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[Lindsays Grandma]

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@ALRATIBA wrote:

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@dex wrote:

I wonder where you can go to talk about current events online. 

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Facebook and Twitter, comment boxes on political sites.  

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The following was found on Facebook, cannot reveal the name of the originator for privacy reasons;

Avoid posting your personal problems on Facebook.  Your personal problems require personal solutions, not social attention.

The way I see it is that it can apply to us here and all other public forums.

[hckynut]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

It’s not having an opinion, or even simply expressing an opinion, that is so much an issue. It’s the way it’s expressed. We know that, inside, whether we admit it or not. At least, most of us know it.

I have learned, throughout my life, that there are people who genuinely feel that they are entitled to say exactly what they please, using the vocabulary they please, on any topic they please, without ever having to give a second thought to whether they are expressing themselves insensitively or inappropriately or not. I’m definitely not speaking of this forum alone - it goes for every other forum out there, as well as discussions in person. Oh yes it happens in person - the abrasive person no one wants to dinner, etc.

Many of these same people will never, ever conceed that they’ve ever said anything rude, insensitive or inappropriate because it’s simply not possible; they never do that, never would/could possibly do that.

And it often goes along with the person stating they don’t care if someone is offended or annoyed by what they’ve said, because clearly it’s always going to be the other people who “have a problem with it”, but the problem is clearly never theirs - and if some people deem it so, too bad.

These are people who, when their posts are deleted, will never conceed there even might have been something against standards in their post(s). Ever. 

Of course, posts and threads are deleted for many reasons, not all of them decipherable to us - for sure. I’m not intending to indict everyone who’s ever had a post removed; I’ve had my share, lol. It comes with the territory. But those who have had posts removed and come unglued about it every.single.time because - COULDN’T be them; think again.

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Hmmm!

hckynut(john)

[software]

I don't understand why an argument gets dumped.

Now if it's very personal with foul language, then yes.

But an exchange of different ideas going back and forth is randomly declared aruging then it's gone. 

I've participated in various forums on the internet for many years, including this one.   Ive been on this board, off & on for I know over 10 years and this is the worse forum for drama.   I don't know how much is the posters or the inconsistent moderation but usually on other forums, people generally follow the rules   Not here.

And I think some of it has to do with the fact that there is really not a common overall topic.   The only thing we have in common is we shop on QVC.    Most other forums are put together for a reason -- politics, food, crafts, history etc.

Just my 2 cents

[Moonchilde]

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@Lindsays Grandma wrote:

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@ALRATIBA wrote:

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@dex wrote:

I wonder where you can go to talk about current events online. 

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Facebook and Twitter, comment boxes on political sites.  

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The following was found on Facebook, cannot reveal the name of the originator for privacy reasons;

Avoid posting your personal problems on Facebook.  Your personal problems require personal solutions, not social attention.

The way I see it is that it can apply to us here and all other public forums.

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The issue with personal problems is that those who post them often expect only support and agreement, and if others have questions or want to understand a detail before they comment, they can’t handle that.

Not every problem actually is, and people will offer that as well.

The crux of the matter is, when you put yourself out there, you can’t control the responses you’ll get. If you can’t deal with that, you should never post something personal.

Such posts are also, frankly, magnets for trolls and baiters; another reason to think twice before posting. I’d say post personal problems being fully aware any or all might be the result, and be ready to deal with it; if you’re not, don’t do it.

[JaneMarple]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@Lindsays Grandma wrote:

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@ALRATIBA wrote:

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@dex wrote:

I wonder where you can go to talk about current events online. 

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Facebook and Twitter, comment boxes on political sites.  

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The following was found on Facebook, cannot reveal the name of the originator for privacy reasons;

Avoid posting your personal problems on Facebook.  Your personal problems require personal solutions, not social attention.

The way I see it is that it can apply to us here and all other public forums.

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The issue with personal problems is that those who post them often expect only support and agreement, and if others have questions or want to understand a detail before they comment, they can’t handle that.

Not every problem actually is, and people will offer that as well.

The crux of the matter is, when you put yourself out there, you can’t control the responses you’ll get. If you can’t deal with that, you should never post something personal.

Such posts are also, frankly, magnets for trolls and baiters; another reason to think twice before posting. I’d say post personal problems being fully aware any or all might be the result, and be ready to deal with it; if you’re not, don’t do it.

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YES @Moonchilde to all of the above! 

[Lindsays Grandma]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@Lindsays Grandma wrote:

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@ALRATIBA wrote:

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@dex wrote:

I wonder where you can go to talk about current events online. 

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Facebook and Twitter, comment boxes on political sites.  

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The following was found on Facebook, cannot reveal the name of the originator for privacy reasons;

Avoid posting your personal problems on Facebook.  Your personal problems require personal solutions, not social attention.

The way I see it is that it can apply to us here and all other public forums.

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The issue with personal problems is that those who post them often expect only support and agreement, and if others have questions or want to understand a detail before they comment, they can’t handle that.

Not every problem actually is, and people will offer that as well.

The crux of the matter is, when you put yourself out there, you can’t control the responses you’ll get. If you can’t deal with that, you should never post something personal.

Such posts are also, frankly, magnets for trolls and baiters; another reason to think twice before posting. I’d say post personal problems being fully aware any or all might be the result, and be ready to deal with it; if you’re not, don’t do it.

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One of the problems all too often is not what a poster says, but how they say it.  I am sure there are several variations on how to say something and some choose the hurtful way as opposed to the more kind way, some people don't think before they speak, another big problem.  We can go around and around on this and other issues and I'm afraid we will still end up in the same place. 

[sunala]

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@dex wrote:

I wonder where you can go to talk about current events online. 

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@dex- try Facebook. There are enough political pages to make your eyes roll.

I think you'll find exactly what you're looking for over there!

[Laura14]

Not sure if we were lucky or if walking away did it but I participated in a thread about a week ago where I was definitely in the minority of my viewpoint. 

I think we had some very nice differences of opinion with agreements to vigorously disagree with one another.  I salute the mods for letting us have a civil but active discussion. 

It was later that night, a few people got on and started to run the thread with nasty comments that really did not add anything to the conversation.  I walked away at that point and refused to engage and the thread stayed until it left the front page. Not reacting worked in that instance.

Just because someone addresses you in a thread, doesn't mean you have to post back.  It's your choice to respond to it. 

Frankly when someone gets like that, they embarrass themselves in my opinion and not whomever they are trying to poke or bait.  Be the bigger person/poster and find something better to do with your time.  I did.       

[dex]

@sunala hard to believe but I am not on Facebook...don't think it is a safe place.

[violann]

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@NorthernLights wrote:

I know just speaking about this topic and my own posts...I know I should not be posting if I start to get annoyed. I still have to lecture myself not to do it, because I am 100 miles from perfect behavior. 

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If you want some company I’ll go to time out with you. I can’t get it through my head how  this can be so difficult to figure out and I get snarly when someone blatantly breaks a rule then gets teared up because their comment gets a thread closed.

Yes, there ARE things that cannot be discussed here, and YES, there’s plenty of arguing on FB and that’s a great place to go if that’s what you’re looking for.