Re: Roadside Memorials -- Your Thoughts

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@esmeraldagooch wrote:
Some area's of the country handle them differently than others. I knew someone who was affected by a display they couldn't get rid of on their own property. A car crashed on a curve and ended up in their front yard. The deseased family built a shrine in there yard and wouldn't take no for an answer.
@esmeraldagooch

Sorry, but that's just WRONG. People don't have the right to "litter" someone else's property just because a family member died. It's not their property! Why not have a little shrine with candles in their home?

Seems to me that most cities would have an ordinance protecting private property; a phone call would have sufficed to remedy the situation.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

This topic comes up from time to time and I see some over-reacting, private property issues not withstanding.

Honestly? These memorials do not affect my life. Once you drive by one it is immediately forgotten. I see the complaints more of a control issue than one of really even thinking about such memorials once out of sight.

To say folks are immature, inconsiderate, not mourning the right way is to say one has all the answers about how to grieve without even personally knowing who placed the memorial.

Unless cars are crashing all over the place at these sites, then the danger posed by these memorials is being overblown.

Sometimes we are better off letting people be; eventually these things will pass and you will carry on blissfully not giving these sites a second thought.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

colliegirls · ‎05-13-2012

When you are looking at a roadside memorial and being judgemental about them, remember, your entire life can change in an instant and you have no idea now how you would react.

ID2 · ‎06-25-2012

I've always thought that roadside memorials were ridiculous! Who chooses to decorate and commemorate a place where someone lost their life?? I would rather remember that person in a much kinder, more gentler fashion.

"Pure Michigan"

Nannerbelles · ‎03-10-2010

I live on a busy street and a motorcyclist was killed in front of my house. All of a sudden a vase of faux flowers appeared by a telephone pole and stayed there till the next year. For a few years after he was killed a group of motorcyclists would pull up in front of my house and do wheelies and lay rubber down in the street. The first time they did it it scared the you know what out of me. I haven't seen anything now in the last couple of years.

It is what it is!!!

granny me · ‎09-05-2014

I think they are road hazzard. We had a highway that was named one of the deadlist that ran through our town. There was sign on personal property that kept a death count and I can't tell you how many roadside memorials there were. People would build crosses and put hanging baskets, stuffed animals, you name it it was in piles everywhere. The problem lies with gawkers who start looking at the side of the roads instead of paying attention to what is ahead of them.

I always said if you fell dead in your livingroom would you build a memorial and leave there?

granny me · ‎09-05-2014

@colliegirls wrote:
When you are looking at a roadside memorial and being judgemental about them, remember, your entire life can change in an instant and you have no idea now how you would react.

This is true, but I do know I would not put a roadside memorial. Wouldn't happen, ever.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

@colliegirls wrote:
When you are looking at a roadside memorial and being judgemental about them, remember, your entire life can change in an instant and you have no idea now how you would react.

Well, I've had this experience twice - my first husband was murdered in a robbery of his business and my parents killed in a car accident. In neither case did I have any inclination to have to make a public display of my grief.So, yes, I do know EXACTLY how I would react.