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[Big Joanie]

I just received one this week for a gift I sent to a baby shower ....

However .. the last 2 weddings I went to it was the groom who send

the thank you notes ....

[Annabellethecat66]

@Barb114 Well, thank you.  We/I have warts on and in our family just like everyone.

The difference (to me anyway) is that when a family member messes up, we don't hold it against them.  We all realize everyone messes up.  

We argue and say not so nice things and then (sometimes the next day, sometimes longer or sooner) it's never mentioned and we're back to "good night, I love you".

This goes for all of my family.  We are a large extended family so you can imagine what's gone on in the past!  At different times we will each get together.  

Most of us (I'm talking about sisters, brother, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc) are very outgoing.  You can imagine the talk and how the subject matter goes!  Quite a few of them are nurses.  Oh!  The stories they tell!

Anyway, we have very different politics (usually me and all of the other's on the other side!)  But I'm Aunt Linda (the go to) so we all agree to disagree and try not to discuss politics.  Ha!

I've been told by a lot of people I should write a book about my crazy family but I'd have to call it fiction because no one would believe it!  Ha!

[coffee drinker]

Thank you notes???  Heck, I'd be happy with a phone call.  Just gave .my nephew money ( a sizable amount)  for his graduation and birthday.  We had to leave early, before he opened his gifts and haven't heard a word.  Still waiting.  Just wish I had nerve to forget these occasions.  

[elizabethl123]

my niece got married sent a check  took her 6 months to send a thank you  

[chrystaltree]

It's morphed into thank you emails, which is ok to me but people do indeed still send thank you notes and they still send engraved thank you cards.  You just happen to know a lot of rude, ungrateful people.  I recently received a sweet thank you email from a former co-worker for writing a reference letter for her.  

[chrystaltree]

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@VanSleepy wrote:

I see this complaint a lot.  I guess my friends raised their children right - I always get a thank you note for weddings, showers, birthdays, etc. 

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        I was beginning to think it was just me....lol   I hear this complaint often on this board but it's not my experience.  Sure it happens every now and then but not on a regular basis, it's rare.    It isn't common.  I suppose it might depend on the class...or lack of class of the people they know.

[RedTop]

I would probably fall over dead if my husband or I ever received a thank you from his numerous nieces and nephews.  

I am the one who dutifully remembers all birthdays, writes checks for their weddings, and buys gifts for the baby showers.   Never a response; verbal nor written.   The last niece finishes high school next May, and once she’s out of school, WE ARE DONE.   

[SeaMaiden]

ThankYou notes are something the parent teaches the child to do. 

My Father use to make my sisters and I sit down and write ThankYou letters to  my Grand parents when they sent us presents, cards with money etc.  at the time I did  not really understand why we were writing the letters....but, as I got older  it became  instilled in me to always be humble and grateful to someone who sent or gave me a gift and send a ThankYou letter.  

[chrystaltree]

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@elizabethl123 wrote:

my niece got married sent a check  took her 6 months to send a thank you  

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         Then she did well because the etiquette books say that wedding thank you notes should go out within 3 months of returning from the honeymoon.  Life is busier now so 6 months isn't bad at all.  

[missy1]

Recently, someone was shocked they got a hand-written thank you card from my kid. I told them, I make them do this. It's common courtesy, and to know my kid was appreciative.  This is not the norm, these days.