Remember When I Asked About Current Wedding Protocol Awhile Back?

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

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Two of the bridesmaids are throwing a virtual shower via a Zoom meeting. How would that even be done? Maybe the invitees send gifts in advance and the bride opens them while the rest watch on the phone, tablet, computer? I suppose it could work. I declined.

But here's where it gets distasteful again (IMO)...

A few days ago, the bride herself (mid 40's) shared her shower info on her Facebook page. She stated that invitations had already been sent but she didn't want to miss anyone so she was sharing the details. That one really floored me. DH agreed with me this time.

I guess I'm still old fashioned about this stuff.

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piperbay · ‎04-03-2013

It seems so impersonal. I would decline too. Whatever happened to the fun of getting together and sharing in the joy of the bride to be?

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

@piperbay wrote:
It seems so impersonal. I would decline too. Whatever happened to the fun of getting together and sharing in the joy of the bride to be?

these types of showers were quite popular during covid. friends and family could "attend" online instead of having a big gathering. it was also a much cheaper way to have a celebration. also, i dont know the exact details of the wedding or where the bride or groom live, but maybe she/he doesnt live near many of the attendees?

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Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

It's a whole different world now for us elderly ones. People don't all live near one another, Internet is just part of life, and people seem to have a lot more disposable income.

All sorts of occasions are now made for facebook (or whatever else) online life and selfies and photo opps.

Best to decline and not get upset about it all. It is what it is.

SouthernBee · ‎09-16-2010

@JeanLouiseFinch : I am old and prefer the old traditions. My answer for today's gift grabs: Do your own : Go Fund Me or whatever it's called.

Totally crazy what friends and family request money for ... Just my opinion.

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

I do understand about the distance thing and the virtual stuff being a more convenient alternative.

My displeasure is in the bride herself inviting people to her own shower the way she did.

september · ‎03-09-2010

@piperbay wrote:
It seems so impersonal. I would decline too. Whatever happened to the fun of getting together and sharing in the joy of the bride to be?

We don't all live in the same neighborhood as the bride, these days. I would rather send a gift directly to the bride, than have to make travel arrangements and stay overnight, at least a night or two, in a hotel.