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[Shanus]

@gidgetgh   I'm sorry for your loss. Timely that I read this thread this morning. It's been just less than a year since I lost my Mom...no special date or holiday, but never forget the day.

Yesterday, Sunday, the family went back to the cemetery to unveil her marker. In our religion, at the funeral, only a tiny flag w/ the name of the person is placed at the grave site. Within a year, an "unveiling" is held when the actual stone has been made and laid in place. The rabbi  says prayers and we all shared memories over the year since she passed away. Since the year has gone by, although she is missed, the memories/stories we were able to share seemed somewhat more lighthearted than at the funeral. Definitely not as many tears.

I hope Valentine's Day and every day gets easier for you remembering your mother. We'll always miss them. They were the first person to love us even before we were born. 💕

[LindaSal]

@gidgetgh   I am sorry for your sadness and I totally understand.  It was 8 years ago for my mom's passing on February 12th.   We buried her on the 14th (Valentines day).   It does bring me sadness too but also makes me smile,  bittersweet I guess.

[Still Raining]

Dad was already in memory care when mom passed from cancer.  For several years he asked where she was and cried if he was told that she had died.  So we changed the answers.

He lived for over ten more years and I often wonder if it might be kinder to not have any memories.  At all.

[hckynut]

@gidgetgh 

I can relate very closely to what you experience on these days. My maternal grandmother/grandfather and my mother all died on Valentine's Day, and exactly 13 years apart, 1943/1956 and 1969.

That is the reason we chose to get married on Valentine's Day in 2002. It doesn't completely erase those sad feelings, but it does give a positive feeling also on that date.

Nice post, and many here experience the same feelings on those days.

hckynut