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[DottieBlue]

So the idea of half of one's ashes buried in one place and half in another, would that entail two headstones, one at each cemetary plot? A person would have two "official" graves?  Is that legal?  Sounds a bit confusing.

A person's ashes can be scattered in multiple places, but a gravemarker isn't usually set up at each place.

Good luck with your decision.  

ETA:  I think you are being very practical to be thinking of this now.  Deciding on your final resting place is just as important as preparing a Will.  JMO.

[Cakers3]

@smoochy If your husband will be cremated perhaps both urns can be buried in the family plot since room in the plots will not be taken up much.

[DottieBlue]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

@smoochy If your husband will be cremated perhaps both urns can be buried in the family plot since room in the plots will not be taken up much.

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And I think the cremated remains of two people can be laid to rest in a single plot.  I'm not sure on this, it may depend on State law.

[Cakers3]

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@DottieBlue wrote:

So the idea of half of one's ashes buried in one place and half in another, would that entail two headstones, one at each cemetary plot? A person would have two "official" graves?  Is that legal?  Sounds a bit confusing.

A person's ashes can be scattered in multiple places, but a gravemarker isn't usually set up at each place.

Good luck with your decision.  

ETA:  I think you are being very practical to be thinking of this now.  Deciding on your final resting place is just as important as preparing a Will.  JMO.

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@DottieBlue I agree about being prepared. I now live a few thousand miles away from home where my parents and infant son are buried together. There is still room for another full burial (actually 2 full burials since Baby's little coffin is on top of one)but getting me there now would be expensive and not reasonable.

So cremation is my choice to be buried back home and DH wants his ashes scattered.

Actually today I would like a natural burial but not here.

People do not realize without express wishes known and how to carry them out the confusion, money, and distance logistics can all factor in.

@smoochy Good luck. You are doing the right thing in planning ahead.

[smoochy]

guys I appreciate everyone weighing in. Different perspectives are interesting

[Cakers3]

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@DottieBlue wrote:

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@Cakers3 wrote:

@smoochy If your husband will be cremated perhaps both urns can be buried in the family plot since room in the plots will not be taken up much.

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And I think the cremated remains of two people can be laid to rest in a single plot.  I'm not sure on this, it may depend on State law.

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@DottieBlue I know in my family the plots were dug "double depth"

So one coffin on top of another. Since urns take little space and do not seep chemicals I would guess a double burial would work.

You are right, though, it could be a state requirement.

[bikerbabe]

I’d prefer to have my ashes scattered in a field of flowers somewhere.

[LizzieInSRQ]

Im going to be cremated. No service. Ashes put in a cardboard box. Asking that my nephew ( if he is around) come from Tampa and take my ashes out on his boat  launching from Sarasota and boat a mile into the  Gulf of Mexico and dump my ashes. if not, go to a beach in town called South Lido where Sarasota Bay meets the Gulf and dump in the water about 3 feet off shore and let the current take me out.

Did that for both Mom and one of my brothers and put flowers in the water and it was cool to watch the flowers float and show the flow of the current. At my brother's,  people ( public)  thought we ( those i had invited about 20)  were having a wedding cuz it was so beautiful. We had a breakfast picnic right there afterward at the tree shaded portion of this beach that had picnic tables.

Illegal, yes i think so but i didnt care.

I dont believe in spending thousands of dollars for a casket, plot, urn, grave marker etc. Nothing was more beautiful than that Sepember morning at the beach. My brothers boss' elderly father just looked around and said "this is what I want". That made me so happy. 

[smoochy]

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@DottieBlue wrote:

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@Cakers3 wrote:

@smoochy If your husband will be cremated perhaps both urns can be buried in the family plot since room in the plots will not be taken up much.

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And I think the cremated remains of two people can be laid to rest in a single plot.  I'm not sure on this, it may depend on State law.

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my son's urn sits on top of my sister's casket in the same plot. Space saving. They would both have gotten a kick out of that as they shared a sense of humor and weirdness  

[Goldengate8361]

I would urge your husband to join your family plot in Michigan. If neither one of these options really works, them I'd just choose a 3rd separate cemetery for the two of you where your cremation remains can be buried with a marker.