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[LilacTree]

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@Sweet_Serenity wrote:

This is good news. You sound healthy no expectations. Having been there with my Father 12 yrs ago wounds healed. Both of us learned valuable lesson. Fast forward to present day Dad 94 healthy but alas clock is ticking quickly. Makes me thankful we are right. Praying for you and your family. May God bless you all. Sincerely.⚘

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@Sweet_Serenity

Thank you, Sweet Serenity.  One slow step at a time and, hopefully, I will get to have my whole family back again.  That would be my gift of a lifetime.

[LilacTree]

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@cherry wrote:

@LilacTree  are you feeling better?

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@cherry

From the UTI, cherry . . . yes, better.  Still have two docs to go for the other issues.  Have two more appointments near the end of the month.  Thank you for asking.

[Mominohio]

THis sounds like great news. and I can imagine you have mixed emotions about the whole thing right now.

I would be feeling cautious, not wanting to get my hopes up too much, just to be hurt later when things either didn't progress or actually went backward. 

Dealing with adult children can be so much harder than I ever anticipated it could be. 

I hope this opens the door to a better relationship than you have had in the past, and although you didn't ask for any advice, I would simply say to guard your heart a bit at this point in time, as I know the hurt will be immense should things revert back to the way it was. 

In the meantime, tread lightly, give her space and try to remember you can only have the relationship with someone that they will allow you to have.

[meallen616]

Definitely a step in the right direction, happy for you!

[OKPrincess]

@LilacTree One step at a time. I'm very happy for you and your family.

[LilacTree]

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@Mominohio wrote:

THis sounds like great news. and I can imagine you have mixed emotions about the whole thing right now.

I would be feeling cautious, not wanting to get my hopes up too much, just to be hurt later when things either didn't progress or actually went backward. 

Dealing with adult children can be so much harder than I ever anticipated it could be. 

I hope this opens the door to a better relationship than you have had in the past, and although you didn't ask for any advice, I would simply say to guard your heart a bit at this point in time, as I know the hurt will be immense should things revert back to the way it was. 

In the meantime, tread lightly, give her space and try to remember you can only have the relationship with someone that they will allow you to have.

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@Mominohio

Yes . . . I'm going to let her take the lead.  I always maintained a relationship with my granddaughter, and she never interfered with that.  I don't see my grandson, but nobody sees much of him.  He's a 30 year old bachelor and has a thousand friends and they are always off somewhere.

But for right now, this is enough for me.

[LilacTree]

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@Trinity11 wrote:

@LilacTree...music to my ears!!! Words cannot express how happy I am for you. This is a giant step ...an opening for you to get to know one another again.

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@Trinity11

Yes, we have both changed.  She is very successful in real estate on LBI, so she is able to have the life she always wanted.  Both she and my granddaughter love living in the city (Philadelphia). 

[cherry]

You are smart to go slow and let her lead.  It's best not to try to make things happen too quickly.  She  might be  still a bit difficult ,but, I am sure you know this

[goldensrbest]

I think it is wonderful ,she stopped by to see her sister,and offer to take her out ,and you.

[LilacTree]

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@cherry wrote:

You are smart to go slow and let her lead.  It's best not to try to make things happen too quickly.  She  might be  still a bit difficult ,but, I am sure you know this

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@cherry

Oh yes I do.  She was never an easy person even as a child.  I know I have to let her take the lead. 

I don't think the two of them will ever be reunited, but I'll deal with that as it comes also.  I won't even try to make that happen.