaving a couple cars at the house to make people think they were coming back and/or that they were still there.

Boring, but it happens all the time.

[KingstonsMom]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

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@CLHS68 wrote:

I cannot believe the people on here sticking their noses in others business. I am friendly with neighbors but do not stick my nose in their business. If they want me to know something they tell me. I don't watch who comes & goes etc.

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Some of us know the importance of being aware of our surroundings. We won't find ourselves blown up by a neighbor's faulty meth lab. No child trafficking will continue in our neighborhood. No one living alone will slowly die lying there unable to call for help. No one will abuse their dog/cat in my neighborhood without being reported...

My neighborhood is safe; I can go for a walk alone at midnlght because of my nosy neighbors.

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@occasionalrain

There's a BIG difference in being aware of your surroundings/watching for 'unusual' activity in your neighborhood and this scenario, IMO.

Surely they would have a family member or friend who would've contacted police by now, if they were truly 'missing'.

There are so many rational explanations as to where they are and why, none of which is anybody else's business, IMO.

[Icegoddess]

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@KingstonsMom wrote:

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@Icegoddess wrote:

I'm from The South.  We never mind our own business.

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@Icegoddess

I beg to differ.

I'm from the deep south, born and raised and I expect my privacy, as well as I respect other's privacy.

That's a very broad statement to make and not at all true. There are nosey people everywhere.

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Where I'm from we kept an eye on each other.  It wasn't called being nosey; it was called caring for each other.  And I am thankfrul for those people for keeping an eye on my Dad all those years after my mother's death.  Even the neighbor he didn't even know who saw him fall down in the driveway and helped him back to the house.  And the friends who called to tell us about his dizzy spells.  And the neighbor who kept an eye on the property and mowed the grass for the two years after his death while we were trying to get things cleaned out to sell it.  And even for the nosey neighbor who would magically show up every time we would go over there to work on the house.  We laughed about it, but we also knew she cared.

And, we didn't have a lot of juvenile hijinks because the kids never knew who might see them and tell their parents.  As Barney would say "****** it, ****** it in the bud."

So, if that's being a nosey neighbor, I'll proudly take on the title of Mrs. Kravitz.

[Imaoldhippie]

There is a big difference in being nosy and being a watchful neighbor.

A few years ago during the winter my brother slipped and fell on the ice outside his door.  He was able to drag himself in the house.  After he was inside he passed out.  When he came to he started yelling for help.  The man next door heard him but ignored it.  Eleven hours later a lady from the neighborhood heard my brothers car honking (he used the panic button on the key fob).  She investigated and finally got him some help.  He had broken his right femur.

Some of you might need a nosy neighbor some day.