Quitting Facebook for 2017 - Page 11

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

facebook purity

can block friends suggestion feed

@Laura14 wrote:
With all due respect to Facebook being what you make it, not necessarily true unless one of you can tell me how to control this.

Facebook gives you suggestions about who to be friends with and I assume also to others to friend you. I had a HUGE problem with that since a lot of those suggested people were customers of my employer. They don't need to be directed to my personal FB page.

My only friends were family and one coworker who did enjoy friending everyone including her clients. I figured that was where it was coming from since she and I were friends so I created a completely separate FB account under a new identity to stay completely private.

It's less but I still get "suggestions" for people I do know who don't need to know me or my personal life. I have ZERO friends on that account and it's not in any way linked to the other. I ended up giving up and deactivating it all.

I don't like a social media platform digging associated strangers up and directing them to connect with me especially when I and they have no reason to be in each other's personal spaces.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Nataliesgramma wrote:
@NYC Susan wrote:
@Laura14 wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom I did that but the damage was kind of done for me. They had already shown these people I am online and potentially available to friend.

It's my issue, not FB's, and I did have everything as private as I could make it but profile pics can't be privated as well as some other minor stuff and I just figured it wasn't worth it while I was working and FB was somehow pulling these people to my account.

Your profile photo doesn't have to be a photo of you. I have several friends who use photos of flowers - or their pet - or a sunset - or whatever.

I also have friends who use a variation of their real name. One uses her first & middle name, no last name. Another uses her real name, but with a slightly different spelling. And one - who is a teacher and doesn't want to be put in the awkward position of receiving friend requests from students - uses her childhood nickname. (Her friends know what that is, but her students would have no idea.)

I'm not trying to talk you into liking Facebook. I'm just pointing out that there are easy ways around some of the issues that seem to have you concerned.
I was just going to suggest doing this.......

And I just remembered that you don't have to add a profile photo - or a cover photo - at all.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

I've never had a Facebook account and don't really ever intend to (but never say never!).

The reason I don't is for most of the things people have listed here.

I don't believe most of what many people post about their personal life. They pretend to be happy and wealthy and wise, but if you know them well enough, it is simply a public facade they are putting up. I can't see the point in working so hard to convince others how great things are.

Then there are those that are ranting constantly. It could be politics (thanks but I get enough of that from Hollywood), and I get tired of it even when they are 'on my side'. It can be their personal life (love it when they post something, get negative feedback then spend time fighting with everyone in their lives). It can be just post after post of stupid stuff.

I know there are 'controls' and 'settings' to allow you to have the experience you want with the site, but quite frankly, none of it is 'safe' if the people you bring into your circle don't respect your privacy (along with the fact that nothing we enter into this little box is really private anymore).

The only real value I find in Facebook is public pages of businesses and their employees (like QVC and it's hosts, Valerie Parr Hill, etc.). I will often seek a public Facebook page to find information out about a business or company I want more information or reviews on.

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

I Facebook, I have reconnected with 2 very old and dear friends and with a group of classmates from my elementary school years. This connection enabled us to have a huge reunion party a few years back.

I ignore those who annoy me but I would never quit.

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

proudlyfromNJ · ‎05-01-2010

@Mominohio wrote:
I've never had a Facebook account and don't really ever intend to (but never say never!).

The reason I don't is for most of the things people have listed here.

I don't believe most of what many people post about their personal life. They pretend to be happy and wealthy and wise, but if you know them well enough, it is simply a public facade they are putting up. I can't see the point in working so hard to convince others how great things are.

Then there are those that are ranting constantly. It could be politics (thanks but I get enough of that from Hollywood), and I get tired of it even when they are 'on my side'. It can be their personal life (love it when they post something, get negative feedback then spend time fighting with everyone in their lives). It can be just post after post of stupid stuff.

I know there are 'controls' and 'settings' to allow you to have the experience you want with the site, but quite frankly, none of it is 'safe' if the people you bring into your circle don't respect your privacy (along with the fact that nothing we enter into this little box is really private anymore).

The only real value I find in Facebook is public pages of businesses and their employees (like QVC and it's hosts, Valerie Parr Hill, etc.). I will often seek a public Facebook page to find information out about a business or company I want more information or reviews on.

@Mominohio. Mom, just have to ask if these people you speak of are your close friends in real life? If not, why would you friend them on Facebook? They sound like people you don't care for. You don't have to see anyone's posts you don't want to see.

I am not defending Facebook as I only have about 30 friends and some are family and the young ones don't even use Facebook anymore. I would not want to see posts like you describe either.

Just wondering why you would friend them.

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@seaBreeze wrote:
Facebook is a brag-fest.

That's all I read each morning as I check in to make sure "everyone's okay."

What you will never see or hear is how bad one looks "in the morning" .... the horrible fight a couple had to get to "that perfect beach resort" .... or hear about the child who just told their mom 'where to go' as they are posing for that perfect family portrait.

I post nothing except newsworthy events--no one cares about my life or good fortune--only themselves--that's human nature.

Apparently you may have some vapid friends because that is not what I read on my wall. My friends have posted their child just came out and they are awesomely proud. Another Mom shares the cringe worthy dialogue she is overhearing between her kids. Yep my friends talk in posts as if we are in convo.

Plus I use fb for networking with other Artist as well as finalizing plans for marches or to decide where we will be meeting. We use private message which will showup on my phone so I think FB is great.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@Hayfield wrote:
I'm on Facebook but I don't post very much and most of my friends don't post very much, so I don't have a big problem with it. I don't enjoy anything political, so I just "hide" it. Nobody is going to change anyone else's mind on that subject and I certainly don't want to lose a friend over it. Some people post everything but that's not me, to each their own. I have removed some friends from my news feed as they post way too much stuff and I'm just not interested in seeing it but I'm still friends with them.

Exactly. FB doesn't *need* to be fraught with drama. People create their own drama in social media - and that goes in ALL directions.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

straykatz · ‎03-09-2010

I too love FB...it gives me a chance to communicate in an instant with family and friends back home that I can't see or speak with on a daily basis. I unfollow those who post stuff that simply doesn't interest me. I have only unfriended 1 person and only because she had such an extreme opposite VP about something and I was no longer willing to tolerate it or her hateful posts regarding her opinion about it and her opinion towards those who she does not approve of. I have never once regretted removing her from my FB.

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

I was just thinking about doing the same but I guess I'm doing

it in steps...

I just unfriended all my friends, turned off my chat and feel a sense

of relaxation.

They don't know when I'm on and off the computer, I had a public display of them knowing how many friends I have (I should of turned that off) just due

to one of my friends said "that's all you have"

I have heard is like a competition as to how many friends you have and we're not talking high school either although it seems that way sometimes.

FrostedC · ‎08-19-2016

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