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[gidgetgh]

Today's is the anniversary of my moms death. 9 years. Seems like just yesterday. Seems like forever ago.  

I'm doing ok. I had a talk with her this morning and told her my sister and I are doing ok and I told her how much I miss her. I tell her that often. 

As I said, I'm doing ok, but I'll be glad when it's tomorrow. She passed away 2 days after Valentines Day and was unconscious on Valentines Day. Valentines Day isn't a really big deal to me, but it does kind of set the whole "here comes the anniversary" in motion every year.

For anyone who has experienced loss, I just think the anniversaries, while maybe not hideous to get through for everyone as we are all different but they do give you pause.  

[Capecodfal]

I am sorry for the loss of our Mom,  I too  have  losses pf close family members both near a holiday and others without.  For me it has been  more difficult  when close to a special holiday remembence.  

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[CelticCrafter]

I think what was harder for me were remembering the "last times" days leading up to the death of my parents and my siblings.  

[dex]

@gidgetgh @Sorry that Valentine’s Day holds sad memories for you.I bet your mom wishes that you would not feel sad.I know that I love my son more than life and the last thing I want is to bring sadness to his heart.

[MoonieBaby]

Gidgetgh,

I'm sorry for your sorrow, and loss, no words sooth; especially on anniversaries of such difficult days.

I do agree, the time flys and slugs along at the same time. I have my parents but miss my grandmothers more than I can put into words, and it's been 40+ for the one and 15+ for the other.

Take care and keep on talking to Mom, I still talk to the grands - everyday, even though they are not here, just in my heart.

[Mary Bailey]

after someone passes away it is to painful for DH to remember birthdays, anniversaries or date they passed etc.

We talk about people but he doesn't want "dates" brought up.

I (by myself) chose to remember those dates.

[Irish1210]

[gidgetgh]

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@Mary Bailey wrote:

after someone passes away it is to painful for DH to remember birthdays, anniversaries or date they passed etc.

We talk about people but he doesn't want "dates" brought up.

I (by myself) chose to remember those dates.

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@Mary Bailey -I don't intentionally try to remember the dates, but I've got a great memory and I just remember them. And, like you, I want to remember them. 

[gramgrandkids1]

@gidgetgh  Tomorrow Feb 17 will be bittersweet  for me.  It will be my daughter's birthday and the 17th anniversary of my dad's death.  I now try to focus on all the good times and laughs we shared.  I still find myself crying over losing him.  I still remember our last conversation the morning he died.  We were discussing all the snow we had.  So thankful for all the years I had with him.  His sudden death was hard to deal with and accept for a very long time.  Remember something special the two of you shared and my wish for you is it helps to ease some of your pain.

[gidgetgh]

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@gramgrandkids1 wrote:

@gidgetgh  Tomorrow Feb 17 will be bittersweet  for me.  It will be my daughter's birthday and the 17th anniversary of my dad's death.  I now try to focus on all the good times and laughs we shared.  I still find myself crying over losing him.  I still remember our last conversation the morning he died.  We were discussing all the snow we had.  So thankful for all the years I had with him.  His sudden death was hard to deal with and accept for a very long time.  Remember something special the two of you shared and my wish for you is it helps to ease some of your pain.

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Thinking of you @gramgrandkids1