Unwanted gifts

Nomorebirthdays · ‎06-10-2015

I have always make sure my family knows I have enough stuff, they know I like to clean, but dusting not so much.

Every Christmas they give me more, this year 3- 12x12 matching pictures for kitchen. Nothing wrong with them, not cheap, but I just do not want them.

Also a large glass weather thing, glass balls in liquid. Very modern in style, my home is very country-traditional.

The problem is they are family and both scan my home every time they enter.

I am not hard to gift, they know I like jewelry, gloves, sweaters, cozy Jammie, socks, Pima t-shirts from llbean.

What to do??????

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

IMHO, if this is just about your Christmas gifts, give them a specific list. Consider what they can afford, according to your list.

I never wanted "house" gifts, personal gifts are fine. Maybe that needs to be clarified to them. Not everyone remembers from year to year what someone else wants.

If you want specifics, I think you may want to be more specific with them.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

I guess the only thing left for you to do, is to be as tactfully, honest, as you can with them. I'm glad I don't have to figure out a way to tell someone, please don't buy me certain things.

They might think they hit on the perfect gift for you. But, if it truly upsets you, honestly is the best policy

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

Don't display any of the items they get you. When asked where they are simply say "I have enough things to display already, I just don't have any room for more. I don't want to dust them."

THey will get the idea or they won't.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

Smile and tell them everything was put in storage. If they further ask you about where they are......change the subject.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

Oh boy, i went through this so many times with my now deceased mil, i lied for years, made excuses,then finally had to tell the truth to her.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

pattypeep · ‎06-06-2011

@qualitygal has a great idea. Make a list prior to each birthday, Christmas or Mother's Day (if they give to all ) letting them know what you would like. It may take a burden off their shoulders as well. I believe this to be the kindest way to let them know.

Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea-Robert A. Heinlein

reiki604 · ‎03-09-2010

How about thanking the gift givers graciously and donating what you don't like to charity? There are some things worth making an issue about and some that aren't. IMHO not getting the GIFT you wanted is not worth making a big deal over.

'I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man'.......Unknown

Suziepeach · ‎03-10-2010

It's not that we don't want or appreciate what we're given but they all know " we want Cracker Barrel gift cards" for when we travel. Now we did get one at Christmas but also included were a few little things.

I am going to propose to them for this season, let's not give each other anything, just give for the kids'. It's my husband's family and we butt heads over it.

Go VOLS
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qvcaddition · ‎03-10-2010

@reiki604 wrote:
How about thanking the gift givers graciously and donating what you don't like to charity? There are some things worth making an issue about and some that aren't. IMHO not getting the GIFT you wanted is not worth making a big deal over.

Exactly what I do. I got two of the cheapest spur of the moment gifts this Christmas from two aquantices, not family, and they went in my good will donation bag in the garage. I could tell these were given to them. I just smiled and thanked them.