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[smoochy]

curious about your take on this. I will be cremated when I die. As the spouse of a military retiree, I'm entitled to a spot in a national cemetery which will be here in Florida. (Free)  there is also an available plot in the cemetery in Michigan with my mom, my sister and my son. My mom and stepfather bought enough spaces for everyone. I am actually torn over this. Be with my hubby? Or with my family? I know that my daughter does NOT want an urn of my ashes and would prefer that my ashes are buried somewhere (if it were up to her). I also know that my earthly remains will merely be ashes- my soul will be elsewhere. Also, fwiw, when my daughter visits her home state of Michigan (she lives abroad), she usually visits our family gravesites. Once I'm gone she will have no reason to travel to Florida as her dad, his kids, and my grandson her nephew, all live in the same town in Michigan. My husband says he doesn't have any stong feelings one way or another, as our remains will simply be ashes.

Any input?

[Carol Diane]

Half in one place and half in the other. Not sure if that creeps anyone out though.

[persiflage]

I also would do half one place and half the other.

[Seminole2]

@Carol Diane not creepy....my brother and my mom's ashes are spread over different places.   My dad the same.  Then when we moved to our forever home last year I spread the rest under a new tree and bench in our yard overlooking the pond.  I can go sit on the bench and converse

[Alsace Gal]

@smoochy 

My first thought, you should be next to your son. However members have suggested 

half with your husband and half with your family. I think it's the best solution.

When the time comes-rest peacefully.

[smoochy]

that's an idea.. two urns, two locations. 

[Sooner]

I have a plot by my husband in our town.  If he goes first, I'll be lucky if anyone knows who I am and where to bury me.

Won't matter.  Not something I worry about.  I am more concerned with being the person I need to be to go on in the next life.  Faith comes first. 

[smoochy]

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@Sooner wrote:

I have a plot by my husband in our town.  If he goes first, I'll be lucky if anyone knows who I am and where to bury me.

Won't matter.  Not something I worry about.  I am more concerned with being the person I need to be to go on in the next life.  Faith comes first. 

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well I have to think about it because there will be practical and logistical matters to deal with. My cremains aren't going to magically fly to my desired location. 

[smoochy]

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@Alsace Gal wrote:

@smoochy 

My first thought, you should be next to your son. However members have suggested 

half with your husband and half with your family. I think it's the best solution.

When the time comes-rest peacefully.

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thank you 😍

[Sooner]

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@smoochy wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

I have a plot by my husband in our town.  If he goes first, I'll be lucky if anyone knows who I am and where to bury me.

Won't matter.  Not something I worry about.  I am more concerned with being the person I need to be to go on in the next life.  Faith comes first. 

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well I have to think about it because there will be practical and logistical matters to deal with. My cremains aren't going to magically fly to my desired location. 

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@smoochy Since I have no family but husband, I don't worry a lot about what happens to me.  And it won't matter at all.  Dust to dust.  Moot point for me.