Community Chat

[I am appleblossom]

I get texts and phone calls from the younger kids in my family.  GTher3e is a 13yr old who sent a written note otherwise I get texts and phone calls.  At least I know they received the card.

[bikerbabe]

IMO a verbal or email thank you is perfectly fine.

[Barb114]

Unfortunately, thank you notes have become a lost art. This generation is the give me generation with no manners. The parent don't seem to care. How were they brought up?

[OKPrincess]

It works both ways — gifts can be obsolete and old fashioned too!!

[drizzellla]

It seemed every year it got harder to get my son to write Thank You notes. One year I kept nagging him, I bet it was everyday. He kept saying he would write them. But never did. So I told everyone PLEASE do not send him anymore gifts. If he couldn't write a thank you note. He did not deserve any gifts. 

[software]

I recently received a lovely, hand written thank you note from a young man for a high school graduation gift.

[Jordan2]

If it’s a wedding, engagement, shower gift I usually get a written thank you ( I think it’s the party element that the recipient feels they should thank  you). If it’s a birthday present I’ll get a verbal thank you and that’s it.

[on the bay]

My daughters and me too, always send thank you's in the mail. It makes people feel good and appreciated and acknowledged and it only takes some time and thought! I love getting them too!

My son always acknowledges gifts but not always with a card-it may be by phone or text and to me they are just as heartfelt.

I do have nieces and nephews who I never know if they got something unless I call and ask. I think some just never have and its not something they do now. It is disappointing.

I'm always excited to send a gift for  special occasions and waiting to hear if they liked it and if I never hear anything, that just takes a lot of joy out of it. And probably after several times of this, I'll just send a card.

[Annabellethecat66]

My daughters and their children always send thank you notes.  

I send out thank you notes all of the time.

Often I'll take my oldest daughter's children (mostly teenagers) shoe shopping, out to lunch, book shopping, things like that.

A few days later I get a thank you note from them.  Each child writes notes on the card.  They're handwritten and specific.

My youngest daughter always sends me thank you notes too.  She lives in Colorado.  Sometimes if she sees a funny card she'll send it to me.  Recently, she sent me a comic card of a woman carrying lots of grocery bags on her arm (frantically struggling).  The card said, "Finally, I did it!  I carried everything on one arm"!

She knew I'd think it was funny because I'm aways bragging about carrying so many bags up my stairs!

Another friend bought me a coffee cup with a squirrel on it that says, "Excuse me....you're out of birdseed".  She sent that because I'm always complaining about the squirrels eating all of my bird seed.  

Just funny things!  I'll send people who might need a little lift flowers with a note that says, "I love you and I'm thinking of you".  I don't go to funerals or send flowers, I believe in acknowledging love for a person when they're alive and you can tell them.  

My girls grew up watching me do this so I guess it's true that children learn from their parents and what they see the parents doing.....maybe.

[Barb114]

@Annabellethecat66

     It was a pleasure reading what you just wrote. Refreshing is another word. You seem like a wonderful person with a beautiful family.