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[wagirl]

@50Mickey ---sorry---still disagree---not a big thing---its a yes or a no--thats all. Just wonder if the food will be worth the $$. Have ordered already prepared food and it was gross---

[Lipstickdiva]

I can guarantee you that I could do Thanksgiving dinner for my husband and me for less than $25.00 per person.  Thanksgiving is one of the cheapest holidays we do. 

I find this invite to be odd but if you are good friends with this couple, I would go and this would be a lesson learned.  I certainly wouldn't stoop to their level of rudeness by telling them off if you choose to decline the invite.  That serves no purpose at all, except to be rude. 

[wagirl]

@Love my grandkids --OMG---just because you accept an invite does not mean you can't  un-accept it!!! It's not like OP showed up and was handed a bill --there is a huge amount of time til T-day!!!  Really this is such a non issue!!!! You go or you don't.

[jackthebear]

if one extends an invitation for dinner, the implication is that I as host are providing the food.

It is one thing to say "hey let's order dinner and split the cost", totally boorish to invite then ask for payment 

[Lucky Charm]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

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@Love my grandkids wrote:

Why do adults feel the need to make excuses?

I'd just flat out say the original invite DID not include a payment and therefore we won't be coming or paying.

It's really not that hard to do. If you have the backbone to actually DO it. Which I doubt they will.

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It may not be hard, but it also wouldn't be diplomatic. In essence, what you recommend translates as, "When we thought it a free dinner, we accepted, but we don't care about spending time with you and your husband, and definitely not if we have to pay".

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The diplomatic thing to have done is not making that phone call.

I don't think people are like 'Woo Hoo! a free dinner!' when they get invited.  Usually, you reciprocate, so then you prepare or treat them to a dinner.

A Thanksgiving dinner isn't really that expensive and especially for 4 people.

Grocery stores usually offer free turkeys or hams when you're spending your usual money on groceries up to that point.

And I never spent my day with my head in the oven constantly tending to the turkey like some people do.  I baste it once or twice and walk away and it's just as juicy.  And I never got up early to get the bird in the oven, they'd be eating it for lunch, if I did.

None of it is a big production, but, if the woman hates to cook, then she should have a meal prepared for her guests she's invited --and that's the cost of when you hate to cook.  You spend a lot of money on ordering or dining out.  

[Spurt]

@Duckncover 

Gee wonder if they charge the trick or treaters for the candy they give out for Halloween...🎃

I think that was a bit forward and rude and odd if they  sprung your portion of the bill AFTER you were invited.....Now if she called you and said, "what are you doing for Thanksgiving, we will be alone this year,  I was thinking of ordering dinner from a restaurant instead of cooking it would cost $25 per person, would you like to join us?" And if that was too much to spend, you could say, "We have other plans for dinner, what about we get together later for dessert and we'll provide the pumpkin pie!"

[SloopJohnB]

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@Drythe wrote:

@Duckncover 

When I invite someone to my home, I can’t imagine asking them to pay.  It is an odd thing to me, likely I would bow out.

BTW - does the $50.00 per couple include wine and coffee?

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@Drythe @Duckncover   What about tax and tip? 😉.  Or maybe it's dinner and a show.  🦃🍗🕺💃

[Trinity11]

Personally, I guess I am touchy but I would have been insulted. I would have made an excuse and bowed out. My personal pet peeve are cheap people. I remember a millionaire five times over relative inviting us to dinner after my husband's aunt's wake. At the end of the dinner, he added up our meals (to the penny plus tip) and asked for it from everyone at the table. My husband quickly grabbed the bill and paid for the whole table even though his uncle had invited us. 😳😩

Dellabelle, bow out.😳

[MarthaStewardess]

How tacky of them.  I would cancel.

[beckyb1012]

Oh my word.  This is worse than the couples who charge guests coming to their wedding to help foot the bill.  I would decline and fix a peanut butter sandwich before I would allow those people to be my host.  Cannot imagine asking any guest in my home to foot a bill.

Please keep us updated on this I would like to hear about the outcome.  Even if you go would love to know how the dinner is for the payment you made.