Community Chat

[occasionalrain]

While good deeds are often appreciated, some are unwanted and then some.

Before presuming to do what you think is a benevolent favor, it's best to ask if it's wanted.

Would you want to surprised to find your neighbor in your driveway washing your car ? I wouldn't.

I had a neighbor who took it upon himself one fall to rake our leaves. I don't want my leaves raked because insects lay their eggs in those leaves and I want them left undisturbed.

Same neighbor disposed of my Christmas tree that was outside and meant to be donated to an environmental group.

[Kachina624]

@occasionalrain.  Where do you live?  I'll buy your house.

[dimin]

I'm weird, No matter how dirty my kitchen is or for how long I don't want help. It's just that I want the satisfaction of doing it myself. Part is I don't want someone doing it and it looks like I can't (which is kind of the case). At least if you want to help, ask me first.  That's why I'm weird. Especially no help from guests, even if the guest is my own son. I'll clean fast if someone wants to cook. At least I'll clean the cooking area. 

[happycat]

I took garden vegetables to a new neighbor one time and she let me know right quick she didn't cook, said she didn't want the veggies, I told her it was ok, I'd take them back home. That I wanted to meet she and her dh. 

She ended up keeping the veggies. I was offended but then she needed something, and called me, and you know what? She turned out to be ok. She just wasn't in the mood to cook. 

[AuntG]

In one way, it would be nice, but in another way, I might feel I'm not doing a good enough job maintaining my property. We really appreciated a neighbor who cleaned away a big snow drift at the end if our driveway. However, another neighbor would always bring up the garbage cans when their was no rush to bring them up.

[manny2]

I would just be grateful you have such thoughtful neighbors. It is a simple fix just tell them next time you put something out, or after the leaves fall that while you appreciated the thoughtful gesture you just discovered the insect egg info, so you are going to let them stay undisturbed. Same for the tree. Just say thanks for helping last year, but this year it will be donated and picked up.

[sunshine45]

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@happycat wrote:

I took garden vegetables to a new neighbor one times and she let me know right quick she didn't cook, said she didn't want the veggies, I told her it was ok, I'd take them back home. That I wanted to meet she and her dh. 

She ended up keeping the veggies. I was offended but then she needed something, and called me, and you know what? She turned out to be ok. She just wasn't in the mood to cook. 

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if i did not want them i would have taken them anyways and passed them along to someone who enjoys cooking and/or enjoys vegetables. so nice that you broke the ice and got acquainted. 

[occasionalrain]

@Kachina624 

I should disclose that my house does not include my neighbor since he died two years ago. Still interested?

[Porcelain]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

While good deeds are often appreciated, some are unwanted and then some.

Before presuming to do what you think is a benevolent favor, it's best to ask if it's wanted.

Would you want to surprised to find your neighbor in your driveway washing your car ? I wouldn't.

I had a neighbor who took it upon himself one fall to rake our leaves. I don't want my leaves raked because insects lay their eggs in those leaves and I want them left undisturbed.

Same neighbor disposed of my Christmas tree that was outside and meant to be donated to an environmental group.

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You have got some HIGH CLASS problems! I'm pretty impressed and interested in swapping.

[occasionalrain]

One of my neighbors puts his extra vegetables on a table at the edge of his yard with a Free sign.