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[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@Cakers3 wrote:

These are not regular guests; it's unfair to accuse a  host of being "rude" because said host is unwilling to cater to every dietary demand of one time guests.

Honestly-how many here actually have guests they've never know prior to this TD?

You know your family dietary needs and those of the friends you invite; I seriously doubt that people are serving dinner to folks they have never met.

Nobody should be expected to rearrange a menu (planned ahead of time) so that FISH of all things be offered. 

These employees are out of line, imo.  Even products you buy off the shelf have warnings that the product is manufactured in a facility that also produces soy, nuts, etc.

What is the host supposed to do?  Sanitize the whole house in case one of her ingredients crossed with another dish?

You know your guests and what they need; these are unknown people with a one-time shot at this home;  HOME not a RESTAURANT.

For pity sake-the host is trying to do something nice; the guests are out of line.

I also do not see a bashing against any person HERE who doesn't eat meat or has allergies or is lactose intolerant or whatever; nor should there be.  As well as there shouldn't be a high and might attitude for those who claim to be so inclusive of every dietary need on the planet.

This is why I think the whole holiday is foolish; all about the food and not the message of the day.  It's outdated, not inclusive for our Native Americans, and just another day to complain about relatives, football, rude guests and rude hosts.

Fish indeed.

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Wow so you selectively read this thread and finish with my saying YES fish is traditional at Thanksgiving.

And if you actually read the thread you would know nobody is bashing the Host. The only person who is being questioned is the underling who is giving a one sided rant. And refusing to pass along the info. Did it occur to you that if these people are missed at the Host's Table and the Host finds out afterwards that the OP refused to pass along their dietary needs that the Host might be miffed? To just blame these people because of their diets is ridiculous and small.

We have no way of knowing if the host cares to know about any allergies etc. So by all means just run with ignorance and insult those who have hosted gatherings and put concern and responsibility of their guest before their own comfort.

After reading all of the thread and the OP's replies I question whether or not these people actually made such demands or if the OP was just to overworked and is seeing any notice as too much. Not everyone is going to fall in line with the there there approach and agree with the OP. No need for you to be so insulting. But I am right and you are so wrong...Yawn and moving on...

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@AngusandBuddhasMom I never said I refused to pass along any information about dietary restrictions.  In fact, I specifically said I would pass along that people were gluten free and vegetarian if asked.  The only thing I said that I wouldn’t mention were the rude ways in which the guests specifically requested certain foods, and that was more to protect the character of the guests and not to make the host feel put out.  You are incredibly rude and a flat out liar for calling me names and making up stories about what I said I would and wouldn’t do.  Hopefully no one will ever take the time and care to protect or defend your character in the way that I have gone out of my way to do for these people.  They’re just picky eaters.  There is so much more wrong with you.

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Back atcha Doll. Continue I am not going to comment anymore on your crazy rant.

[QueenDanceALot]

Aren't the Holidays just so joyful?

[sunshine45]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

Aren't the Holidays just so joyful?

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LOL @QueenDanceALot

just a few of the MANY reasons why people dont mind working OR shopping on thanksgiving day.

[cherry]

They simply should have declined the invitation. I would do that. I have a lot of things I can't eat, and I don't expect anyone to cater to my needs

I usually explain that ,when we get an invitation.  It is just easier to eat out with friends, than to make the hostess jump through hoops, trying to fix things I can eat

It sounds like they wanted a free meal, catered to their own needs. That is selfish and tacky. Let them find alternative places to go. They are rude and selfish. They aren't the only one the hostess has to feed

[sunshine45]

@cherry

the hosts of the party HAVE asked if there are any dietary needs of her guests.....which i think is WONDERFUL! it is something that i have always done and continue to do. if you are going to host an event, this is the kind of host to be.

[cherry]

@sunshine45  there are just too many things I can't eat and ways that people fix food, that upsets my stomach for me to attend something like this

If I only did have 1 thing that  I couldn't eat, I would simply eat what I could,  from among the foods offered ,and shut up about it.

I think these people are rude

[sunshine45]

@cherry

we can agree to disagree.....and i applaud the hosts for making their guests feel comfortable around a thanksgiving table.....especially since they are away from their family and friends at this time.

[TenderMercies]

I just got a call from the hotel where the "fish dinner" employee is staying.  It's a lovely Residence Inn that is only a year old.  He is in a one bedroom suite with a kitchen.  Apparently this employee has been quite a nightmare for the hotel staff.  He complained that the mini blinds in the bedroom weren't sufficient to block out the morning sun, so he requested "black out" curtains be installed in the bedroom.  They accomodated his request, but apparently the "black out" curtains aren't "black out" enough for him, so he is requesting better "black out" curtains for the bedroom.  Additionally, he is claiming he has lower back issues and that the bed in his room isn't firm enough, so he now wants a new mattress.  They let me know that they will not be accomodating either of these new requests, and that they suggest I find him another hotel to stay in if theirs isn't suitable to his needs.  I'm about to put him in the storage room at a Long John Silver's, and let him sleep on a piece of cardboard on the floor.  That should cover everything.

[Isobel Archer]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

I just got a call from the hotel where the "fish dinner" employee is staying.  It's a lovely Residence Inn that is only a year old.  He is in a one bedroom suite with a kitchen.  Apparently this employee has been quite a nightmare for the hotel staff.  He complained that the mini blinds in the bedroom weren't sufficient to block out the morning sun, so he requested "black out" curtains be installed in the bedroom.  They accomodated his request, but apparently the "black out" curtains aren't "black out" enough for him, so he is requesting better "black out" curtains for the bedroom.  Additionally, he is claiming he has lower back issues and that the bed in his room isn't firm enough, so he now wants a new mattress.  They let me know that they will not be accomodating either of these new requests, and that they suggest I find him another hotel to stay in if theirs isn't suitable to his needs.  I'm about to put him in the storage room at a Long John Silver's, and let him sleep on a piece of cardboard on the floor.  That should cover everything.

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This should definitely be elevated to your boss.  Sounds now like this guy is embarassing your organization.

[Moonchilde]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

I just got a call from the hotel where the "fish dinner" employee is staying.  It's a lovely Residence Inn that is only a year old.  He is in a one bedroom suite with a kitchen.  Apparently this employee has been quite a nightmare for the hotel staff.  He complained that the mini blinds in the bedroom weren't sufficient to block out the morning sun, so he requested "black out" curtains be installed in the bedroom.  They accomodated his request, but apparently the "black out" curtains aren't "black out" enough for him, so he is requesting better "black out" curtains for the bedroom.  Additionally, he is claiming he has lower back issues and that the bed in his room isn't firm enough, so he now wants a new mattress.  They let me know that they will not be accomodating either of these new requests, and that they suggest I find him another hotel to stay in if theirs isn't suitable to his needs.  I'm about to put him in the storage room at a Long John Silver's, and let him sleep on a piece of cardboard on the floor.  That should cover everything.

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This should be a warning signal/wake-up call for the company. If this employee is within a probationary period where they can be let go at will, IMO they should be as “not a good fit for the organization.”

Otherwise, they are stuck with an employee who will be playing the company, its HR and its disability attys forever. I’ve seen this multiple times.  Multiple family leaves, each one maxed out. Doctors’ notes for everything. Any and every way they can drive fellow employees and corporate nuts and get a free ride/gravy train/special treatment, they will.

I seriously think someone else in your company relevant to this behavior should be made aware of his little history over the past week+ before it’s “too late.” And if it is too late, then let their own managers suffer them in their own city.