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[Mominohio]

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@Mominohio wrote:

I've never had a Facebook account and don't really ever intend to (but never say never!).

The reason I don't is for most of the things people have listed here.

I don't believe most of what many people post about their personal life. They pretend to be happy and wealthy and wise, but if you know them well enough, it is simply a public facade they are putting up. I can't see the point in working so hard to convince others how great things are.

Then there are those that are ranting constantly. It could be politics (thanks but I get enough of that from Hollywood), and I get tired of it even when they are 'on my side'.  It can be their personal life (love it when they post something, get negative feedback then spend time fighting with everyone in their lives). It can be just post after post of stupid stuff.

I know there are 'controls' and 'settings' to allow you to have the experience you want with the site, but quite frankly, none of it is 'safe' if the people you bring into your circle don't respect your privacy (along with the fact that nothing we enter into this little box is really private anymore).

The only real value I find in Facebook is public pages of businesses and their employees (like QVC and it's hosts, Valerie Parr Hill, etc.). I will often seek a public Facebook page to find information out about a business or company I want more information or reviews on. 

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@Mominohio. Mom, just have to ask if these people you speak of are your close friends in real life? If not, why would you friend them on Facebook? They sound like people you don't care for. You don't have to see anyone's posts you don't want to see.

I am not defending Facebook as I only have about 30 friends and some are family and the young ones don't even use Facebook anymore. I would not want to see posts like you describe either.

Just wondering why you would friend them. 

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@proudlyfromNJ

I think you meant to respond to someone else. I stated in my post that I've never had a Facebook page. I have seen other people's and know how many behave, but I've never had a page, only seen things through other people's pages when they have allowed me to. 

[Moonchilde]

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@AuntG wrote:

Didn't join FB until a year ago and it's not nearly as much fun as I thought it would be.  So many people go on and on about their causes.  Others seem to be looking for attention.  On top of that, anyone seriously needing help gets "hugs" or "prayers" but no one seems to have genuine concern.  I do like it as a way to share family news -- like when a baby was born.

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My goodness - sounds exactly like the QVC forums to me. I continually SMH that so many people who utterly revile FB (which you are not doing) for all the reasons above are blind to the fact that the same types of posts are made on these forums daily - often by the very posters who find FB a 'horrible waste of time' for the SAME types of posts. LOL!

[proudlyfromNJ]

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@Mominohio wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@Mominohio wrote:

I've never had a Facebook account and don't really ever intend to (but never say never!).

The reason I don't is for most of the things people have listed here.

I don't believe most of what many people post about their personal life. They pretend to be happy and wealthy and wise, but if you know them well enough, it is simply a public facade they are putting up. I can't see the point in working so hard to convince others how great things are.

Then there are those that are ranting constantly. It could be politics (thanks but I get enough of that from Hollywood), and I get tired of it even when they are 'on my side'.  It can be their personal life (love it when they post something, get negative feedback then spend time fighting with everyone in their lives). It can be just post after post of stupid stuff.

I know there are 'controls' and 'settings' to allow you to have the experience you want with the site, but quite frankly, none of it is 'safe' if the people you bring into your circle don't respect your privacy (along with the fact that nothing we enter into this little box is really private anymore).

The only real value I find in Facebook is public pages of businesses and their employees (like QVC and it's hosts, Valerie Parr Hill, etc.). I will often seek a public Facebook page to find information out about a business or company I want more information or reviews on. 

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@Mominohio. Mom, just have to ask if these people you speak of are your close friends in real life? If not, why would you friend them on Facebook? They sound like people you don't care for. You don't have to see anyone's posts you don't want to see.

I am not defending Facebook as I only have about 30 friends and some are family and the young ones don't even use Facebook anymore. I would not want to see posts like you describe either.

Just wondering why you would friend them. 

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@proudlyfromNJ

I think you meant to respond to someone else. I stated in my post that I've never had a Facebook page. I have seen other people's and know how many behave, but I've never had a page, only seen things through other people's pages when they have allowed me to.

I was responding to you as you posted what you saw on Facebook. Yes, I see you aren't on Facebook. The things you saw are from someone else's page. You would only friend your own friends, not these bragging people. Again, not pushing Facebook, but you only see your own personal friends.

[adamlambert]

moonchilde, these boards are better because one is completely anonymous. On FB people know who you are and if you unfriend them. Plus if I want to say I enjoy singers w a different lifestyle than mine, no one cares!!! My military friends on FB would hate that.  

[Moonchilde]

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@Adamlambert wrote:

moonchilde, these boards are better because one is completely anonymous. On FB people know who you are and if you unfriend them. Plus if I want to say I enjoy singers w a different lifestyle than mine, no one cares!!! My military friends on FB would hate that.  

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But who you Friend on FB is up to you. My FB Friends, with 1-2 exceptions, share my POV about most things - that's why they're my friends in real life, or we met online and clicked *because* we share the same POV.

That's not true on public forums - you may be anonymous, but you don't get to "screen out" all those with whom you disagree and/or control things so you don't see their posts. One is forced to get along, so to speak, more on QVC forums than on FB ;-)

You do know that you can create different groups/categories of Friends on FB?, and post so that not every person who is your Friend sees every post you make? There are two ways to do it - by individual post (you can post to every Friend *except* - and name the people you don't want to see the post, and they won't; or you can create Friend Group A and Friend Group B and then decide which group sees a post. FB gives you choices - Everyone (on your Friends list), just Group A, just Group B, or Everyone except Max & Mary - however you choose.

[DukeBlueNan]

I only use FB to follow authors, sports teams, and book sites. Enjoy it for those updates! 

Following friends or acquaintances would drive me nuttier than I am!

[ladyroxanne]

i've been very lucky compared to many on this thread.  i think my settings are the best available

i've seen no bragging whatsover, lucky me.  i.must have good friends and family.  there is no fighting even though there are opposing views.

i can do without abused animals, sick children and anything else depressing.

i realize the good intentions behind them, but it makes me uncomfortable and i try to ignore them.

i refuse to be paranoid.  if someone wants to get me, fb is only one way.  imo 

[Moonchilde]

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@ladyroxanne wrote:

i refuse to be paranoid.  if someone wants to get me, fb is only one way.  imo 

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This ^^^

People can choose to limit their online activity, but they're only fooling themselves if they think it will make some huge difference in their "safety."

[itiswhatitis]

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@Adamlambert wrote:

I have so many people from high school who are very,very religious and people from the military on mine, who are mainly narrow minded (don't agree with my values lol ). I have wealthy people who like to brag about their fancy house, car, etc. I have regular excoworkers who like to brag about all of their possessions. As much as I say don't, I still have friends that post pix of abused or dead animals. It's just depressing and getting on my nerves. Also the bashing of my political candidate. I respect opposite opinions when they are polite.  I mainly post animal pictures & am liberal for the most part (live and let live...if it doesn't impact my life I'm not judging). Any comments? Anyone else have these issues?  I don't argue or comment on things I don't agree with, just scroll.  I've just realized that these people from 20 years ago don't really matter.  

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Seems like a lot of cheerleaders here for facebook.  All the suggestions offering you ways to trim down instead of closing.  I guess "closing your account" is unheard of.  Well, I assure you it's not unheard of because I did it already and I've never been happier @adamlambert.

[PamelaSue72]

My SIL is one of those who continually posts pictures of abused animals. I don't understand why she insists on doing so because some of those pictures have brought me to tears. FB should not be like that. Maybe that's just me, but why do people insist on posting those pictures? I don't get it. I just don't understand it.

What I do is Unfollow my SIL for a while, a couple of weeks or so. And then start to Follow her again until I can't take it anymore, then I Unfollow her again. This last time, I think it's been close to a month. You know, I don't miss seeing her posts. I really don't. That, in itself, tells me something.