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[DREAMON]

Her threads  from 10/25/2024 and 11/2/2024 explain what is going on. 

Titles are -

Chronic Illness and the Toll It Takes On Us and Struggling To Keep Up.

I wish her well.

[ciao_bella]

Why do some people tend to always find something negative to say?  Here's the professional/clinical reasoning behind it.  An informative read.  

People often focus on the negative for several psychological and social reasons:

1. Negativity Bias: Humans have an inherent tendency to pay more attention to negative experiences than positive ones. This bias is thought to be evolutionary, as being alert to potential threats was crucial for survival.
2. Social Comparison: Some individuals may express negativity as a way to compare themselves to others. By highlighting flaws or shortcomings, they might feel better about their own situation.
3. Coping Mechanism: For some, focusing on the negative can be a way to cope with their own insecurities or frustrations. It can be easier to criticize others than to confront personal issues.
4. Cultural Influences: In some cultures or communities, negativity can be a common form of humor or communication. People might feel that being critical is a way to bond or engage in conversation.
5. Attention-Seeking: Negative comments can attract attention. Some individuals might feel that being critical or controversial makes them stand out in conversations.
6. Fear of Disappointment: Anticipating negative outcomes can be a defense mechanism. By expressing negativity, people might feel they are preparing themselves for the worst.
7. Confirmation Bias: Once someone has a negative perspective, they may seek out information or experiences that confirm that viewpoint, reinforcing their tendency to focus on the negative.

[Sapphiregal]

As she said, she is probably just taking a little break and getting a kick out of being the "topic" of conversation! 😄😄

[shoekitty]

@ciao_bella  The post on negativity was right on. Thank you ! I also think fear, fear of unknown, fear of things changing,fear of our surroundings changing. It can happen to us all at one time or another. Finding a balance in life can be a struggle. Some people are born into it, others struggle. 

i enjoy Sandy, I know she was struggling herself,  I hope she's just disconnected from her internet, as she always had problems with it.  And not dealing with her struggles.  If she is, May she read the posts of her friends and know we do miss jer

[Regal Bee]

I don't think I answered many of Sandy's questions but I always appreciated her upbeat personality and way of looking at life.

I hope to see her here again very soon and pray she is well.

[JoyFilled Warrior]

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@Lakelife62 wrote:

Sandy never says a mean thing to or about anyone. I appreciate her kind and welcoming posting style.

Maybe she got sick of the negativity or the not so subtle digs at her and wanted to retreat for a bit. Many here can relate to that.

I hope she is well and will return when/if she is ready.

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A   *B - I - G*   ole,  AMEN to that, @Lakelife62 

I agree wholeheartedly!!   @Lakelife62  & others!

                  

I'm sending good vibes, "good juju,"  and Heartfelt Prayers to you,  @SandySparkles .. as well as does others!  You are missed, and we totally understand! ..

     ...    *AND* , having said that,  @SandySparkles  

     YOU DO YOU!  

           WE TOTALLY  UNDERSTAND!! 

Those of us. the QCaring, appreciate you, your energy, & your positivity.

      *AND*  also,

  we, "The QCaring," do understand your needs to take care of yourself & loved ones!!  

    MANY of us here also have a lot of problems, stretching from Medical to Family, Loved Ones, etc..     And our prayers stretch to everywhere, as does our Best Friend, of Whom you well know!!   

    No Matter where you are,  

         No Matter what you're doing!! 

You're MISSED by us,

   but, and,  

         You're NOT Controlled by us!  

Our prayers travel to wherever you are!!    and continue!    

                    

[JoyFilled Warrior]

                 

[jubilant]

I hope that whatever her illness is that she is improving and just 

enjoying life with her family.