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06-22-2018 09:01 PM - edited 06-22-2018 09:04 PM
Usually I try to ignore such comments, but, for the past year or so a certain neighbor feels the need to be unkind. For whatever reason, she only makes comments if another person is present.
For instance, I was working outside wearing faded jeans and a tee shirt, no makeup except for eyebrows (I don't have any). Anyway, she and her husband were passing by and stopped to chat. The husband said my hair looked nice(I had lost my hair due to illness in the past). Before I could say thank you, she chimed in with "she always likes to look like a beauty queen"!! Beauty queen???? I was a sweaty mess from weeding!!! I didn't acknowledge her comment, but, thanked the husband about noticing my hair and said I needed to get back to work.
A month or so later we ran into this couple at a local eatery. I was wearing a D&Co tee shirt dress and flats. Yes, I was showered, had makeup and jewelry on, and my hair was fixed. Her first comment was " well, aren't you fancy??". I smiled and my husband said our table was ready.
At my age, I really don't want or need a confrontation, however, I can't figure out why this woman is being so snarky. We have known her for 30+ years, as neighbors more so than friends. She has made comments over the years and I have ignored them. Ever since my illness and recovery she is worse. I am not the only neighbor that gets these remarks either.
Thanks for listening!!!! I think I will just continue to not comment to her. Although, some days I would really like to shut her up! I just don't understand why some people feel the need to be so unkind, especially to people they really only know to see.
06-22-2018 09:07 PM
Sounds like she is JEALOUS.
Her husband complimented you, so therefore you must be taken down a peg or two.
Pathetic.
Just continue being awesome while she watches helplessly....
06-22-2018 09:09 PM
Jealousy!
And she probably feels better herself by putting you down because you do look nice.
A natural cruel streak.
I would just realize that is her personality and be glad you aren't like her, continually hurting other people on purpose!
You can feel sorry for her.
06-22-2018 09:11 PM
I posted in Positive Thoughts a few weeks ago that people who tear you down do so because of their insecurities and turmoil in their lives.
In other words, you’re not the problem, she is.
06-22-2018 09:13 PM
I totally agree with the two responses! Jealousy -- plain and simple. I feel sorry for her that she can't accept her husband giving someone a nice compliment. She must have little or no self-confidence.
Just keep doing what you are doing. You are the better person.
06-22-2018 09:13 PM
Ugh there are some women who can not stand when others get attention, we need to build each other up not tear each other down
06-22-2018 09:14 PM
If you look better than her when you are dirty from weeding, my guess is she is jealous. Ask her husband quite bluntly, "is she always this rude?"
06-22-2018 09:15 PM
Thanks, ladies. I suppose some people make themselves feel better at the expense of others.
06-22-2018 09:15 PM
Perhaps this person is not so much snarky as she is socially inept and doesn't know how to deliver a compliment or greeting without sarcasm. Since she does it to other people too, I wouldn't take it personally and just consider the source. I think you've handled it well, just continue to ignore her. I bet she has few, if any, friends.
06-22-2018 09:18 PM
@AuntG .I'd love to, but, he has to go home with her!!!! Besides, I've heard her talk to him and it is not nice!!!
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