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[Kalli]

ok, thanks everyone. At least I know what to recommend now. Things are different from when I first started buying and selling on e bay so I wanted to make sure my advice was current.

I appreciate your help!

[Qwackertoo]

I think sometimes it is helpful to hear about other situations with eBay or handling problems that perhaps one might not be aware of.

Kalli, I hope he was able to resolve this sale and that eBay supports him. Being a new seller on eBay . . . there are scammers out there. I've had 99% good luck buying and selling but the bad buyers & sellers are out there! The 1% are most unpleasant when you're going through it for sure!!!

[Tinkrbl44]

He can contact Ebay via phone or live online help ... let them determine if this is legit.

If this is NOT legit, he can then re-list the item to sell to someone real.

[Kalli]

Thanks again everyone! He contacted e bay and was told since there was no payment, he had some options of which he chose to offer second chance to other bidder.

I never had this problem and didn't even know you could call e bay and speak to a live person so I truly appreciate all the helpful suggestions here!

[Shorty2U]

I agree yes of course, never send the item until its paid.

BUT I can tell you this, not everyone is a scammer because the payment isn't there immediately. Some just don't pay the second they win the bid. People sometimes don't pay for days or up to a week.

(I know this because my husband sells cds and movies a lot and he has to wait for the payments sometimes. But he has never been scammed or had any attempts of anyone trying to scam him in 15 years).

[Kalli]

On 4/11/2015 Shorty2U said:

I agree yes of course, never send the item until its paid.

BUT I can tell you this, not everyone is a scammer because the payment isn't there immediately. Some just don't pay the second they win the bid. People sometimes don't pay for days or up to a week.

(I know this because my husband sells cds and movies a lot and he has to wait for the payments sometimes. But he has never been scammed or had any attempts of anyone trying to scam him in 15 years).

Shorty2U, that's great to know! I still don't understand why the buyer kept telling my son he'd paid by CC when it never showed up in Paypal, which was the payment method listed on the auction. Winning bidder insisted he'd paid but when contacted, E bay said there was no record so son shouldn't send it unless payment comes in. No payment after 2 more days of waiting.

Anyway, when the winning bidder was contacted, he told son to go ahead and cancel. Not sure how you cancel something that never arrived. Son is doing what e bay said and offering to 2nd bidder. If second bidder doesn't want it, the item will be relisted.

[Qwackertoo]

The bidder was hoping his inexperience with eBay would net him the item for FREE.

Since eBay tracks which are paid for and shows under your seller's dashboard you ""need to ship however many items"" and the little icon up in the upper right corner shows the auction(s) that you've been paid for & need to ship. Paypal does the same when you look at that transaction home page too.

[birkin baby]

On 4/7/2015 Yammy25 said:

My best advice is that you let your son handle all of this and you leave it all alone. Don't "Mommy" him or his eBay business at all !

If he is old enough to have the account and do business, then he is old enough to handle all of the problems, experiences, etc, without the guidance or assistance of dear old "Mommy".

Don't "infantilize " your son. Let him be his own man, even if he is just beginning and has to learn the hard way. He will be much better off in the future !!

He can ask his own questions, Mom. Let him be. Please don't stand over his shoulder monitoring his business.

Wow.... just wow.

[Lucibee]

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[Lucibee]

On 4/11/2015 birkin baby said:

On 4/7/2015 Yammy25 said:

My best advice is that you let your son handle all of this and you leave it all alone. Don't "Mommy" him or his eBay business at all !

If he is old enough to have the account and do business, then he is old enough to handle all of the problems, experiences, etc, without the guidance or assistance of dear old "Mommy".

Don't "infantilize " your son. Let him be his own man, even if he is just beginning and has to learn the hard way. He will be much better off in the future !!

He can ask his own questions, Mom. Let him be. Please don't stand over his shoulder monitoring his business.

Wow.... just wow.

Wow is right!