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[SeaMaiden]

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@elizabethl123 wrote:

my niece got married sent a check  took her 6 months to send a thank you  

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@elizabethl123  Did it take her 6 months to cash and spend it? I doubt it. No excuse to send a ThankYou 6 months after the fact!

[millieshops]

@I am appleblossomI think phone calls and texts are just fine.  It's the acknowledgement, not a piece of paper that is meaningful to me. 

Most of the written thank you's I receive come from friends my age (70+).  The majority of the younger family members call or text;  the good aspect is that only rarely have gifts gone without responses.

[Its Me LuLuBelle2]

Prior to retiring I worked for a small company (I was the only woman in the company). One of of the young men I worked with, and his wife, had bought a home and invited the entire office to their housewarming party. I collected $100 from each employee and bought gift cards from Home Depot for $2,200. Nice chunk of change, right? The party was on Saturday. When I got to work Monday morning I opened up a two sentence email from ny co-worker's wife. This is exactly what it said. "LuLu, thank you to you and the guys for the gift card. Please foward my email to all in the office." Not too tacky! I'm old and my blood pressure sky rocketed. Don't bother if that's the best you can do.

[SeaMaiden]

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@Its Me LuLuBelle2 wrote:
Prior to retiring I worked for a small company (I was the only woman in the company). One of of the young men I worked with, and his wife, had bought a home and invited the entire office to their housewarming party. I collected $100 from each employee and bought gift cards from Home Depot for $2,200. Nice chunk of change, right? The party was on Saturday. When I got to work Monday morning I opened up a two sentence email from ny co-worker's wife. This is exactly what it said. "LuLu, thank you to you and the guys for the gift card. Please foward my email to all in the office." Not too tacky! I'm old and my blood pressure sky rocketed. Don't bother if that's the best you can do.

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@Its Me LuLuBelle2  THAT is the new generation....selfish and inconsiderate.

[GCR18]

I occasionally get a verbal thank you.

[grandma r]

Thank you for your replies.  Good manners don't go out of style!!!!  

Nieces and nephews on my husband's side never acknowledged gifts.  As they got older, we sent checks (at least we knew the gifts were received when the checks were cashed).

Over the past few years we have given several wedding, shower, and baby gifts to several 20 and 30 somethings.  Not one thank you!!!   A text, email, or phone call would have been appreciated.

Sadly, only one of my children sends thank you notes and so do her children.  Those notes are sent out right away.  The others, and their children, can't be bothered.

I just don't get it!!!

[Kitlynn]

I still write them and so does my grown daughter. It is just common courtesy. I personally feel like if you can't take the time to write a Thank You then the person who gave you something might not feel like they need to waste their time doing something for you. I have cut back on sending gifts to some people because I never hear if they got them, liked them or anything.

[Cruzzing]

Don't get me going. I've told my son a text is fine but many times we hear nothing. I know their boys will never write them. I've threatened to skip DIL because she's never acknowledged anything! When their first child arrived, we sent a book & stuffed animal. 6 weeks went by & I know you're exhausted, but a phone call would have been nice. I finally had him on the phone & asked if they received gift. Long pause & then, "I thought we sent a note." No, we didn't receive it. It hasn't changed & im just letting it go.....

[DiAnne]

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@blackhole99 wrote:

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@lovesrecess wrote:
Are you tempted not to send another gift to a person who doesn't acknowledge one ?

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If I don't get an acknowledgement that you received my gift, you will never get another. If the kids do not want to write thank you notes they can email, text, or even call. Good manners is never out of fashion or obsolete.

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I have an adult grandson in another state that I am about at that point.  I would like to know if he even got the gift certificate or Christmas present without having to ask his mother.  

[SXMGirl]

I don't think that many young people even give it a thought to send a thank you note.  I sent a beautiful fruit and chocolate tray to Happy and Darcy's doggie daycare.  I finally just asked if they had received it because it was expensive and I wanted to make sure that they received it.  They got it and loved it, so I was glad to hear that.  We also gave our server at our local diner $50 for her high school graduation.  Since we tip her very well, I saw no reason to give more.  Again, no thank you, but I personally handed her the card with the money.

I think it is just a different time.  Unfortunately, for some of them, they might find that they lose out on a job promotion or an opportunity just because they have not been taught a very important part of good manners.