Rudeness from stranger. What would you do? - Page 11

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

I've belonged to several gyms over the years and I have never seen a sign by the treadmills saying "No Talking" or "No Conversations" by them. The only thing I've ever seen related to them was a time limit during peak hours.

I've seen the "Please re-rack the weights" and "Please do not drop the weights", but never have I seen a sign about noise, talking or otherwise.

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

@Caligurll wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
Playing devils advocate here is my pov.

I teach on occasion Spin at our local gym as well as having managed and supervised over the years from that stand point I would look at both sides.

Was he rude in his delivery? yes but he obviously felt you were too loud. Not saying you were just looking at his side.

Would I go to management? yes because they should be aware of a situation that may have the potential of escalating. Having had to speak to members I always tried to have an open mind and hear both sides before speaking.

Personally nothing is more annoying then working out and having to listen to someone else's conversation. You may think your not distracting or loud but you could be. When I workout I don't want to hear other people. That is just me and yes being in a public spot that is inevitably going to happen. The trade off of working out in public but that being said, I would hope my fellow gym goers would observe that talking can become distracting and using the excuse music and weights clanking is not pass to carry on conversation. While others around you are trying to concentrate. You don't know where this guys head was at. And just because you are a regular dosen't mean you get to ignore common courtesy of not interrupting others workout.
@AngusandBuddhasMom

ITA ..... I don't know what's typical for that particular gym, but if you can hear a conversation from 3 treadmills away, the OP was talking too loud.

People often want to do their workouts and mind their own business. Yes, he probably could use a good pair of headphones, but that's neither here nor there.

To me, this is the same as people waiting in a line and some dummy is on their phone, talking so loudly that everyone becomes involved, whether they like it or not. It's really annoying.

IMO, a hello/goodbye is fine .... otherwise, take a break and enjoy your actual conversation somewhere else. Not everyone wants to have to listen to you.
Exactly well put!

Also while the OP is a "regular" at night she fails to mention she went during the day. Two different vibes when going to the gym. Day and night are different animals as far as members and how they act. She probably was talking loud if he could hear her 3 treads away.

Common courtesy is all that is needed. I don't think a sign needs to be posted saying to be mindful of your fellow members. Well she wasn't and got an earful. From his stand point she got back exactly what he felt having to listen to her conversation. JMO.
I agree with everything the above posters said. At my gym there are several signs posted saying no cell phone conversations, but this gets ignored frequently. When I'm on the treadmill I am usually reading on my Kindle too, and these conversations are distracting. To be heard over the hum and footfalls of the treadmill, people have to talk louder to be heard and it is so annoying to hear random conversations/laughing.

The sound of the treadmills is very rhythmic and soothing, and hearing loud conversations is disruptive. If it gets too bad I put on my headphones and listen to music, but it annoys me that I have to do that on days I don't want to listen to music but its the only way to drown out these conversations.

When I'm at the gym I expect to hear gym sounds--treadmills, weights being dropped, other equipment clanging--not loud random conversations.

I, too, agree with everything the above poster have said.

White noise. It's all about the White Noise.

At the gym white noise is music on the loudspeakers, machines, clanking of the weights...even music from the aerobics class.

Heck, even a trainer LOUDLY coaching a team of clients is white noise.

BUT....

It's the conversational tone of the human voice which makes one tune in.

Don't know why.

Don't know how.

But it just does.

I'm sure there's a biological scientific reason why humans do that....but we just do.

And the fact several unrelated topics the OP was having is telling the time spent in conversational tone was a significant length.

So no...it's not about not having gym noise for us Special Gym Snowflakes (!❄️❄️🏋🏻🏋🏻😆), it's about not having conversational noise.

Two different things.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

I would have stopped the conversation and turned away. There are so many dangerous people out there nowadays.

Did anyone else also see the video of the man ready to attack a nursing mom in Target? Scary, it took several other women and Target employees to get him away from her, and she had a baby in her arms. He was also calling her another word for prostitute just because she was nursing.

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

What did management say when you told them? That is so rude.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@queendiva wrote:
@Tinkrbl44. That may be your fear; it's not mine. Laughing in this situation has always given me the upper hand- especially with rude men, who do not know how to respond.

@queendiva

It has absolutely nothing to do with fear .... it has to do with common sense. One day you're going to laugh at the wrong person and they won't think it's so cute.

MomCat · ‎09-12-2010

I'm not one to back away from a confrontation, but in some cases it's best to stop the action you are involved in and pay attention to what's really going on. Saying this is assuming you were not the problem here. And, for the one who posted about that breast feeding mom at Target - there's probably more to that story if that woman was that noticeable.

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

I WISH there were rules at my current gym about cell phone conversations. But there aren't.

I WISH there were rules in the General World about cell phone conversations. But there aren't.

I don't understand how people don't see how rude and obnoxious they are being when, to those around them, they are virtually YELLING while on their phones.

colliegirls · ‎05-13-2012

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
I WISH there were rules at my current gym about cell phone conversations. But there aren't.

I WISH there were rules in the General World about cell phone conversations. But there aren't.

I don't understand how people don't see how rude and obnoxious they are being when, to those around them, they are virtually YELLING while on their phones.

AMEN to that!!

BlingQueen022 · ‎09-23-2012

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@queendiva wrote:
@Tinkrbl44. That may be your fear; it's not mine. Laughing in this situation has always given me the upper hand- especially with rude men, who do not know how to respond.
@queendiva

It has absolutely nothing to do with fear .... it has to do with common sense. One day you're going to laugh at the wrong person and they won't think it's so cute.

@Tinkrbl44. HOW RIGHT YOU ARE!!!