@NicksmomESQ. I think it is just the way some kids/adults are. Some people are simply psychopaths or sociopaths, and I wish I understood how or why they came to be, but I now accept that they simply "are". Some kids lack empathy for others, and some even want to hurt others emotionally and/or physically.
I had neighbors, once, who thankfully moved away with when they divorced. They had a single child who had beautiful blonde hair and blue eyes. She was a psychopathic liar and a psycopath as well. I met her when she was four years old. She rang my doorbell at 8:30 PM when it was dark outside and there was no adult to accompany her. She left a neighbors home and just walked out on her own to come to my hone and ask me if I had any children she could play with. I asked her where she lived as I wanted to help her get home. She told me the number of her home on my street, and I had not yet met her parents. She did not want to go home, so I followed her to my next-door neighbors home, where she had been previously, playing with their children. There was nothing else I could do. She was safe with my other neighbors, and she would not follow my direction to walk to her house with me.
When she was a couple of years older, she did play with my kids on a couple of occasions. I saw that she liked to physically hurt other children, and then I knew that I had to keep my kids away from her. One day, she played with a toy sword and waved it back and forth and then brought the sword closer and closer with each swipe of her arm to another child, and I could see the growing excitement in her eyes and expression as she did this. All the other kids in that basement had disinterested nannies looking at their cellphones, but I saw what was happening, and I stopped her from making contact with a boy's head. She was so focused on her activity that she didn't notice me watching her closely. I witnessed several other examples of this kind of deviant behavior of hers just visiting my other neighbors when she just happened to be present. For example, I saw her shove a child off a chair from behind, and advise the child that he must have fallen, denying that she did anything at all. That child lied to me and insisted to me that she went to my kids' school when I knew she didn't. She even pointed to pictures of blond haired girls in my kids' yearbook insisting it was her in the pictures, when clearly it was not (i.e she has blue eyes, and the child in the photo obviously had brown eyes.) When I found out what school she attended from a neighbor, and asked her, directly, how she liked her Montessori school, she yelled at me, becoming very angry at me. She demanded to know, "Who told you that?" She would not admit, even then, that she went to that other school. I once had to keep my kids from going to a birthday party of a neighbor that involved swimming at a facility as I thought this girl might try to drown my children, who were new swimmers, just for fun.
Evil kids exist. They simply do. The only way we can protect our children from them is to observe all of their friends very closely and see if we can find these hints of sociopathy. I think my former neighbor's child will very possibly become a murderer. She certainly enjoys physically hurting other kids.
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