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[icezeus]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

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@gertrudecloset wrote:

@suzyQ3 My locality is $$$.  Every little thing they can write a ticket for they will.  After 4:00p.m. the prior day for trash pick up the next day.  Receptacles to be moved by 9:00a.m. on trash day (assuming trash has been picked up by then).

Thing about this is they don't always come on time and the trash is there sometimes way past 9:00a.m.  That's the only time they won't give you a ticket.

During the pandemic the trash situation got bad.  I wrote and called to complain to everyone I could.  We're back to a normal schedule now.

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@gertrudecloset, how does one move their trash cans if they are at work?

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@suzyQ3 

I asked the same question. 

[Linmo]

@jellyBEAN From the title of the thread and your posts, it sounds like you might be more bothered by the unfriendliness of your neighbor rather than the trash she put in your can.  I'm glad you feel better about it after notifying the HOA.  

Some people suffer from social anxiety and other issues that might be interpreted as unfriendly.  Maybe you can take the high road and reach out as her neighbor.

[KarenQVC]

@Etoile308 Aye, that's the joke.

[DiAnne]

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@Linmo wrote:

@jellyBEAN From the title of the thread and your posts, it sounds like you might be more bothered by the unfriendliness of your neighbor rather than the trash she put in your can.  I'm glad you feel better about it after notifying the HOA.  

Some people suffer from social anxiety and other issues that might be interpreted as unfriendly.  Maybe you can take the high road and reach out as her neighbor.

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@jellyBEAN 

I bet she will really want to be friends since you reported her!

[77yangya]

I mean, SOME PAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would have flown out my front door and said,  WAIT A MINUTE!!!

That is MY trash barrel and NO ONE's trash goes in it but mine.

I had a neighbor that had a son.  The cops were always being called because he was outside all night beating up his girlfriend.  He's gone now but one time he was eating some slopping stuff and as he passed our barrel he pick up the lid and threw the slopping contents of a bowl in our brand new barrel.  I did not actually SEE him do it but I saw him eating it and two seconds later the lid was askew and all oily sloppy gunk was sliding down the inside of the barrel.  I was LIVID.  Because I didn't actually SEE the deed I didn't confront but I KNOW he did it.  He's gone now but I did confront a Fed Ex guy that threw thrash in the road in front of our house.  I blasted him out.  I would not tolerate it.  I'd keep a close eye during trash day and if I saw it again, I'd say something.

[77yangya]

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@Porcelain wrote:

I'd start a little "to-catch-a-trash-piggybacker" log and record the date and time I saw her do it. Put this down as the first item. Once you've got 3 or 4 recorded on there, then take it to the HOA. For it to be taken more seriously, it helps if you can show a pattern.

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That's a good idea to start a log but you need proof.  I would video it.  Heresay is not quite enough, I'm afraid.

[77yangya]

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@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:

Maybe I'm missing something but this seems petty especially since you said you would have been fine with it had it been handled differently. My suggestion is to be the bigger person and let it go. It's trash. It will be picked up soon enough.

Also, instead of 'treating her the same', what's the harm in waving to her, etc just because she may not wave to you? The world needs more neighborliness, not less.

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That's a nice attitude but if she gets away with this well, what else will she try?  No, I say get out the old bud nipper.

[77yangya]

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@spiderw wrote:

My neighbors are nice and when it snows, they help clear my property.  They asked me along the way if they could put some recyclables in my bin provided by the town.  They have a bin but sometimes have an overflow of recyclables and I don't always fill my bin.  I said they could.  They did use my bin a few times when It wasn't full.  However, one evening before I put out the bin for collection, it was already on the curb.  I had several boxes I had to break up and it took time.  When I went out to put the boxes in the bin, it was full to the brim! I knew it was from the neighbors and no one asked me for permission.  I felt like they just assumed they could do so because I let them before.  That didn't sit well with me of course so I did say something about it in a nice way.  The husband understood and that was that.  They haven't asked to put anything in the bin since and are still friendly. That was my experience.

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I think they were taking advantage of you.  Good thing you said something.  I mean, people can be really low.  I would NEVER EVER step on anyone like that.  I was not raised that way.  I don't touch what does not belong to me and that's that.

[CalminHeart]

This sounds petty to me. Big deal if she put a bag in your trash can. There are many reasons she might have done this. Even if not, it doesn't bother me. Take the high road. Not worth the angst.

[teganslaw]

No advice, but I've noticed people getting confrontational over this issue. Then they wonder why the world is in such bad shape. What would the reaction be if something serious happened to them.