Speaker Phones

hovis · ‎10-24-2014

Every time I call my sister in laws or they call me I am always on speaker phone. I don't like it. I can hear them in the kitchen doing things or their husbands are in the same room. I think it's rude. I feel that they should be polite enough and give me the courtesy of putting what their doing done and enjoy my conservation. I don't like everyone in the room listerning to what I am saying. Just venting. Thanks.

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

Have you asked them to take you off speaker? My parents put me on speaker so they can both hear me, but I always ask my dad to turn it off when he answers the phone on speaker in his office. I had a boyfriend who used to call me from his car and then talk to me while he was also ordering burgers in a drive though. When he did that, I would tell him to call me later and hang up.

But if someone calls me while I'm doing things like making dinner or laundry, they go on speaker. Sorry, but if you call me, I'm not dropping everything to talk on your timeline. I will put the phone on mute when I'm listening and unmute when I speak, but speaker it is. If I call you, then it's different because I picked a time convenient for me and should be willing and able to give you my complete attention.

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WenGirl42 · ‎07-05-2012

For me it's just more comfortable to use speaker phone, and it has nothing to do with anything else I might be doing. I don't like holding my cell phone up to my ear. I touch that screen all day and don't want it touching my face, plus I don't like getting my face oil/makeup/whatever on my screen. It's clear phone usage was not considered high priority in the design of most modern cell phones!

But like ChynnaBlue says, you can always ask whomever you're speaking to to take you off speaker.

BabyYoda · ‎03-09-2010

It seems to be the norm now as I can tell when I am put on speaker and not told who is also in the room with the person. It is annoying and distracting and there is no privacy.

I rarely put my cell phone on speaker and if I do I tell the person but I tell them I am alone in the house so they can talk freely. Sometimes I am folding laundry and a call comes in so I put it on speaker but usually I like to sit and concentrate on the person on the call.

jaxs mom · ‎04-18-2012

Do you ask them if they are busy or have time to talk when you call?

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Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

I always use speaker phone. Cell phones, cordless home phones etc emit radiation. You should use the speaker or a headset to avoid as much radiation as you can. When I talk to my sisters, brothers or dad long distance on the phone we talk for at least 30 mins. I'm always on the phone with one of my sisters for an hour or more so I'm using the speaker. If I need to say something I don't want someone else to hear I will tell them to take me off speaker for a few mins. People are busy & just trying to multi task while they talk on the phone.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

For me it has nothing to do with privacy. People can't hear what the other party is saying when a speakerphone is used. They distort voices and sounds. When I was working and someone who called me was on speakerphone I told them I couldn't hear them properly (true) and they would turn it off. If I used it myself at home with a lengthy phone call, I was also told the person couldn't hear me well, so I would turn it off. When I was working, trying to decipher what someone was saying who called on a cell phone was the bane of my day.

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bri20 · ‎03-10-2016

I use speakerphone when I'm making calls usually. I'm usually home alone, so there really is no background noise.

I would never put someone on speaker if I wasn't alone.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@hovis wrote:
Every time I call my sister in laws or they call me I am always on speaker phone. I don't like it. I can hear them in the kitchen doing things or their husbands are in the same room. I think it's rude. I feel that they should be polite enough and give me the courtesy of putting what their doing done and enjoy my conservation. I don't like everyone in the room listerning to what I am saying. Just venting. Thanks.

@hovis

Sorry, but I think this problem is your fault because you haven't spoken up and let them know you don't like it. Some people really don't care, so how would they know unless you say something?

When I call someone, I always ask "am I catching you at a bad time?" so I'm not competing for their attention. If someone is in the middle of dinner preparation, perhaps speakerphone chatting is the best you can expect. If that really bothers you, speak to them at another time.