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[50Mickey]

@Carmie   . You sound like very nice and caring neighbors.

[Sooner]

@50Mickey Don't forget how angry people were because their food might not have been eaten.  It's a situation where people get hurt feelings if someone says thanks but I wouldn't eat it, so it's a no-win situation. 

I do remember some folks were incensed even the thought that someone might have taken food someone made and then not eaten it.  Insulted.  So just ask!  Ask people if they want it and don't be huffy if they don't.  LOL!!!   As with anything you give or do for folks.  

[Porcelain]

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@Sooner wrote:

@50Mickey Don't forget how angry people were because their food might not have been eaten.  It's a situation where people get hurt feelings if someone says thanks but I wouldn't eat it, so it's a no-win situation. 

I do remember some folks were incensed even the thought that someone might have taken food someone made and then not eaten it.  Insulted.  So just ask!  Ask people if they want it and don't be huffy if they don't.  LOL!!!   As with anything you give or do for folks.  

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What's wrong with that? Isn't this a place where we should be exchanging differing views? People have very strong feelings about gifting. I find that really interesting.

[occasionalrain]

That thread about food gifts was appropriate and needed.

There were posters who not only accepted home baked gifts knowing they intended to put them immediately into the garbage, they misled the giver into thinking they were most pleased to receive them. This, of course, guaranteed that more would be given and more would be discarded. 

They cared nothing about the time and money spent by the person. Surely, these people could come up with an acceptable reason to refuse.

Just maybe that thread kept some home baked goods out of landfill. I like to think so.

My neighbors occasionally bring me home baked food that I'm  pleased to receive. The best meatballs and sauce I have ever eaten came from a neighbor who, unfortunately, moved away. I wouldn't care to say who or what I miss more.

[happycat]

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@happycat wrote:

I took garden vegetables to a new neighbor one time and she let me know right quick she didn't cook, said she didn't want the veggies, I told her it was ok, I'd take them back home. That I wanted to meet she and her dh. 

She ended up keeping the veggies. I was offended but then she needed something, and called me, and you know what? She turned out to be ok. She just wasn't in the mood to cook. 

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@happycat , she really said that? I would not have left them with her. Most people would have accepted them. It's not as if you were offering her weed.  

oops hope i don't get in trouble for saying that word. Maybe she would have accepted that lol.

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I can't remember her exact words, but it was rude, and yes she basically said she didn't want them. That's why I said I would take them back- then she said they'd keep them. It was about the rudest I ever had anyone be that I'd just met. 

She really did end up being alright, just different. People have gotten very odd, if anyone has wonderufl neighbors, they need to be grateful. 

[Sooner]

@Porcelain They sure had some wild feelings about giving food for sure!  

[Daisy Sunflower]

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@LonestarBabs wrote:

@KKJ   No, Mom didn't live in a fancy neighborhood. Just a tidy, estabished area of nicer homes. No HOA. I thought their actions were presumptious, too, but didn't get as "twisted" about it as my Mom and sister. The people lived way up the street so their focus on Mom's house was a bit strange, but maybe they figured a widow would appreciate the help. Needless to say, a knock on the door would have been nice. There weren't that many weeds, either!

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That's what I would think. They probably thought they were doing something nice for her.

Out of curiosity, I would have asked my sister to email me several pics of the yard so I could see for myself what it actually looked like.

[Silver Lining]

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@Silver Lining wrote:

A very good friend of mine came over and mowed and edged the lawn while I was out of state for three weeks. He went ahead and edged the next door neighbor's driveway as a favor. The neighbor went all crazy. I guess that's okay but he didn't have to act like that.

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There is no reason to act crazy. However, I would not edge unless it was already edged. I would never do something new, or different. It is no longer a good deed if you impose your will on someone's property.

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I know. I would never touch anything in someone's yard without asking.  However, I wasn't back from my trip when my friend came over to take care of my yard which was much appreciated by me. I found out later that this neighbor was actually at home and saw my friend. One might ask how I know. The neighbor himself didn't say anything to my friend before, during or after it happened. He jumped on me the minute I came home. 

[Suziepeach]

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@Daisy Sunflower wrote:

A few years back, the teenager next door came over and plowed our driveway with their atv with plow blade attachment. He didn't ask if we wanted it done, he just did it. I thought that was very nice. I went over and gave him some money. He refused it, but I insisted he take it.

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@Daisy Sunflower now see that was a sweet gesture and your acknowledging him was sweet of you too.  It's a simple game, do a nice deed and in some form or another, one is paid back.

My husband has a snow blade for his yard tractor- if and when we get another round of snow like a few years ago, we've decided he'd scrap everyone's drive way and make a clearing in the road.  We're in the beginning of a cul-de-sac and I know everyone would get a kick out of his gesture.