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[CrazyDaisy]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

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@SahmIam wrote:

@CrazyDaisy  Going by what the restaurants here serve, you see on the cover of magazines and all the homes I've been to over the decades, a traditional Thanksgiving Dinner is considered:

*Turkey

*stuffing

*mashed potatoes

*sweet potato casserole

*cranberry sauce

*greenbeans of some type

*another vegi dish

*gravy

*rolls

*pumpkin pie

Now, ALL of those may be cooked in a huge variety of ways. In addition, I've seen ADDITIONAL items added to them menu depending on where in the country I've been. Many friends bring Mac & Cheese and/or sauerkraut to a Thanksgiving dinner. Some serve biscuits, some do croissants, some to clover leaf rolls. Some have dishes with an Italian flair to them. But usually, not always, but usually the "traditional" dinner associated with Thanksgiving is what I've listed.

I bet if you did a survey/poll, you'd find the majority state those items and then some. There are ALWAYS exceptions, of course.

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That is your idea of a Thanksgiving dinner, yes.  I know people who do not even serve Turkey.  I also know that half the items on that list will not be on the table I will be at next week.  People from different parts of the country and backgrounds have very different ideas of traditional. 

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@CrazyDaisy Really?  Come on.  If someone were to invite you to Thanksgiving and told you it would be a traditional Thanksgiving meal, they would not be calling it a "traditional Thanksgiving meal" if it didn't include what resembles the above list.  

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No need to be so nasty, do what you want.  Just hope it doen't backfire on you.  Enjoy your holiday.

[TenderMercies]

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@goldensrbest wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

For the love of all things gluten. Last time I get it.

My daughter has celiac I get it. She is an adult now so I don't have to bake or shop for her and spend the extra time reading a gazillion ingredients on packages in the store trying to see what is ok and not. I could write a cook book of a ton of recipes that I learned to make sure she was not feeling left out.  Please stop explaining to me about GF, CELIAC. She was diagnosed in high school. she had the endoscope done and it came back 100% positive so I know what it is. And back then it was not even a thing. Like it is now.  Thank you. 

Good grief sorry I posted here.

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That was your daughter,of course you would treat her special,but if she was invited to a persons home to eat ,i don't think they should do the same.

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Nor would she although anytime I have invited over people who I don't know because of my DD situation I ask if they have any dietary issues. But that's just me. I wouldn't invite someone over and make them feel like they have put me out. If I am hosting then I extend that welcoming to my guest. They should feel welcome and know that. Really not hard as others have mentioned. Who invites people over and them becomes belligerent and offish to their guest because they eat differently. Why invite someone if you don't intend to make them feel welcome? 

From reading the posts I don't think its the person who is hosting I think the OP feels put out having to deal with this. I certainly would let the person hosting know so that there were no issues. 

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The original post is a rant about how many people in modern society have become rude and selfish.  No one in this situation has dietary needs, they've made dietary CHOICES.  To respond to an invitation to someone's home to share a holiday meal with their family and to specifically request a fish meal is out of line.  I cannot say that to a board member of my organization.  My boss would probably either chew me out or fire me.  

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Got it. No wonder you are ranting apparently you work for people who deem themselves above you but expect you to work magic with their requests. Are these people who were invited also on their deemed level or are they normal people?

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Well, the board of directors are the bosses of my boss, so they are definitely above me in terms of the food chain of my company.  In that same food chain, the dinner guests would be considered underneath me.  I don't mean this in terms of class, I mean it in terms of the hierarchy of the company.

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

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@SahmIam wrote:

@CrazyDaisy  Going by what the restaurants here serve, you see on the cover of magazines and all the homes I've been to over the decades, a traditional Thanksgiving Dinner is considered:

*Turkey

*stuffing

*mashed potatoes

*sweet potato casserole

*cranberry sauce

*greenbeans of some type

*another vegi dish

*gravy

*rolls

*pumpkin pie

Now, ALL of those may be cooked in a huge variety of ways. In addition, I've seen ADDITIONAL items added to them menu depending on where in the country I've been. Many friends bring Mac & Cheese and/or sauerkraut to a Thanksgiving dinner. Some serve biscuits, some do croissants, some to clover leaf rolls. Some have dishes with an Italian flair to them. But usually, not always, but usually the "traditional" dinner associated with Thanksgiving is what I've listed.

I bet if you did a survey/poll, you'd find the majority state those items and then some. There are ALWAYS exceptions, of course.

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That is your idea of a Thanksgiving dinner, yes.  I know people who do not even serve Turkey.  I also know that half the items on that list will not be on the table I will be at next week.  People from different parts of the country and backgrounds have very different ideas of traditional. 

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Yes I agree I have different things in my menu as well. Also some of my guest are from the ME so our "traditional shared thanksgiving " has things other then what is above and that is fine with me.

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@goldensrbest wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

For the love of all things gluten. Last time I get it.

My daughter has celiac I get it. She is an adult now so I don't have to bake or shop for her and spend the extra time reading a gazillion ingredients on packages in the store trying to see what is ok and not. I could write a cook book of a ton of recipes that I learned to make sure she was not feeling left out.  Please stop explaining to me about GF, CELIAC. She was diagnosed in high school. she had the endoscope done and it came back 100% positive so I know what it is. And back then it was not even a thing. Like it is now.  Thank you. 

Good grief sorry I posted here.

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That was your daughter,of course you would treat her special,but if she was invited to a persons home to eat ,i don't think they should do the same.

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Nor would she although anytime I have invited over people who I don't know because of my DD situation I ask if they have any dietary issues. But that's just me. I wouldn't invite someone over and make them feel like they have put me out. If I am hosting then I extend that welcoming to my guest. They should feel welcome and know that. Really not hard as others have mentioned. Who invites people over and them becomes belligerent and offish to their guest because they eat differently. Why invite someone if you don't intend to make them feel welcome? 

From reading the posts I don't think its the person who is hosting I think the OP feels put out having to deal with this. I certainly would let the person hosting know so that there were no issues. 

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The original post is a rant about how many people in modern society have become rude and selfish.  No one in this situation has dietary needs, they've made dietary CHOICES.  To respond to an invitation to someone's home to share a holiday meal with their family and to specifically request a fish meal is out of line.  I cannot say that to a board member of my organization.  My boss would probably either chew me out or fire me.  

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Got it. No wonder you are ranting apparently you work for people who deem themselves above you but expect you to work magic with their requests. Are these people who were invited also on their deemed level or are they normal people?

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Well, the board of directors are the bosses of my boss, so they are definitely above me in terms of the food chain of my company.  In that same food chain, the dinner guests would be considered underneath me.  I don't mean this in terms of class, I mean it in terms of the hierarchy of the company.

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I understand it can become tricky.  Well I hope it all works out! 

[QueenDanceALot]

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@goldensrbest wrote:

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

For the love of all things gluten. Last time I get it.

My daughter has celiac I get it. She is an adult now so I don't have to bake or shop for her and spend the extra time reading a gazillion ingredients on packages in the store trying to see what is ok and not. I could write a cook book of a ton of recipes that I learned to make sure she was not feeling left out.  Please stop explaining to me about GF, CELIAC. She was diagnosed in high school. she had the endoscope done and it came back 100% positive so I know what it is. And back then it was not even a thing. Like it is now.  Thank you. 

Good grief sorry I posted here.

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That was your daughter,of course you would treat her special,but if she was invited to a persons home to eat ,i don't think they should do the same.

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Nor would she although anytime I have invited over people who I don't know because of my DD situation I ask if they have any dietary issues. But that's just me. I wouldn't invite someone over and make them feel like they have put me out. If I am hosting then I extend that welcoming to my guest. They should feel welcome and know that. Really not hard as others have mentioned. Who invites people over and them becomes belligerent and offish to their guest because they eat differently. Why invite someone if you don't intend to make them feel welcome? 

From reading the posts I don't think its the person who is hosting I think the OP feels put out having to deal with this. I certainly would let the person hosting know so that there were no issues. 

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@AngusandBuddhasMom

I can't imagine inviting people over for dinner and not taking their needs into consideration.  I think that's part of being a good host.  How is it welcoming to have the attitude, "well, this is what I fixed, and if you don't like it, too bad, don't eat".  Sounds like a mean mother to me.

That said, I don't eat animal products and I do not expect anyone to cook anything special for me when I go visit.  If they DO, I find it to be very kind and welcoming of them.  Inevitably, there are always others there who don't eat animal products either. I always bring a dish whenever I go to someone's home anyway, unless they have specifically said not to.  Those of us who don't eat animal products aren't "trendy" and I don't feel we should be the object of scorn because of our food choices.  We don't have to have a documented allergy to choose what we eat and what we don't.  

And, judging by many of the posts on this thread, there is a lot of scorn towards those who choose to eat differently than they do.

And who said it's "Turkey Day"?  No, it's not "Turkey Day", it's Thanksgiving Day.

Just another shot at those who don't eat animal products.

[SahmIam]

@CrazyDaisy and @AngusandBuddhasMom  Which is why I said it often differs depending on where you live and your background. Did you read that part? In my area we include additional items that would make others gag/raise an eyebrow. When I lived in AZ, the meal was completely different from what I posted when I went to someone's house. Didn't expect that but hey, it was a great time and that was what mattered.

Glad you all eat something different; have a great meal!

[QueenDanceALot]

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

@qualitygal Your post reminded me of the saying we all grew up with from our Mom's "if you cannot say anything nice then say nothing at all" 

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This thread actually reminds me of those mothers who tell their kids, "you'll eat what I cook or you can do without".

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

[TenderMercies]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

@qualitygal Your post reminded me of the saying we all grew up with from our Mom's "if you cannot say anything nice then say nothing at all" 

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This thread actually reminds me of those mothers who tell their kids, "you'll eat what I cook or you can do without".

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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I don't see anyone here supporting that kind of attitude.  I see people acknowledging the fact that if a complete stranger is invited to share a holiday dinner in a private home with a family, it is inappropriate for that stranger to request a specific dish be made for them.  

[Lilysmom]

I haven't read all of this thread, but a lot.  Does anyone else ever notice how the subject of food gets people all worked up?  Note to self, don't post about food...

Just an attempt at a little levity.  Happy Thanksgiving.  LM

[Regal Bee]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home.  I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December.  A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner.  I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count.  At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal."  Is it wrong that I'm angry about this?  I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving?  I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins.  Accept it as it is, or make other plans."  Can you believe the nerve of some people?    

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@TenderMercies No, it is not wrong of you. This is totally rude. Period.